Don’t Quit On Your Blog’s Mission

Don't quit on your blog

When I started this blog, it was clear in my mind that I had something in me I could share that would be a blessing to someone out there.

I did not claim to be an expert in anything but I knew without doubts that many people would benefit from reading my printed thoughts.

With that mindset, I began writing and publishing articles on the blog…

But I made the mistake of underestimating the negative backlashes that would come from starting the blog.

Initially, I felt really hurt by the unkind things some people said to me.

“There are too many blogs out there,” I was told. “Nobody will notice yours. You are just wasting your time.”

Someone opined that he was sure I would run out of ideas within three months of starting the blog.

Another person even said he wished the blog was dead already…

Such were some of the unkind things that were said to me when I started blogging.

The painful part was that these people that said those hurtful things were not people I wasn’t acquainted with.

Despite their negative criticisms, I refused to be discouraged. So instead of the blog dieing in three months as they predicted, it is still waxing stronger three years after.

The fact that you are reading this right now is an evidence that the blog has survived the negative onslaughts.

I have not arrived yet, but I have left! Looking back now, I have every course to smile…

In the midst of the harsh criticisms I received, there have also been many positive feedbacks.

These encouraging feedbacks I received coupled with the firm belief in my blogging mission has encouraged me to keep writing the blog.

And I don’t have any plan of giving up…

By not quitting, I have gained alot in terms of knowledge and wisdom. I have grown and I’m still growing.

I have sharpened my writing skills and learning new things. I have expanded my online network and networth.

I have touched a few lives with my posts. And I have been touched as well by posts from other people.

Now I look back on the blogging journey with a broad smile. And it promises to be better…

I have overcome the hurts that would have weighed me down. I have more positive energy now.

Just like me, you might be facing negative criticisms and other challenges with your blog. But you will rise above them…

One little advice I will give to you for free is this:

If you truly believe in your blog’s mission, please don’t quit on it!

 

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Some Side Reasons You Are Negatively Criticised

Whatever you do in life, criticism is one of the ways some people will ever respond or react to you. There is no one who is reading this post right now that may not have faced criticisms in one way or another.

It is okay if the criticisms are positive, because positive criticisms give room for process or self improvements. However, it is another kettle of fish if the criticisms are largely negative.

positive criticisms

No matter how nice you are, not everyone will be happy for you when you succeed. Naturally​, because they are not happy at your good fortunes, the next thing they will try to do is to churn out negative criticisms against you.

Negative criticisms are not sweet pills to swallow, but you will keep getting them. That is because you cannot control people’s thoughts, words and reactions towards you.

The best thing to do is to learn how to how negative criticisms when they come so that you don’t have to be so frustrated by them. Understanding why people criticise you negatively, will position you better to be able to handle the unpleasant and such inconveniencing situations when they do arise.

One of the ways to appropriately manage negative criticisms is to know why people harshly criticise you in the first. So let us consider the question,

Why do people criticise you negatively?

In a recent post I made on Facebook, I opined that “The fact that some people criticise you does not mean that they hate you; they might just be jealous.”

It was my little way of saying that negative criticisms can stem from pure hatred or concealed jealousy. Obviously, there could be other reasons.

To expand the discussion, I asked the question across my social media handles, “Why do some people criticise you negatively?  Any ideas please?”

A follower who responded to the post via my Instagram handle, suggested that some people may criticise you because either they feel intimidated by you or they are afraid of you.

Thanks to that respondent, because in addition to hatred and jealousy, we can see that people may also criticise you because they feel intimidated by you or are out-rightly afraid of you.

Positive criticisms

Responses from Facebook

I received some responses via Facebook comments as well. In the following paragraphs, I will share with you the thoughts of some people that commented:

“They [criticise me negatively in order] to bring my morale down. They also know they don’t know and have what I’ve got.”

“Negative criticism is an excuse from a lazy person. Because he cannot attain that level which you are, the only encouragement he gives to himself is to criticise u negatively.”

“Some criticise you out of jealousy and some due to lack of understanding.”

“Complex, self defence, jealousy and ignorance I think.”

“Just out of envy and jealousy and  hate.”

“They do so Primarily out of envy, ignorance & lack of understanding.”

“Sometimes they may not understand me. Sometimes they may be misinformed about me. Sometimes is in their nature . Sometimes they just want to get my attention. Sometimes it just happens like that.”

“Some criticise you out of mere jealousy, while  some others criticise you based  on what  they have  heard about  you.”

Let us hear your thoughts as well. Why do people criticise you negatively?

©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne

12 Beautiful Things I learnt From Starting a Blog

12 beautiful lessons I learnt from starting ablog

When I started a personal blog a year ago, it was part of my desires to share living ideas or appropriate thoughts in a way that would inspire or be a blessing to my readers. I equally saw it as an avenue to explore my writing potentials which I presumed I had but haven’t really explored on a very large scale before.

Looking back now, I realised that apart from helping in honing my writing skills more, I have also learnt a handful of positive personal lessons which are worth sharing.

Here are some of the beautiful things I learnt from starting a blog:

  1. The ideas or thoughts you have in your head would never be a blessing to others except you shared them.

Blogging has provided me the most organized platform for sharing my thoughts beyond my nose. If you have ideas worth sharing, it is okay to consider blogging.

I am grateful to all those who have given me the feedbacks that indicated they found my posts very useful. I found too that my writings are also a blessing to me, personally. I guess there are writers who would identify with that feeling.

  1. You don’t necessarily have to be an expert in anything before you start a blog.

I wasn’t one either! But you would never get started if you think you are not an expert in your field yet. The little you know and share can be a blessing to someone out there.

I know there are specialized blogs out there. But one thing is sure: Everyone is searching; no one has all his/her questions already answered. Otherwise, no one would be reading.

  1. You are not the best, neither are you the worst blogger.

You can easily know that you are not the best blogger out there. But on the flip-side too, don’t see yourself as the worst either. Whether as an established blogger or a nascent one, I found we are all learning to do this blogging thing better.

You may feel that others are doing it better than you are doing (which may be true). But that’s not enough reason to be discouraged. And there is room for you to come on board if you haven’t started at all. The world is waiting to hear your unique voice.

  1. Until you decide to reach out to others, you will remain in obscurity.

Blogging has been an awesome avenue for me to reach out to people across the world. Once you put your thoughts out there, both people around and across the continents can access them.

Except in my dreams, I have never been to any part of Europe or Asia or America or Australia. But people in these places are reading and following my blog. Suffice to say that but for my blog, they might never have heard about me. I reached out to people and now I have people reaching out to me.

  1. Not everyone will agree with your views but there will be someone who does.

In as much as you don’t agree with every opinion that people put in your face, it is also fair enough to expect that not everyone will agree with yours. All the same, congratulations to you if you find that you have more people who agree with your views than those who don’t.

The ‘like’ and ‘comment’ parts of my post will often have a pointer to whether or not someone liked my expressed views. So if someone disagreed with me enough to leave me a comment that states so, I would often be glad about it and would take it as an invitation for further interaction.

  1. You will meet unusual people.

Except your blog is a private one, you will not be able to limit or determine those who read it. That means anyone anywhere can find your blog and read you online except it is indexed to be unsearchable on Google for instance.

In the course of the last year, I have had some atheists visit my blog. Their visit led to a series of online interaction between them and me. I later converted the interactions into several series of new posts. This was unusual for me because up till that time, I had never had any close encounter with any avowed atheist.

  1. Negative criticisms hurt but you need not let them stop you.

I would love to tell you that I have never been negatively criticized for starting a blog, but that would be a lie. I have been harshly criticized by some people who heard that I was running a blog.

Sadly enough, as I later found out, most of such people have never even read a paragraph of any of my posts. Yet they took joy in deriding my humble efforts. Sometimes, I felt hurt by those unwarranted verbal attacks. But as you can see, I have not allowed such negative responses to stop me, neither should you.

  1. In the midst of negative criticisms, there are still some nice people to urge you on.

Such wonderful souls could be found around you, or they may also be located thousands of miles away from where you are. Irrespective how much negative criticisms you get, one thing is sure, there would be someone somewhere who would appreciate your blogging efforts and would be glad to cheer you on.

There was a time I found myself complaining that I was facing too many harsh criticisms about the fact that I started a blog, a very kind human voice I met said to me, “Victor, ignore those who criticize you harshly. Don’t let them stop you.” That advice has been very helpful.

  1. Your friends and family may not be interested in reading your blog as much as you would expect them to do.

You have the freedom to expect that your friends and family members would be the most ardent followers/readers of your blog. Unfortunately, this may not always be so, as I found out.

Most followers of my blog are from across the oceans. It appears that what Jesus said about a ‘prophet not having honour in his home country’ applies in blogging too. But that awful reality should never discourage the prophet. So why should it stop the blogger?

  1. More ideas will come to you as you write your posts.

I discovered that the more posts you write and the more you read other blogs, the more inspiration you get to write more relevant pieces. Even a preacher knows that writing a sermon becomes easier as he does it over time.

No need to worry over what to write. Just get started by writing something – anything – and more ideas will begin to flow to you as you write. (As I was writing item no 5 above, I got the idea to write another item for post of which I have drafted the title and 5 supporting bullet points). You see what I mean?

  1. One little step can open several opportunities.

Through my blog for instance, I met Edmond Saganyando, who invited me to be a contributor to his blog. Some of my blog posts have been reblogged on other sites too.

From writing blog posts I have also received the inspiration to start some other worthwhile projects. I really agree that there are limitless possibilities in blogging. You may never find out until you get started.

  1. I did it, so can anyone; even you!

Starting a personal blog was a little step I took a year ago. I could say that I am better off in so many ways now than I was before I came into blogging.

What have you learnt from your experience of starting a blog? Kindly share your story.

 

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