3 Ways You Can Capture Coachable Moments With Your Kids

Parenting

As a parent, how much do you even realise that you are your children’s number one life coach? When it comes to coaching your kids, do not underestimate your role as a parent, and please do not be lazy playing that role in your children’s lives.

You may assume that your kids will know some things on their own, but then you get to find out they don’t. You may also assume that they should be taught everything in school, but at last you get to discover they weren’t. That means there is a learning gap between what they are supposed to know and what they actually do know.

In what little ways can you bridge that gap with your kids in a way that engenders good rapport between you and them? Of course, there might be many ways to that end. But in this post, I will suggest capturing the coachable moments with them.

Coachable or teachable moments’ refer to those unplanned or informal opportunities for you as a parent to have conversations with your kids or wards with the aim of helping them to solve problems or learn a good lesson they could use in life. It is about impacting valuable lessons to your kids while life is at play.

Here are 3 ways you capture the coachable moments with your kids

1. Don’t be an absentee parent

One good advice I can give you as a parent is this: be there for your kids. And I know being there for your kids can take many forms. For instance, it can be about providing for them or paying their school fees. Any average parent would score high on those.

But how about being physically available for them as their life coauch? Certainly life will throw up coachable moments, but if you are not there for them, how can you take up that little responsibitlity?

2. Look out for coachable moments

When you are there for your kids, you will often find some coachable moments to explore. They abound in  your everyday relationship or activities with them. Train your eyes (and your other senses) to recognise coachable moments with your kids and you will surely find some.

Whether you are at the dining table with them,or watching television together or you are driving them to school, always look out for coachable moments. If you are not looking for, you may pass the opportunities when they present themselves.

3. Utilise the coachable moments

When life hands you a coachable moment with your kids, please don’t flunk it. The coachable moment may come in two ways: an opportunity for you to reinforce an observed positive behaviour or correct a bad behaviour.

In either case, utilising the coachable moments enables you as parent mould your kids or wards into better version of themselves.

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As a parent, if you are there for your kids or wards, life will definitely hand you some coachable moments. Look out for such moments in your every day activities with your kids. And when you do find them, take advantage of those moments and impart lessons that will help your kids or wards become better versions of themselves


Have you had any coachable moments with your kids? Please share your experience in the comment section.

So You Are A Life Coach?

Are you a life coach?
What does a life coach do?

Just like everyone else, I have encountered many kinds of coaches in my lifetime. And they come in different colours and shades towards a given end.

I am sure you remember your math coach, dance coach, music coach, swimming coach, basketball coach, football coach, chess coach, business coach and any other kind of coach you might have come across in your life.

As far as I know, people who answer to any of the coaches above possess some identifiable, specific, special skills and experiences with which they impart other people who learn from them.

I do understand those ones…But I am a bit curious about those who call themselves a life coach. Those are the people this post seeks to understand better.

A life coach!

So you are a life coach? That sounds too enormous a title to me, and I am making some efforts to wrap my mind around it. That’s why I am asking these questions.

Are you a life coach? Can anyone, including you, fill that shoe properly?

Coaches are experts in something. Are you an expert in life? Have you mastered all about life itself in all areas to qualify as a life coach?

Can you give impeccably useful direction, guidance, instruction, training, support, to anyone and everyone in life that comes to you for help? Do you have the global picture?

Life coach…

Are you really comfortable using that term to refer to who you are and what you do? Can you let me into your world please?

Just how did you come about being refered to as a life coach? Is it a divine calling or a training, or both?

So you are a life coach, or is it just a nomenclature? Are you well rounded in all areas of life? Or shouldn’t you be?

Who certified you as a life coach? Is it God? If it is not Him, then who is the mortal that can take up that responsibility?

Speak to me! What exactly do you mean when you call yourself a life coach? I ask because I do not want to misunderstand you anymore.

You are a life coach? Is that not what they call you? Or am I the one that did not hear well?

Have you known, seen, experienced and understood life in all its ramifications? Have you been to the highest heights or descended to the lowest depths, and covered all the breadths of life?

Please don’t say I am pushing it too hard on you. I am not… I just want to know about you.

Can you help people in all areas of their lives? Can you meet people’s needs at the “spirit, soul and body” levels?

Can you excellently direct people in business, in politics, in religious, in sports, in health, in education, in entertainment, in aviation, in construction, in computing, in communication, in relationships, etc? Doesn’t being a life coach entail all of the above?

I just don’t understand you when you say you are a life coach. Should I say you might be a coach in an aspect of life and not life as a whole?

May be you should come to my aid and explain to me exactly what you mean when you say you are a life coach.

I am waiting…

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