HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR

HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR

Written By Victor Uyanwanne

Negative thinking stifles creative energy

“Happy new year” to you. If you are reading this post, it means you made it into the much awaited new year, 2016. To that extent, I would heartily say to you ‘congratulations’.

Many people begin a new year loaded with what is popularly known as ‘new year resolution’. Fortunate are you if you are one of those very few people who are always able to follow through with their new year resolution. As you are well aware of, it is widely acknowledged that a high percentage of people who make new year resolutions are unable to carry on with it till the end of the set goal.

Failure to achieve the set goal may often lead to unhappiness, regrets and even depression. For you to really have a happy new year, I have the following suggestions to put forth:

Consider what goes on in your mind. The battle of life will often being won or lost in your mind. Cultivate positive thoughts. Negative thinking stifles creative energy. “Think about what you are thinking”, someone once advised me. If any of your thoughts do not contribute to your happiness, health and wealth and that of those around you, there should be no use accommodating such thoughts. Consider your thoughts.

Your words will make or mar you. One suggestion I will give you for the new year is that you should not say negative things about you, your life or your circumstances. Your words will naturally flow from your thoughts. If you are able to cultivate only positive thoughts in your heart, speaking positive words will not be a herculean task. Consider your words because they will either speak in your favour or stand against you.

Have a clear idea of what you want to do/achieve. You can call it goal-setting if you like but it’s important you do it in this new year. It is often said that if you don’t know where you are going, you may not know when you get there. Knowing what to do and how to do it are a powerful combination that will enable you to win out during the year.

All your actions are important. Do things that tend toward the attainment of your goals. By the end of 2016, what you become or fail to become will be a sum total of what you did or failed to do in the course of the year. Therefore, it is wisdom to start watching your actions from day one, week one and month one of the new year. I am not suggesting you should be hard on yourself. But you have to try your best to do your best from the outset. That way you would be sure of getting greater value out of the new year.

Try something new. I know you like your comfort zone – most people do. But you will never experience the kind of joy that comes only from conquering new ‘territories’ if you remain in your comfort zone. As you go through the new year, try out new things; do something different from what you are used to. Expand your experience, broaden your horizon. I must add that this is not an advice to clutter your schedule unnecessarily. I know you know how far to go.

By the end of 2016, what you become or fail to become will be a sum total of what you did or failed to do in the course of the year.

HAVE A REALLY HAPPY NEW YEAR

 

©Copyright | Victor Uyanwanne

NOW THAT THE YEAR IS ENDING

NOW THAT THE YEAR IS ENDING

Written Victor Uyanwanne

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A few hours from now, we will all be bidding farewell to the year 2015 and embracing a brand new year 2016.

Just like anyone else, I know you have plenty of hopes and expectation for the coming new year. But before we finally draw the curtains on 2015, I thought we should have a few things to reflect on over the outgoing year.

I am sure there are milestones that took place in your life this year that you would not want to forget in a hurry. I for one, will remember 2015 as the year in which this blog was ‘accidentally’ started. If the feedback I get on the posts here are anything to go by, then I can gladly say that I have enough reasons to be grateful as the Sun sets on 2015.

For an average person, irrespective of the geographical location, the year 2015 presented them with opportunities for celebration or for mourning or for anything in between. No one of us is unfamiliar with such… At one point or another during the outgoing year, we all experienced the good, the bad and the ugly.

But whatever might have happened to us in 2015, let us put a positive construction to them.  That way we will not be depressed and we would be better prepared to face the challenges of the coming year. 

I said that because I am aware that not all things that happened in our lives in 2015 were all bright and beautiful. For instance, I lost my aged mum in the course of the year. So effectively I have became an orphan in this year 2015 (pushes back tears!).

I miss my mum; that need not be said. But rather than continue to wear a mournful look over her demise, I have decided to focus on the great life she lived. That way I am able to cope with the irreparable loss as I began the new journey of my life without her. (You may want to look at the Tribute To My Mother).

Likewise, the remaining hours of the outgoing year should afford you the opportunity to begin to refocus your gaze rather than having to regret over your not-so-fruitful chase in the course of the year.

Now that the year is ending, here is from me to you:

  • Find more reasons to be cheerful than you can find to be tearful.
  • Count your blessings not your loses.
  • Focus on your gains rather than on your pains.
  • Be thankful, not regretful.
  • Say ‘cheers’ rather than cry ‘jeers’.
  • Appreciate that one person that made a difference in your life rather than begrudge the multitude of people that may have disappointed you.
  • Thank God for the answered prayers rather than be bitter about the yet-to-be answered ones.
  • Think of the faces that smiled at you than the ones that frowned at you.
  • Celebrate the positive developments in your life rather than continue to regret over the negative ones.
  • Put a positive construction on the not-so-bright and beautiful things that happened to you in the outgoing year.
  • My point is: No matter how hard, find a reason to be grateful for the outgoing year 2015. That way, you will be bettered prepared to usher in the new year 2016.

Happy new year in advance.