As you may have noticed, those are not my words. They are God’s, as recorded in the Bible. You will read it directly yourself shortly.Continue reading
I recently got featured as a blog’s Parent of the Month. That happens to be the first real interview I would ever grant to any website.
I have the permission of the blog author to share the interview with you here. Enjoy it.
Welcome to our Parentinggist parent of the month. Let’s meet our guest.
My name is Victor Uyanwanne, husband to Jennifer, father of two energetic boys and an aspiring writer.
Great, can you throw more light on your writing.
For the past three years, I have been publishing posts bothering on life and living, family issues, blogging tips, poetry and many other things that tickle my fancy. My purpose is to inspire people and equip them with the right knowledge that will help them live happier.
Being a follower of Jesus Christ, the thoughts on my blogs are presented from a Christian worldview. If you want to read my writings first hand, they can be accessed via Victors’ Corner
Awesome blog, you’ve got, how do you combine your regular job, writing and family?
Thanks for the compliment. I will say, I am combining effectively well. I take my job seriously and I put in my best all the time.
Reading and writing are my top hobbies so I have fun doing both, especially at night after work and on weekends. Except because of Lagos traffic bottlenecks, anyone here should have plenty of time after work (from the close of work at 5pm daily to whenever he or she goes to bed) to do some personal things. That’s how I find time to hone my writing skills.
As for the family, I will give all the credit to my beautiful wife for holding forth strongly at the home front. She is really a gift from heaven to me; a helpmeet indeed.
Having said that, I will add that as much as possible I try to spend much time with my family whenever I’m not at work. And I usually cut out unnecessary outings. I don’t know about you, for me, family time is fun time and best time. I have two very inquisitive boys. Answering their numerous questions and bonding with them through mutual interactions have been one of my greatest pleasures as a dad.
We would like you to share some of the numerous questions from your boys, I’m sure we would benefit from them too or laugh it out.
I have had my boys asking me scores of questions. And many of those questions I answered correctly without much ado. Yet there were ones I had to think twice before answering.
For instance, one of them once asked me, “Daddy, why do we have ten fingers?” How does one answer that? Please help me out (smiles).
When they asked, “Daddy, what is the baby of a horse called?” I am ashamed to say that I had to quickly check “Google” on my smartphone before I could tell them it’s called “a foal.”
Of all the questions my boys have ever asked me, the one that impressed me most was when the older boy (then 4years plus) asked me how he could be able to make it to Heaven at the end of this life. I must say it was my privilege to lead him to Christ that Christmas morning.
Oh this is wonderful, I must say, so what advice do you have for parents who are reading this; how can we lead our kids to make Heaven?
Parents should share the simple truths of the gospel with their children and allow them to make up their mind about receiving Jesus Christ into their lives. It is not something that can be forced.
In addition, parents should always pray for their children, that they receive the Lord and follow His way. In my boy’s case, I had prayed for him even before he turned 2 years old that he would get to be born again before the age of eight. Fortunately for me, it happened much earlier than expected.
One other thing I will add is that parents should by their conducts show good examples to their children. Children are good observers and they learn alot from their parents. If we want our children to be candidates of heaven, we should not live our lives as candidates of hell.
Thank you so much for honouring our invitation.
You are welcome. The pleasure is mine.
“We learn every day,” so says that popular saying.
I know that is true in many aspects of our human endeavours. But being a relatively new parent, I have come to also realise that the statement is particularly true of parenting.
Parenting is a huge responsibility. But it is also full of opportunities to learn new things.
As parents we know that our children learn from us. But beyond that, any sincere parent would acknowledge that every now and then, he or she also learns from his or her children as well.
I have experienced it several times…
I have a three-year old and a five year old. Sometimes I set out to teach them some things and in the process I learn new things from them as well. Even I have enriched my vocabulary merely listening to them. And I believe I’m not alone here.
There have been times they asked me questions I didn’t have immediate answers for. But as I looked around for the most appropriate feedback to give to them, I got to learn new things in the process.
I also get to use my experience in guiding them. But I have since realised that experience is not enough; my experience is my experience, not theirs.
Just like many new parents, I would admit that I don’t know it all. So I am still learning… And it seems to me that every opportunity that gets created for me to teach my kids something is also an opportunity for me to learn something too – no matter how small.
Granted that when I am teaching them, I tend to do most of the talking most times. But it pays to listen to what they have to say as well. Listening is a key part of parenting. Every parent should develop the skill.
I would not say I have arrived in that respect. But I know I’m no longer where I used to be when the parenting journey got started.
Now I’m learning to be a little more open and more accommodating to their many ideas and perspectives. They don’t have their way most times (obviously, they shouldn’t). But I shouldn’t have my way all the time either.
They may not be aware yet that relating with them opens a new vista of knowledge for me. But I have come to realise that I am learning a lot from them.
So in only five years experience on the job, I am convinced that parenting is learning. That’s my perspective. What’s yours?
©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne
I just stumbled on this personal picture featured here and it brought back wonderful memories that precipitated this post.
I remember the day I snapped it exactly 3 years ago. It was at the church wedding of a very close friend.
The wedding took place at a location far away from my Lagos base. But I had to be there, irrespective of the distance.
The friend deserved the love and support I had to give, even more.
We are friends. We have been friends. We have come along way with each other and for each other as well.
There was a lot of significance to that wedding. The enduring love of the couple for instance: They loved each other against all odds. Believed in each other. Courted each other for several years. Planned being with each other for life…for better or worse.
But there were pockets of challenges here and there before the wedding – all through the courtship period – chief of which was that their families opposed the marriage.
However, in the end, the patience and the love of the couple paid off; they eventually got parental blessing for the wedding and the marriage was allowed to take place.
I was glad I was there to witness it all. I was glad that their love triumphed over all obstacles, giving all glory to God who made all things possible.
In more ways than one, I had a personal sense of fulfilment over that wedding. Mission accomplished for the couple; joy for all of us friends and family.
Even in times of doubts before the marriage, I stood with my friend and his love. Though a long tedious journey, it came to a beautiful climax: united in holy matrimony, against all odds.
I saw it coming. I prayed with them. It seemed impossible at first but it still took place in the end – happily.
When I was setting out for that wedding event, I took two days off work to enable me arrive the location ahead of time. The traditional wedding was for a Friday afternoon while the white wedding was to take place the following Saturday.
I was well prepared for the wedding. I bought a brand new pair of suit for the occasion, along side the accompanying accessories.
I was happy… I was longing to see my friend walk the aisle with his bride. A big day, it would turn out be!
On a Thursday, the day to the Friday of the traditional wedding ceremony, I arrived at the inter state bus terminal not too far from my Lagos home to begin this important journey I had looked forward to for at least three months prior.
It was midday, so I had said to my self, “In the next 5-6 hours on the road, I should be with my friend ready to cheer him on as he bade goodbye to bachelorhood.”
You know that feeling you have when someone you love is celebrating! I felt it and I felt good about it…
My close friend from way back was getting married. I had to be there in flesh and blood, with all pleasure.
Some years ago when I got married, he was with me all the way. He flew in to Abuja into my waiting arms. And then together we flew further to Sokoto where he joined me to pick my beautiful bride.
I still remember how we felt when the plane touched down at the Sadiq Abubakar III International Airport.
“So Victor you are getting married?” he had asked me. You see what I mean when I say we have come along way?
“Yes” was my heartfelt response to him. “It is my turn now, it will be yours soon,” sounding very sure of the future.
As we stepped out from the air-plane then, we were both greeted by the dry very winds of the North West and the scorching Sun of the seat of the Caliphate, with temperatures measure reaching the 40″C mark.
I had never felt so much heat before my life. But it was all well and good: I got married in Church as planned without any hitches, whatsoever!
Now it’s this friend’s own wedding, and my mind was already made up about being there. “I have to be there by all means,” I had promised myself.
And the day finally came!
There were no direct flights to the local town venue of the wedding; no airport there in the first place. So the journey had to be done by road. And I was ready to take it on, joyfully and wholeheartedly!
There was the option for me to fly to the nearest airport located at the State Capital, some kilometres away from the place, and taxi inwards to the venue. But my budget was very tight, so that idea flew away from my head as quickly as it had come.
In the end, I had to travel by road. I didn’t even see it as a sacrifice even though I had to travel several rough miles to attend the marriage ceremony. Like I said earlier, I was still happy doing it.
Unfortunately, I didn’t get there until the Friday of the traditional marriage ceremony proper. In fact I arrived in the middle of the ceremony, with friends and family already seated, appropriately dressed in colourful attires.
The event was peaceful and successful. And on the following Saturday, my friend and his bride were joined in holy matrimony to begin their life together as man and wife. I thank God, I witnessed it all.
Rewind a day backwards
As you might have observed, I arrived a day later than I had planned to. The late show up was due to a setback in transportation the day before.
That Thursday when I got to the bus park, I bought my fare ticket and sat down on the public bus waiting for the journey to begin. The waiting turned from minutes to hours, and we were still there. Not enough passengers for the bus to depart the terminal.
At the end of the day, I couldn’t continue the journey same day, else I would have to get there at very late hours. And that’s not good enough, for security reasons.
I departed from the bus park for home, forfeiting my fares – as they insisted there would be no refunds.
But I had still had to make that journey. So I shifted it to the following Friday morning. This time, I switched Inter State bus terminal.
Thankfully I didn’t have to wait for too long. So the journey began and to the glory of God, I arrived safely for the wedding, stayed with my friend as he took his bride to the altar. And together we all savoured the joy of the couple that had the enduring love that conquered all odds.
©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne
I have been a dad only for a couple of years. And in these few years, I have come to realise that parenting is a great privilege and a humbling responsibility as well.
“Anyone can be father, but it takes a special person to be a dad.”
Through its’ highs and lows as a dad, there are many lessons one can gradually learn about a dad and his children. While it is one thing to be a dad, it is another thing to be a humble dad.
This post is about being a humble dad. I believe that becoming a humble dad will make you become a better dad. Therefore I present to you
10 things about a humble dad you should know
1. A humble dad apologises to his kids when he does something wrong to them.
2. A humble dad knows he does not understand every thing his children say, but he actively seeks to understand them more.
3. Only a humble dad will acknowledge that he does not know everything; there are things he can learn from his kids.
4. A humble dad knows that he is not perfect but he still strives to be the best he can be for his children.
5. A humble dad acknowledges that his children are indeed God’s heritage in his care and he treats them as such.
6. A humble dad knows that he cannot meet all the needs of his children without support from Above so he actively seeks the help of God through prayer.
7. A humble dad knows that his children are not perfect but he has to love them despite their imperfections.
8. A humble dad forgives his children all their wrongs because he too needs forgiveness from the Father above.
9. A humble dad values his time but he doesn’t mind spending valuable time with his children.
10. A humble dad knows that he is not just a father, he is also a teacher who should take delight in teaching things to his children.
What is your own idea about being a humble dad? Tell us what you think.
©Copyright 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne
Gentle warning: This post is extremely personal. But don’t take it personally.
My well-thought out humble conclusion then was that:
As for me, I see marriage as a calling I had to embrace because I could never have been totally satisfied with a lifelong celibacy.
To put things in a clearer perspective, I am using this post to advance five reasons I believe that I could not have been completely satisfied if I had remained single for life.Continue reading
Have you ever checked out my About page? I thought I should ask you that question and then offer you a veritable opportunity to do it if you haven’t already done so. But even if you have read it before, you still have something to gain by reading it again.
For most blogs, the about page is usually one of the most frequently checked-out pages. This blog is not an exception to that behavioural pattern.
Over the past several months that I have been writing on this blog, there have been concrete evidence that my about page has been frequently visited, read, liked or commented on. This is your chance to read it (again).
My name is Victor Uyanwanne. I live in Lagos, Nigeria with my wife and two kids.
You are warmly welcome to my blog, Victors’ Corner – a blog dedicated to providing wholesome inspiration for the family, life, and living – from a Christian worldview.
The name, Victors’ Corner, has a little history behind it. But here it suffices to say that it serves as a reminder that YOU ARE A VICTOR.
Yes, you are a victor, not a victim! So am I, and every one of us here. Why did I say that? Because God has never made a failure! You are definitely not a failure! Take that from me.
Here on this blog, you will find items on Inspiration, Christian living, lively Poems, Family, blogging matters and any other thing that tickles my fancy packaged to enrich your life, with a view to inspiring you to living like a victor that you are.
Let us enjoy the victorious journey together. Feel free to explore the blog as you like. I am sure you will find something beneficial to you, your friends and family.
We are VICTORS together in this CORNER. Let’s continue to inspire each other unto greater things. Your feedback is important to me, so leave me a comment or two as you read my thoughts.
You don’t have to agree with me if my views on this blog differ from yours. But if you ever disagree with me, let me know too. We have a lot to learn from each other.
On the other hand, if you like any of my posts, let me know by hitting the like button below every post. I am sure your friends will like it too, so don’t forget to share it with them.
Do have a rewarding experience here on Victors’ Corner!
Your comments and suggestion are welcome.
This post was inspired by Tikeetha’s Welcome to my world
Based on the posts with the highest number of likes, here are the summaries of the top 10 posts on this blog in 2016:
- When you blame your spouse for everything that goes wrong in your marriage, you paint the false picture that you are perfect.
- You hurt your spouse’s feelings when you heap the blame on him/her every time, without taking any responsibility yourself.
- You risk being resented by your spouse if you continue the blame game.
- As you already know, you will not be able to build a happy and healthy relationship with anyone if you blame or resent him/her a lot.
- Blaming your spouse does not solve the problem in your marriage.
- Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated.
I want to be a happy father to my children and a happy husband to my wife. After all, a grumpy man would not make a good companion to anyone – family or not family. This is part of the reason I have realised that I should strive to always have my emotions under control…
It seems logical to think that unhappy parents may not be able to raise happy children. And I don’t want to be caught in that web.
Distinguished and best-selling Author, Rick Warren, in one of his devotional articles, stated that there are three levels of knowing God: recognition, acquaintance, and friendship.
To know someone deeply, you have to regularly talk to, or spend time with, him or her. Knowing God deeply is not different from that. Except you are willing to regularly fellowship with God, talk to Him as a friend and let Him talk to you too, you may never get to know Him at the deepest level possible.
Various situations could arise in your marital relationship that may want to force a communication gap between you and your spouse. But don’t allow for a breakdown in communication between you both. If communication fails, many other things will fail along.
- In a thorny situation in your marriage, know that your spouse is not the thorn.
- If your spouse wears an unusual outlook, you as the other half should show persistent care (by asking) to find out what the problem is.
- If your spouse slows down in communicating with you, that’s not the time for you to withdraw from him/her.
- Be strong for your spouse by whispering to him/her that you are there for him/her
Jesus was more than a baby. He is the God-incarnate. As the Saviour of the world, in Him lies the eternal hope of mankind. Here are some special things about Him that set Him apart from any other man in recorded history:
- Jesus’ miraculous conception by a virgin.
- His conception by a virgin and birth were both undeniable fulfilment of Prophecies.
- He wasn’t born to earthly royalty, but angels heralded His birth.
- The birth of Jesus is the proof of God’s love for the world.
- Jesus was born to die.
- Jesus is the only man in history with the complete tripartite cycle of birth, death and resurrection.
- He is the only one giving eternal life to anyone who believes in Him.
There’s one thing I have come to know.
Many friends will always come and go.
Their going away may not be caused by strife.
It is a normal phenomenon of this life…
We can always find a friend in the Lord Jesus,
Who has promised He’ll always be there for us.
Whatever we go through in this time and space,
We can get succour by looking unto His face
A problem is a problem and your spouse is your spouse. Please don’t mistake one for another.
Next time you have any marital issue, be sure to remind yourself that your spouse is not the problem. Identify what the issue is and focus on tackling it.
If you don’t want to end up in the wrong destination, you should not continue on the journey in the wrong direction. The prodigal son found his back to his father, so can you! If you are an atheist, here are 16 sobering truths I wish you to know:
- God exists – whether you believe it or not.
- To know God, check the Bible
- God loves you, I thought you should know.
- God is not angry with you.
- Jesus Christ is the only Way to God.
- You are not the first person to doubt the existence of God.
- The Bible has a word for anyone who doesn’t believe there is God…FOOL.
- There have been people who turned from atheism to God and so can you.
- Your lifetime is your only opportunity for you to know God.
- Whatever misgivings you have about God can be handled.
- God has numerous children and He has room for you too.
- If you die today, where would you spend eternity?
- The problem of sin cannot be solved except in Christ Jesus.
- You are accountable to God, now or later.
- There is a future reality called Hellfire, for everyone who rejects Jesus.
- Very far from God is not too far yet.
For many years, I went about my life
With a broken piece of heart, bleeding.
No one could fill the great void I felt
Or mend the awfully shattered part of me…
But then I met the greatest Friend and Lover
Who truly loved me as I am, unconditionally.
The One who gave up His life for me
And gave me a brand new heart too.
Everyone needs forgiveness. On the other hand, everyone needs to offer forgiveness too. Here are 5 simple reasons you should learn to forgive others:
- God has forgiven your offences and He expects you to forgive others too.
- Unforgiveness is a big weight, free yourself from it.
- Don’t you expect others to forgive you too?
- Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix.
- You have the capacity to forgive, no need pretending otherwise.
- Forgive yourself so you can forgive others.
Thank you for reading. Please feel free to comment.
©CopyRight 2017 | Victor Uyanwanne
No matter who or how old you are
Know that you are surely a shining star.
No matter what you have been told.
Be happy, you are not yet too old.
Do not let your perceived old age
Make you feel like a bird in a cage.
That you have been around for a while
Is enough reason to make you smile.
You have seen many life’s seasons
That have given you multiple reasons
Which we see have made you wise
In yours, and in our youthful eyes.
Try and forget the pain of yester years
And your many treacherous days of tears.
Rejoice in the moments you have and now.
Please find out if you don’t know how.
To you Facebook may look like magic.
Without it doesn’t mean your life is tragic.
Even if all you ever knew was a real ‘picture book’.
Smile as your grandsons splash your pictures on Facebook.
You may not have known how to tweet
But hasn’t your life been very sweet?
Even if yours hasn’t been a life of ease
Be you not bitter to your grave, please.
Before you ultimately return to your Maker.
Or become an item for the undertaker
Endeavour to heal all known sores.
And seek not to settle old scores.
It is true you have come of age.
But don’t quit being happy at this stage.
Even though your journey has been bumpy
You are never too old to be happy.
©CopyRight 2016 | Victor Uyanwanne