“Should I Remove This Baby?” A Real Life Question From Someone Contemplating An Abortion

In a Nigerian online forum, I joined in an interesting conversation initiated by a young man who got a lady pregnant out of wedlock. He and his partner were contemplating having an abortion but had not made up their minds about it. The man decided to seek useful advice from members of the forum.

Hear him:

“I have an issue bugging me and I need some serious advice because I have been very indecisive so far.

There is a lady I’m seeing. She came to my place a few weeks ago and we had sex, first with condoms and later without condoms… A few weeks later, she called to say she is pregnant [although I gave her money to buy a popular contraceptive drug]…

At this moment, we are considering removing the baby. While I have been very indecisive, she has agreed to go with whatever decision I take and has spoken to a doctor who will do [the abortion].

However, I am unsure as of this moment if I want to go on with this because even though I am done with [schooling], I do not think I have gotten to that point where I can shoulder more responsibilities… And I really do not know who to turn to when I am unable to provide for the both of them.

What do you guys think? Do I go on with this or just let the baby be?”

There goes the big question! Now lets talk about the answers.


As expected, a number of people commented to advise the young man. The pieces of advice came in different shades and colours. But they can be distilled into two:

  • Those who said the guy should carry on with the abortion plan; and
  • Those who advised against having an abortion.

In this post, I’m interested in the latter group. The reason is simple: Long time readers of this blog will have noticed that I’m pro-life.

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