5 Simple Ways to Honour Your Father on Fathers’ Day

It’s that time of the year when we celebrate our fathers – on Fathers’ Day, every third Sunday in the Month of June.

Why Fathers’ Day?

It is the day set aside to honour fathers around the world for their positive influences in our lives and their immense contribution to the society.

Despite the prevailing Covid 19 pandemic, we can still celebrate our Fathers. The lockdown should not make us forget them on Fathers’ Day.

We all have fathers or father-figures in our lives. Let’s do something special to honour them, appreciate them; show immense gratitude to them.

Talking about gratitude, we can begin with a heart of gratitude to our Heavenly Father, God. He alone deserves all praises, glory and adoration forever and ever.

And to our earthly fathers, this is the time to show them love, I mean special love. Let’s remember them in our prayers and also reach out to them with our material blessings.

Can you remember the countless times your daddy bought gifts for you when you were growing up? He bought gifts for you on your birthdays when you were celebrating and sometimes when you weren’t even celebrating anything.

Fathers are special but they have remained under-appreciated. They spend their lives protecting, providing and guiding us in life.

Even if you no longer have a living father, there must be someone in your life that you see as a father-figure. Reach out and honour him on this occasion of Fathers’ Day.

I wish I could list all the things you could do to honour your daddy on Fathers’ Day. But I believe you can thoughtfully come up with simple or creative ways to honour him.

If you are still stuck, let me give you a few more suggestions:

5 Simple ways to honour your Father and father-figures on Fathers’ Day

1. Call him on that day to wish him a happy Fathers’ Day.

This call is particularly necessary if you don’t live  in the same city with him any more, or if you can’t physically visit him as a result of the  restriction in movement in some places occasioned by the Covid 19 pandemic. Just call and tell your dad that he still means a lot to you.

2. Buy a special gift for him.

Think of something special your dad will appreciate as a gift and have it presented to him this time. Even if it’s something he can afford on his own, you will still be appreciated for the thoughtful act.

3. Prepare a special meal for him or if he likes eating out, you can give him a treat away from his dinner table.

Men like it when delicious meals are specially prepared for them. And your dad is not an exception. So treat him to a special meal this time around.

Does he have a favourite restaurant, he has been longing to go? If yes, end that longing and make it an real experience for him.

4. Visit him with your kids (his grand children).

I’m yet to see a dad who wouldn’t like his grandchildren to visit him. So to honour your father on this Fathers’ Day, you can take your children to visit their grand father. Lovely memories will be created from such visits.

5. Spend quality time with your dad.

When was the last time you were in your Father’s presence for at least two hours in a row? I know life is demanding and so you haven’t really had the time to be with your daddy. Now let this Fathers’ Day be a good excuse for you to spend time with your dad.


The point has already been made: it’s Fathers’ Day, so honour the fathers and father-figures in your life, with special honour.

Show them you love them. Make them feel special because they are!

On the occasion of this year’s Fathers’Day, do whatever is within your capacity to make your dad (or the father-figures in your life) feel special.


In what other ways can we honour fathers on Fathers’ Day? Let the conversation continue in the comment section.

On Premarital Sex And  Steve Harvey’s 90-Day Rule

As the Covid 19 lockdown continued to last, I found myself watching several short clips from the very popular Steve Harvey Show on Facebook. While I had many moments of inspiration and entertainment watching selected episodes of the show, I also had a few moments that I had to say, “No Steve, I beg to differ.”

Steve Harvey on the set of Steve Harvey Show.
Steve Harvey

Please don’t misunderstand me; I am not knocking Steve Harvey here; he is a well-loved celebrity comedian with huge fans across the globe.

I’m just saying that in as much as I like him and his inspiring show, there are areas where our individual beliefs do not align. Hang on, I will explain what I mean in a moment.

Steve Harvey is a funny man, everybody knows that. You could not watch him in his elements without being enthralled by his witty sense of humour. But let’s save that gist for another day and focus on the issue at hand.

During his TV shows, Steve gives out relationship advice to his teeming studio audience (and by extension to viewers at home), especially during the “Hey Steve” segment of the show.

That’s the segment where Steve entertains some questions from some members of the audience. He then provides answers in terms of a personal advice on how to deal with the issues being asked about.

A member of the audience on Steve Harvey Show asking a question

While, I would agree with many of his perspectives, there are clearly instances were I would disagree with him. For instance on the issue of sex while dating, I feel differently from how Mr. Harvey would advise his audience.

To the best of my knowledge, I believe that sex while dating, (premarital sex) is illicit sex. And such should not be encouraged, especially amongst Christians.

As a disciple of Jesus Christ, I stand with the Biblical position that encourages young people to wait till they are married before engaging in sexual activities.

However, going by what I heard on several episodes of the Steve Harvey Show that I watched, it would appear to me (correct me if I’m wrong) that Steve Harvey does not have any qualms with people having sex while dating (before they get married, whether or not marriage is in the picture).

Another reason I’m convinced that uncle Steve, as his teeming fans prefer to call him, supports premarital sex is the principle behind his 90-day rule of sex. Let’s talk about it here.

Steve Harvey’s 90-day rule

While Harvey is okay with you having sex with someone you are dating, what he seemed to advise (as a lady) is that you should not make it happen so early in the dating relationship. And that’s where the question of his so-called 90-day rule comes in.

Most often than not, many of the people who ask him questions about dating relationships would usually make reference to the “90-day rule,” which I learnt Harvey strongly espoused in his book, Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.

Let me state upfront that I haven’t read the book (yet). However, one source claims that through that book, “Steve Harvey… has inspired women around the world to hold off on sex for 90 days upon entering a new relationship, in order to get the respect they deserve, and land a man who is truly all in.”

Sex while dating = Steve Harvey's 90-day rule.

“Often referring to sex as the “cookie”, Steve Harvey suggests that women keep the cookie in the cookie jar for a probationary period of 90 days, causing men to have to prove themselves, work for and earn the benefits.”

That sounds great or not? Your answer will depend on what you believe and where you are in your relationship with God. As for me, you must already know where I belong – if you have been reading along with me.

Before we proceed further, let’s go over the import of the 90 day rule again:

  • A girl in a dating relationship with a guy should not have sex with the guy for at least the first 90 days of their being together.
  • The reason for this is so that the guy will prove his commitment to the lady and earn sex as a reward.
  • The girl is thereafter free to offer sex to the guy once he has proven his commitment to the girl by waiting for the 90 days.

Some ladies around the world might have been applying this rule, but that does not mean it is one hundred percent right. Again, your sense of right or wrong is a function of your beliefs and relationship with God.

In my own opinion, this rule puts the burden of holding off sex for 90 days on women. But I think it is supposed to be a joint responsibility of the man and woman involved.

Secondly, the rule doesn’t prohibit premarital sex; it only says to delay it for the first 90 days of meeting a guy. After that, the lady is free to engage in sex with the guy, if he passes the waiting test.

But are believers in Christ supposed to follow this rule too? Frankly speaking, I do not think so. The simple reason is that God has called believers to a higher standard of sexual purity.

What the word of God teaches

1 Corinthians 6:18

Anyone who doesn’t have any qualms with sex before marriage may be okay with the Harvey’s 90-day rule. But anyone who believes that sex should wait till marriage will think differently. The latter will know that the issue at hand is not a question of how long or short you have to hold off sex while dating but a question of an event (marriage) having taken place before doing the do.

Anyone who sees himself or herself as a true follower of Jesus Christ should belong to the latter category. A true believer in Christ should not support or practice sex before marriage or sex outside marriage.

In his letter to the Corrinthians, Apostle Paul gives the following advice:

Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP

Bible scholars tell us that “the word translated as “sexual immorality” or “fornication,” is the Greek word porneia, which means “illicit sexual intercourse.”

It is clear from the above that God doesn’t want us to court sexual immorality. And premarital sex is sexual immorality, which is an illicit sexual intercourse. And in the context of this discourse, “run away from sexual immorality” could be read as, “run away from premarital sex.”

Unfortunately, many people today who frown against adultery (sex with someone other than your spouse) do not give a hoot about premarital sex (fornication) which is sex before or without marriage.

Steve Harvey

This same issue recently came up in one online forum that I contributed to. A bewildered participant had asked, “Why has premarital sex become a norm in our society today?”

Here was my contribution in the discussion that ensued:

…Our sense of morality has been decaying over the years. But anyone who is born again knows that premarital sex is not normal; it is a sin against God.

For those who say that premarital sex is okay because of civilisation, my answer to them is that civilisation is not the same thing as promiscuity.

As I would often say, both premarital sex and extramarital sex are the devil’s ideas. Those who love God should desist from such.

Does that mean God doesn’t want His children to have sex? No, of course God wants it, because He created it. But He approves of sex only within the confines of marriage.

So take it or leave it, anyone who has sex with someone he or she is not married to is having an illicit sex. And illicit sex is a sin against God.

In a way, this should bother you, except of course if you have no iota of the fear of God in you.

Conclusions

God doesn’t hate sex, but He wants you to be married before engaging in it. So if you are a child of God and you want to live as one, you should know that despite the popularity of Steve Harvey’s 90-day rule, marriage is the only God-approved license for sex.

Until someone marries you, he or she has not acquired the right to be intimate with you. So the correct rule to follow while dating is really not about holding off sex for only 90 days, but about holding off completely until you are married.

Whether the time from when you meet your dating partner to the time you get married is exactly 90 days, less than 90 days or more than 90 days, the right thing for you to do is to wait until you are married before engaging in any sexual activity. Anything short of that is living below the good standard God has set for you.


What’s your take on the 90-day rule in a dating ?

Ravi Zacharias, A Good Christian Soldier Goes Home

“Ravi Zacharias, who spent his life defending Christianity through books and lectures, has died. He was 74.”

That was how CNN reported the death of internationally renown Christian apologists, Dr Ravi Zacharias on 19 May, 2020.

Before seeing that post, I was already aware of that news via an earlier blog post on Bruce Cooper’s Reason Cases for Christ. And my first reaction was, “We have lost a great Christian apologist. Ravi will be greatly missed…”

A friend of mine who is also an ardent admirer of Ravi’s, reacted in a similar tone: “Yeah, Ravi will be greatly missed. His contribution to Christian Apologetics was immense.”

Although I never got to meet him personally in his lifetime, I have read a couple of his articles and also listened to his recorded audio or video messages.

In all, I am convinced that Ravi was a man of very deep spiritual convictions.

He was a good soldier of Christ who travelled across several seas, oceans and mountains around the world propagating and defending the gospel of Jesus Christ. He was not afraid to tackle difficult questions around the Christian faith and was willing to engage the thinker at their level.

He even founded an organisation whose driving “goal is to touch both the heart and the intellect of the thinkers and influencers in society by tackling some of the toughest questions about faith and providing thoughtful answers.”

From the time he made the full commitment to follow God at the tender age of 17, he never looked back till he breathed his last at the ripe age of 74 years old, in sharing the Gospel.

An obituary statement from his organisation, RZIM, sheds a little light on Ravi’s lifelong passion for sharing the gospel of our Lord, Jesus Christ:

“…It was the culmination of a remarkable transformation set in motion when Zacharias, recovering in a Delhi hospital from a suicide attempt at age 17, was read the words of Jesus recorded in the Bible by the apostle John: “Because I live, you will also live.” In response, Zacharias surrendered his life to Christ and offered up a prayer that if he emerged from the hospital, he would leave no stone unturned in his pursuit of truth. Once Zacharias found the truth of the gospel, his passion for sharing it burned bright until the very end. Even as he returned home from the hospital in Texas, where he had been undergoing chemotherapy, Zacharias was sharing the hope of Jesus to the three nurses who tucked him into his transport.”

In the passing on to glory of Frederick Antony Ravi Kumar Zacharias, the Christian world has lost a great man who was inbued with both the intellectual and spiritual capacities to advance Christian Apologetics not only in friendly Christian circles but also in not-so-friendly political and academic arenas.


What’s your opinion about Ravi Zacharias’ passing on to glory?

Six Different Tests You Can Use When Making Decisions (According to Pastor Rick Warren)

Every day you are presented with the opportunity to make certain decisions. Sometimes, you know what to do and sometimes you don’t.

Sometimes your decisions come out good and you are glad. But sometimes, your decisions bring you nothing but guilt and shame, of which you are sad.

How can you avoid the trap of making those decisions that will make you regret at the end of the day?

Are there simple checks you can carry out to be sure you will not make decisions that end up bringing you shame and guilt?

This post will get you (more) aquainted with the necessary questions you should ask yourself before committing to a decision.

In his Daily Hope Devotional, best-selling author, pastor Rick Warren outlines six different tests you can use when making decisions:

How to make beneficial decisions

1. Ideal Test:

Is this in harmony with God’s Word?
For many decisions, the Bible offers instructions or a clear principle to follow. When you’re making a decision, consider whether God’s Word speaks directly to what you should do.

2. Integrity Test:

Would I want everyone to know about this decision that I’m making?
When you’re a person of integrity, who you are on the inside matches who you are on the outside. Who you are in private is the same as who you are in public.

3. Improvement Test:

Will this make me a better person?
In your life, you often won’t be choosing between good and evil, but between better and best. Have a high standard and fill your life with the best.

4.Independence Test:

Could this begin to control and dominate my life?
Even if something isn’t bad on the surface, it’s bad for you if it becomes an addiction. Christ is the only one who deserves control in your life.

5. Influence Test: 

Will this harm other people?
Our culture asks: What do you need? But God demands that you think of other people, too. If a decision you make will harm other people, it’s the wrong decision.

6. Investment Test:

Is this the best use of my time?
You don’t have time for everything, and God doesn’t expect you to do everything. Figure out the mission God has for you. Invest your time in that.


Which one of the above tests appeals to you most?

Dealing With The Time Element Involved In God’s Promises For Our Lives

When we talk about God’s promise for our lives, we refer to “a solemn pledge, [by God] to perform or grant a specified thing” based on His grace and faithfulness.

As children of God, we have various promises He has promised to perform in our lives. And as you already know, these promises do not take place automatically; a time element is usually involved.

There is always a time lag between when the promises were given and when they are fulfilled in our lives. And it makes a lot of difference how we handle this period in between.

How then do we handle this time element? In her book, “Possess Your Promised Land,” Fuchsia Pickett gives us the following advice:

“We must be careful not to allow unbelief to grow during a time period that seems to delay the promise of God. God uses time as a tool for the testing of our hearts to bring us into dependence on his supernatural power and childlike trust in His ways.”

Therefore in dealing with the time element involved involved in the promise of God for your life, you must at least do the following:

  • Don’t allow unbelief to begin to grow in you. In other words, stay in faith;
  • Realise that the time element is being used to test your heart’s commitment to God to bring you to trust in Him completely.

God’s promises are sure. But you have to properly position yourself to receive their fulfillment:

You must pass the test: trust God completely and wait patiently for His timing.

This is in line with the teachings in Hebrews chapter 6 verses 11-12, where faith and patience are mentioned as the two ingredients we need to apply to inherit the promise:

“We want each of you to show this same diligence to the very end, so that what you hope for may be fully realized. We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.”
Hebrews 6:11‭-‬12 NIV


What do you think?

The Church Girl 1 – A Book Review

Thanks to the covid 19 lockdown, I was finally able to have the needed free time to rummage through my bookshelf for some books I had always wanted to read but never had the sufficient time to do so.

One of such books was The Church Girl. I was delighted to still have the autographed copies, which I had erroneously assumed had been ‘borrowed’ off the shelf.

The texts in the following paragraphs are my humble attempt at reviewing the book.

About The Book

The Church Girl 1 is about Mary, an orphaned teenager who was saddled with the enormous task of fending for herself and her three siblings.

She soon felt that life had given her more responsibilities than she could shoulder alone. But who would help her out?

Books by Ufuomaee

In her quest for some financial help, she approached her pastor, a very popular man of God in town.

But this unscrupulous pastor took advantage of Mary’s vulnerability by extracting an agreement from her that she would meet the pastor’s ‘needs’ in exchange for whatever financial support he would provide for her.

That marked the beginning of a covert intimate relationship between the 16-year old girl and the pastor, which lasted for the next six years…

Unfortunately, this type of situation often plays out in real life in some our churches’ leaderships, where some so-called men of God do immorrally take advantage of their innocent members.

But sexual sin should not be condoned amongst the clergy. Wherever such exists, I think there should not be cover-ups any more.

Let the truth be made known and let justice prevail, where necessary.

What happened to Mary?

All hell was let loose after Mary met Ifeanyi whom she thought could be the man of her dreams and more. But just when she was being introduced to the would-be suitor’s family, she was discovered to be pregnant for the randy pastor Bolaji.

About the same period, although now newly born again, Ifeanyi’s past began to hunt him; to his dismay, he found out that his ex girlfriend was expecting his baby.

And this other girl was poised to spoil the show for him by all means…

How did Mary and Ifeanyi navigate through these awkward situations?

Did they get to fulfill their burning desires to be joined as man and wife?

Or did they painfully go their separate ways?

What happened to pastor Bolaji? Was he exposed?

What about Ifeanyi’s ex, Ijeoma? Was she able to scheme her way back to Ifeanyi’s life? Or was she destined to be with another man?

The answers to these questions formed the intrigues that vividly played out on the pages of the book.

My favourite character

Unlike in other books by the same author that I previously reviewed, I could not choose a favourite character from The Church Girl 1.

There were things to learn from each of the characters but quite honestly I couldn’t make up my mind on whom to confer the award of the favourite character.

About the Author

Ufuoma Emerhor-Ashogbon
Ufuomaee – Author of The Church Girl 1&2

The Church Girl 1 is another Christian genre classic contribution from beautiful Ufuomaee.

You will remember her if you have been a long time reader of this blog because I have also reviewed some of her books in the past.

Ufuomaee is also the author of The House Girl and Perfect Love  and the prolific writer of the blog, Grace and Truth.

Final thoughts

The Church Girl 1 was written in a simple, easy to read and understand narrative. It has plenty of life’s lessons that could be learned from it, especially from a Christian worldview.

Therefore, I will not hesitate to recommend it to everyone, especially to young adults and parents.


Thank you for reading!

You can share your own thoughts in the comment section.

In His Resurrection

In His birth
Divinity became enwrapped in humanity
For the salvation of mankind.

In His death
Divinity suffered in the hands of humanity
Paying the price for the salvation of mankind.

In His resurrection
Divinity had Him forever established
As the only Saviour of mankind.


©2020|Victor Uyanwanne

Are You Restrategising For The Life After Covid 19 Lockdown

How will your life change after the covid 19 lockdown? Or is it possible that it’s not going to change at all?

As you know, this lockdown is not going to continue forever. At some point in future (no matter how long that will take), the stay-at-home order will be lifted.

When that happens, what are you going to do? Go back to life as usual? Or make some necessary changes?

I guess you will have to make some adjustments to the way you live your life.

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One effect of the covid 19 lockdown is that it has already reshaped the way we do things. And I’m convinced that life is not going to be the same for most of us after this experience.

If that is so, I will advise you to make some changes to your life’s plan or else the change might have to be forced on you.

For that you have to do some restrategising. This will be further addressed in the next post.

Use this lockdown period to think about your life, reorder your priorities, set new goals for your career, family, business, education, relationship, etc.

After the covid 19 lockdown, please don’t be afraid to implement some positive changes to your life. 


What do you say?

Jesus Still Died And Resurrected

Coronavirus lockdown or not, Jesus still died and resurrected. We shouldn’t stop talking about it, no matter the condition we find ourselves.

A few days from now, Christiandom will be celebrating the Easter, an annual event to mark the death and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ.

In times like this, even though it may seem that the coronavirus pandemic is taking the shine off the event, it doesn’t change the historical fact that Jesus still died and resurrected.

Easter celebration is important because without the resurrection of Jesus Christ, Christianity would be another dead religion. As Paul wrote in his first letter to the Corrinthians,

“if Christ has not been raised, then our preaching is vain [useless, amounting to nothing], and your faith is also vain [imaginary, unfounded, devoid of value and benefit—not based on truth].” 1 Corinthians 15:14 AMP

While we stay locked down at home over the Covid 19 scare, it should not prevent us from appreciating and celebrating the benefits of the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ for us.

So join me to say All hail king Jesus who died to redeem us.

Happy Easter celebration to you all.

7 Broad Ways To Maximise Your Life During A Lockdown

The city where you live or work may be on a lockdown but your life should not be on a shutdown. Even as much movement is restricted, there are things you can do within your home to maximise your life during the lockdown.

Due to the covid 19 pandemic movement of people around the world has been largely restricted. The slogan is now “stay at home”,  “stay safe,” or “work from home.”

However, not everyone is equipped with the facility to work from home. So apart from working, what else can you do to maximize your time at home in a period of lockdown?

How to use your time well during a lockdown

In a previous post on this blog, I advanced some broad guidelines to maximise your time at home during a lockdown. This post is my attempt at throwing more light into the ideas broached in that introductory post.

Let’s enjoy the ride together.

1. Do things that will rejuvenate you

In this fast-paced world, an average human being is stressed out, overstretched and overused. Now that you are on lockdown, I would expect that you make deliberate effort at renewing your energy.

There are three areas of your life that you should touch in this regard: spirit, soul and body.

As a human being, you are a spirit, you live in a body and you have a soul. How much have you taken good care of these individual parts of you over the years?

Here are my suggestions on how you can rejuvenate you:

Exercising at home during a lock down

A) Your spirit – be in tune with your Creator. Develop/maintain a personal relationship with Him. Worship Him. Talk to Him in prayer. Seek to know Him more by studying His Word.

B) Your body – This is the time to stay long in bed without feeling guilty; have maximum sleep/rest hours. Eat healthy foods and engage in appropriate physical exercises.

C) Your soul – read as many relevant books as you can during this period. Meditate too (here I mean, imaginative thinking, not emptying your mind). Also engage in writing. Just write.

2. Do things that can rekindle your lost or strained relationships of interest

I can understand that because you have been so busy all these years, you didn’t have the time to nurture or maintain some relationships that might have been mutually beneficial to you and the other person. Please use this lockdown period to reach out and rebuild.

Of course I know your movement has been restricted to your house so physical visitation to someone is out of the question. But thank God for technology, we have super fast ways to contact people that interest us.

Ways to rekindle a relationship.

Make a call, send a text message or chat, send an email communicating your love and care. I guarantee you the feeling and outcome will be worth it for you (and the person on the other side).

If you don’t know who to start with, let me give you some ideas: your parents, siblings, uncle or aunt that you haven’t spoken with (at least) in the last three months.

What about people that the only time you talked to them was to say Merry Christmas or Happy New Year two years ago? Call them now and have a normal conversation with them.

Practical Exercise:

Before you continue reading, please pull out your pen and writing pad now. Write down the names of 5 to 10 people you should contact immediately either through phone call (strongly recommended), text messages, online chats or email.

Reach out to them once you are done reading this post. I will be overjoyed to hear your feedback.

Sexual satisfaction in marriage

3. Pay more attention to your spouse’s emotional needs

Prior to this time, you have been so busy you have not given sufficient attention to satisfying your spouse’s emotional needs. Lockdown has changed everything now.

With the lockdown, there is enough time to focus on specially loving your spouse. Give each other maximum pleasure and satisfaction.

You don’t have any excuse not to engage in love-making with your spouse during this lockdown period. Do it well and do it often.

Let down your guards and be vulnerable to each other. Listen to whatever your spouse has to say, after all you are not running late for any meeting now.

4. Have more family time

The lockdown has afforded you more time to spend with your entire family. Use it to engage in activities that promote bonding more with your spouse and your children.

You will have noticed that you have missed out a lot from the goings-on in their lives while you were busy with your career, job, business, education or whatever it is that had kept you away from your family before the lockdown.

Now that you are around at home with them, play educational games together. Watch family-friendly movies together. Eat together. Pray together. Study the Bible together.

Family eating together, praying together.

Tell stories to your kids and let them share their own thoughts too. Ask them about their friends, their interests and ambitions.

No judging – just listen to them. You will have a good laugh listening to them.

5. Reach out with a helping hand to some needy persons around you

Let’s face it, the lockdown has caused much economic hardship to some people around you or a far off. It’s time to reach to such people.

Not everyone is as blessed as you are. Even if you think these are not the best times for you economically, remember that there are people that are worse off than you are.

Bottom line, no matter your economic estate, you can still reach out and bless someone around you with whatever you have. Be it some items of groceries or sanitary items, I’m sure they will be received with appreciation.

Some people will need money, so you can do a bank transfer to their accounts. (Thanks to all the celebrities who reports monitored on social media show that they have been transfering some funds to the accounts of some of their poor followers).

6. Learn a new skill

This lockdown period is not too short for you to acquire a new skill or improve on existing ones. And you don’t need to be in a formal classroom to achieve that goal.

In this age of information technology, you can learn virtually anything online. The videos are there on YouTube for free. Just search search out the one you want and get started.

For instance, you can learn, or improve on your knowledge of, excel spreadsheet, power point presentation, photo-editing, etc.

How about topping up your culinary skills? Can’t you learn how to make ice cream at home during this lockdown? What about dough-nut, pop corn and your other favourite snacks at home?

Whatever it is you have to learn within this available time, just learn it. No more excuse of “I don’t have enough time…”

What I wish for you is to be better equipped when you emerge at the other side of the lockdown. Make it possible.

Post lockdown restrategising

7. Begin to re-strategise or plan for your life post-lockdown

As you know, this lockdown is not going to continue forever. At some point in future (no matter how long that will take), the stay-at-home order will be lifted.

When that happens, what are you going to do? Go back to life as usual?

I guess you will have to make some adjustments to the way you live your life. One effect of the covid 19 lockdown is that it has reshaped the way we do things.

I’m convinced that life is not going to be the same for most of us after this experience. If that is so, I will advise you to make some changes to your life’s plan or else the change might have to be forced on you.

My point is, use this lockdown period to think about your life, reorder your priorities, setting new goals for your career, family, business, education, relationship, etc.


What do you think?

Covid 19 Pandemic: Can Prayer Save The Day?

We often say in Christian circles that “prayer is the master key,” “there is nothing prayer cannot do,” “if there is a man to pray, there is a God to answer,” and so on and so forth.

All these statements underscore our strong belief in the efficacy of prayers in resolving difficult situations. And I am convinced that in our individual lives, we all have had instances where prayer saved the day for us in our moments of crisis.

That’s at a personal level. But can we extend it to a global level? I believe we can!

Right now the world is experiencing a health crisis caused by coronavirus. Many people have died already as a result of the disease.

Regrettably, more people will still die until the medical world is able to find a lasting solution to the pandemic.

For now, most health personnel and health facilities around the world have been stretched beyond bounds, yet the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel is not in sight.

Is there any thing we can do as believers to help stem the tide of this evil disease? I believe there is:

We can pray!

Can prayer save the day for us in the face of a ravaging global pandemic such as covid 19? Again, I believe it can.

So it is time for all believers in Christ Jesus to join hands in prayers in order to win the battle against the coronavirus pandemic. If you have started praying already, please don’t  give up until the victory is won.

We have the assurance of God that He will hear us and intervene for us in a difficult time such as we are experiencing right now in the world.

If my people who are called by my name

Going by the various reports monitored on social media, there are already several calls to prayer coming from different cycles, ranging from pastors, concerned individuals, ministries and so on. We all need to heed the call and pray seriously against the scourge of coronavirus.

Calling people to pray against covid 19 pandemic does not mean that we want people to undermine the essense of taking medical precautions against the disease. But they should pray in spite of having observed necessary medical precautions.

The people of the world may scoff at us for resorting to prayers, but we should not mind them; our prayer is to our God and not to them.

David realised the importance of praying to God in the middle of a national health crisis like the covid 19 pandemic and so should we. The story is there recorded in 2 Samuel chapter 24 for us to read and learn from.

From what we understood from that chapter, a terrible plague had broken out in the land as a result of David’s seemingly innocuous mistake. And I dare say that the disease was more devastating than the currently prevailing covid 19 pandemic.

How would I know that? The record in the Bible shows that the disease was so terrible that in less than three days, it had killed seventy thousand able-bodied men nationwide.

More deaths would have been recorded if David had not intervened in prayer to God. You see why we should resort to the prayer strategy?

How was the plague in king David’s era stopped? David’s spiritual eyes were opened and he saw that everyone in the city of Jerusalem was about to be destroyed as a result of the rampaging pandemic.

This knowledge led him to have an honest ‘conversation’ with God, during which he took personal responsibility for causing the plague, confessed his sins, made an acceptable sacrifice to God, pleaded with Him to intervene and the plague stopped.

In other words, the ravaging plague was held back after David prayed to the living God. So if you want the covid 19 plague to be held back, then it’s time we prayed sincerely.

As at the time of writing this post, global deaths due to Covid 19 is already above the sixty thousand mark but still less than the seventy thousand deaths that were recorded in David’s time.

Covid 19 global updates
Source: worldometer.info

Despite these recorded deaths, is there any hope that the convid 19 pandemic can be contained? I believe there is.

That’s why we should add the strategy of prayer to the fight against the coronavirus pandemic.

While the medical world continues to battle the disease and works round the clock to find a cure or a lasting solution to it, we believers in the true God should ‘cry’ out to God for divine help; help to stop further deaths, help to stop further spread of the disease and ultimately help to completely wipe out this pandemic called covid 19.


What’s your view about the call to prayer against the covid 19 pandemic?

3 Innocuous Things About False Prophets You Should Be Wary Of

Dealing with false prophets.

For thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, ‘Do not let your [false] prophets who are among you and your diviners deceive you; pay no attention and attach no significance to the dreams which they dream or to yours,
Jeremiah 29:8 AMP

1. False prophets are always amongst you

Some one said, “if the devil would come as the devil I would know him and avoid him.” But you see, the devil is a master of disguise, so he would put on different forms to deceive you.

One of such forms is familiarity. He comes to you through things and people you are familiar with so that you will be caught off-guard.

The same thing can be said of false prophets. You can find them amongst people around you, people you already know and people that belong to the same group or church with you.

It would be a serious mistake to assume that there are no false prophets around you. Please take another look at God’s warning through Prophet Jeremiah:

“Do not let your [false] prophets who are among you and your diviners deceive you…” (emphasis mine).

Did you notice that the warning is against prophets who are amongst you, not the ones that are afar off?

Not strangers, but familiar people; those who present themselves as harmless, yet have hidden evil agenda.

Speaking along this line, Jesus echoed a warning to His disciples saying, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves” Matthew 7:15.

If a wolf comes as a wolf, you will see it and escape to safety. But if a wolf disguises as a sheep, you will not immediately take the requisite caution, thereby increasing the chances of your being caught unawares.

That’s the kind of danger you are exposed to with false prohets if you are not careful enough. Thankfully, you are not at their mercy.

As Jesus assures us, “You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act.”

Innocent things about a false prophet

2. False prophets want your attention

Do you have any idea of what it means to be an attention seeker? Think of someone who behaves in a certain way with a view to eliciting your attention or validation.

That’s what false prophets do; they put on shows to grab your attention.

But getting your attention is not an end in itself. What they really want is for you to believe in them as though they were true prophets.

As Jeremiah puts it, they want you to “attach some significance to their prophecies.” It is up to you whether or not to oblige them.

3. False prophets want you to attach some significance to their prophecies

Even though false prophets know in themselves that they are false and self-serving, they still want you to take them seriously.

Once they have your attention, they will want you to attach some significance to what they say. And that is where the danger really is.

But as prophet Jeremiah advises us, “pay no attention and attach no significance to the dreams which [false prophets] dream…”

In other words, when you see a false prophet, pay no attention to him or her and do not attach any significance to whatever he or she has to say.

The above advice is worth repeating: Pay no attention to a false prophet and attach no significance to his or her words. We will take a deeper look at that in the next post.


Thank you for reading and please leave me a comment.

Coronavirus Pandemic: In Times Like This

It is no longer news that coronavirus has become a global pandemic. And it has significantly impacted the way we do things at home, at work, at play and even at our worship places.

Owing to this ravaging disease, many deaths have been reported across the world. And the number is increasing daily.

Some other people are suffering in various ways: fear of infection, food shortages, lockdowns and restrictions in movements.

These are difficult times for the people of the world, to say the least. May be we are in ‘perilous times’ as the Bible calls it (see 2 Timothy 3:1).

Perilous time is a time “full of danger and risk.” In other words, this is a dangerous time around the world.

That danger and risk are occasioned by the outbreak of coronavirus also known as covid 19. Everyone is now faced with the risk of infestation and the danger of death.

People are living in palpable fear as the situation continues to go out of hand around the nations of the world, stretching medical services to the last limit.

As one commentator on an online forum puts it, “This is no ordinary – humans, nations, organisations and industries, the high and mighty are being humbled…”

But what can you do to be safe in a time like this? I will give you two suggestions in this post.

1. Follow the advice of your government or health authorities

Make it a point of duty to adhere to the safety measures proffered by your government or appropriate health authorities.

I know quite a lot has been said about this across many media but it can never be over-emphasised:

  • Practice social distancing.
  • Stay at home.
  • Maintain very strict hygienic procedures – wash and sanitise your hands regularly.
  • Properly cover your nose when you sneeze.
  • Wear nose masks especially when in public.
  • Avoid touching your face.
  • Self-isolate, where necessary.
  • Etc

These recommendations are good and should be properly upheld. But if you are a believer in Christ, I’m going to add one more thing: you should keep up your faith in God.

Dealing with coronavirus as a believer in Christ
Source: Sinach’s Instagram handle

2. Keep up your faith in God

As a believer in Christ, the outbreak of coronavirus pandemic should not make your faith waver. In fact, it should be strengthened in times like this.

And if you are not yet a believer, you might want to consider becoming one at this time. As you can see, the world is no longer the same just because of one “little plague” known as covid 19.

Effect of coronavirus on nations of the world
Source: Nairaland

Let your faith in God swallow up your fear of coronavirus or any other disease for that matter. “The just shall live by faith” says the Bible in Galatians 3:11.

In times like this, remember God’s promises of divine protection, healing and deliverance. Believe them, confess them and live my them.


Let me know what you think in the comment section.

How Correct Is The Claim That Atheism Is Not A Choice?

When I published The problems of atheists finally figured out on this blog, it generated many comments from my readers, especially from the so-called atheists.

As I responded to the comments one after another, I saw one that picked my interest: Atheism is not a choice. This post is a further attempt of mine to address that notion.

Is the claim that atheism is not a choice correct? I believe it is not.

In my own opinion, atheism is definitely a choice. I will like to hear what you think, but I have my own reasons for saying so.

First and foremost, believing that God exists is a choice some of us had to make. If the act of believing that God exists is a choice, the act of not believing is also a choice – whether active or passive.

Remember the saying, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.” Either way, there is a failing.

At some point, Jesus made a remarkable statement that adds credence to what we are saying here:

Anyone who isn’t with me opposes me, and anyone who isn’t working with me is actually working against me” Matthew 12:30.

You see, it’s either you have declared for Jesus or you have declared against Him.

Simply put, there is no middle ground; it’s either you have chosen to be with Jesus or you have chosen not to be with Him.

And if you have chosen not to be with Him, it means you have chosen to be against Him. Either way there is a choice and that choice is yours.

That is to say, if you believe God exists, it’s a choice you have made. If you believe He doesn’t exist, it’s also a choice you have made.

In conclusion, it is incorrect to claim that atheism is not a choice. This is because, we are all responsible for our individual choices.

What we believe is our choice, what we don’t believe is our choice.

We believe God exists, it’s our choice. We believe He doesn’t exist, it’s our choice.

So when next you hear someone say, “atheism is not a choice,” please recognise that statement for what is: a deception.


Do you agree that atheism is a choice?

How Do You Spell Valentine?

What Valentine's Day means
What does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

Saint Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to celebrate love. So they say, but I have observed that too much emphasis is usually placed on romantic love at the expense of love as a virtue.

I would like to ask you: how do you spell Valentine? In other words, what does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

Some people say it’s Lovers’ Day. So if you are not married or not in a romantic relationship, you shouldn’t celebrate it?

Well, your answer to that question depends on what you believe. As you know your beliefs affect the things you do and how you do them.

If you are a believer in Christ like me, you know the word of God should guide you – whatever do. For instance, if you are not married and you are open to observing the Valentine’s Day celebration, you should know that sex should not be on the table as part of the activities to mark the day.

Don’t you know the reason? Sex is permissible by God only within the confines of marriage. So if you are not married yet, you have no business with sex – whether it is Valentine’s Day or not.

As unpopular as that opinion may sound today, it is part of what is required of us as followers of Jesus Christ. You are in disobedience if you think otherwise.

Who should be your Valentine?

I’m not suggesting you should or should not celebrate the Saint Valentine’s Day. The choice is entirely up to you. But if your desire is to please God with your life, you will agree with me that you will not celebrate with reckless abandon.

Until recently, I didn’t reckon with Saint Valentine’s Day celebration. The reason was that it was modelled around me in a way that went contrary to my ‘moral’ upbringing (forgive me if that sounds like pride).

While growing up, Valentine’s Day was about hooking up with a boy/girl friend, attending parties and even having sex. But none of those activities appealed to some of us young believers in Christ, so we thought Saint Valentine’s Day was not worth celebrating.

But then later in life, I met my wife and discovered that unlike me, she cared a little about Valentine’s Day; not in any odious way, but in a way of sharing thoughts of love with people that mattered to you, giving them gifts or being with them. So I keyed in a bit.

Since then every Valentine’s Day I get her a little gift to ‘show’ my thought of love towards her, without any elaborate celebrations. And that’s all there is for me.

I remember there was a year all I could get her was a strand of rose I bought off the shelf in a supermarket. The most important thing was that I showed her I cared (and I still do).

You may say I could do better than that. Yes, you are probably right, but please let’s leave that discussion for another day.

May be your experience is different from mine, that’s fine! That’s why I’m writing this post: to hear from you what Valentine’s Day means to you.

I will like to conclude this way: If they say Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love, then we should not make it all about romance and sex. It should be about love in the truest sense of it: loving God with all your heart and loving your neighbour as yourselves.


Why You Should Make Jesus Your Valentine

Make Jesus your Valentine

Every February 14th, the Saint Valentine’s Day is celebrated in many places around the world. On that day, people want to be with those they love or with those that love them, expressing their love to one another either in words or in action or both as the case may be.

Irrespective of whatever form the Valentine’s day is celebrated, the bottom line is the individual quest to satisfy the need to love and be loved. Unfortunately, many of such quests for love end up in disappointments.

What if you found the Love that never fails? What if I told you there is a kind of love you can bank on every time and not just on Valentine’s Day?

What if I told you Jesus is the most special One you need to be with? What if I told you, you have everything to gain and nothing to lose if you made Jesus your Valentine?

Jesus is ready to be your Valentine for life if you would let Him. He is ready to be the most special person in your life.

Why should you make Jesus your Valentine? This post gives you three fundamental reasons.

Valentine's Day celebration

Three Reasons You Should Make Jesus Your Valentine – Your Most Special One

1. Jesus loves you completely and unconditionally

You will never find a lover like Jesus, who loves you 100% and over. And He loves you irrespective of your estate in life, your racial background or your religious affiliation.

Jesus loves you without reservations, and without limits. His love for you is not tied to your performance – whatever you do, He loves you anyway.

His love is already freely given and it’s yours for the taking. So make Him your Valentine and accept His love into your heart. This will make a whole lot of difference in your life.

i love you illustration

2. Jesus forgives your sins completely

Jesus loves you so much He gave His life to earn forgiveness for all your sins.

Every human being alive has the question of sin to grapple with. The Bible says, “All have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” But you see, you don’t have to remain a sinner for the rest of your life.

The simple advice I will give you is this: even though you were born a sinner, don’t die a sinner. The only way not to die a sinner is to consciously, willingly and wholeheartedly identify with Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour.

Make Him your Valentine – your special One. Begin to love Him back because, as we noted earlier, He already loves unconditionally and completely.

3. Jesus protects your interest eternally

When you accept the unconditional love of God into your heart and also receives forgiveness for all your sins, you enter into a special relationship with God that extends beyond your lifetime. He will be with you while you are alive on earth and you will be with Him when you pass on to the other side of this life.

In other words, if you would identify with Jesus here on earth, He will protect your interest in this world and in the world to come. You may have heard some people say that this life is all there is; that there is no life after death.

That position is in correct because the Bible clearly shows that there is life after death. And that life after death can only be spent with God in Heaven or with Satan in hell.


You can make Jesus the most special in your life. He loves you more than anyone else. He paid the price for the forgiveness of your sins and He is the only One that guarantees your future eternally.

The choice is yours to make and your lifetime is your only chance to make it. So would you like to make Jesus your Valentine for life? Leave a comment.


Now That Christmas Is Over

You looked forward to Christmas all year long. Now the celebration for this year is over.

It will be another 360 something days before you will have another chance to celebrate it again. That is if you are still alive.

Please don’t get me wrong there. I’m not suggesting that you would die before next year’s Christmas. But I’m not denying that the possibility exists for all of us.

Come to think of it, not everyone who celebrated Christmas last year’s Christmas was around to join in this year’s celebration. And as sure as the as the rising sun tomorrow, not everyone who celebrated this year’s Christmas will be alive to celebrate the coming year’s.

You know I’m not being a prophet of doom here. It is the sad reality of the life we found ourselves in: after all said and done, death is inevitable.

The Bible says, “There’s time for everything under the Sun.”

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… Ecclesiastes 3:1-11.

Let’s take further exploration of the first part of the above quote:

A time to be born, a time to die

Jesus had the time He was born to this earth. He had the time He had to die as well. Gratefully He had the time to resurrect as well.

If you are reading this now, I know you had the time you were born; you had a beginning. Or don’t you have a birthday?

And if you had a beginning on this earth, you are also going to have an ending. It is called death – the way of all mankind.

Unlike when you were born when everyone jubilated, when you die, people will cry. I mean if you are not Adolf Hitler or anyone else in his mould, I don’t see why anyone should be glad when you die.

But whether anyone is sad or happy when you die, it would not really matter to you. What would matter would be how you have used your short life on earth to prepare for the eternity that death would be the doorway to.

If you have prepared well for eternity, death will be a gain to you. But if you have not, death will be a great loss to you. Regrettably, it will be too late by then to make amends.

But how can you prepare well for eternity?

To be honest, the answer is simpler than you think. It requires simple faith in Jesus Christ, the birth of whom we just celebrated and will continue to celebrate in the years ahead.

Think back a little to the Christmas story: a virgin gave birth to Jesus Christ, the Saviour of the whole world. (See Matthew 1:20-21).

You see, that’s why we celebrate Christmas every year: a Saviour was born to save us from our sins. In this Saviour lies the hope of all humanity. But it is sad that many are not seeing it that way.

Now that Christmas is over, the question I would like to ask you is this: do you have a personal relationship by faith with the Celebrant? By that I mean, have you accepted Jesus to be your Lord and Saviour?

If your answer is yes, I will advise you to nurture that relationship so closely that nothing will come between you and Him. You have His assurance that nothing can separate you from His love till you will get to meet Him face to face on the other side of this life.

On the other hand, if you have not put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour, you have between now and the next Christmas to do so. Actually, no one can guarantee that you will be alive till the next Christmas. So that means NOW is the best chance you have to invite Jesus into your life.

Please wait no further, “For God says, “At just the right time, I heard you. On the day of salvation, I helped you.” Indeed, the “right time” is now. Today is the day of salvation” 2 Corrinthians 6:2.


What do you say?

Beyond the Fanfare, What is Christmas About?

In many places around the world, people celebrate Christmas for various reasons. And the celebration is usually done with a lot of fanfare.

But beyond the fanfare with which it is celebrated, we must not lose sight of the fact that the essence of Christmas is Jesus Christ Himself. Without Jesus as the centre of focus, every celebration of Christmas is an empty celebration.

That brings us to the question:

Beyond the fanfare, what is Christmas about?

1. It is about the birth of a Saviour

Jesus was born to be the Saviour of the world. He was born with the grandest mission ever: To save us from our sins.

Before Jesus Christ was born to the earth, an Angel had said to Joseph about Mary, “She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins” Matthew 1:21.

His name Jesus literally means Saviour. In other words, his name encapsulates His mission.

He was born the Messiah, “the promised deliverer of the Jewish nation prophesied in the Hebrew Bible.”

But not just to His people alone, His saving grace extends to all mankind. “So that everyone who believes in him will have eternal life (John 3:15).

2. It is about the coming of divinity to earth.

One of the core doctrines in Christianity is the belief that Jesus Christ is God in the flesh. When Jesus was born, He brought divinity to humanity.

Jesus is also called Immauel, meaning God with us. The second person of the Trinity stepped into time and be born on earth as a baby.

The incarnation is that event where the second person of the Trinity, the Word, became flesh and dwelt among us – Matt Slick

And throughout His life on Earth, Jesus never suffered any identity crisis: He knew who He is: God in the flesh.

At one point in Jesus’ ministry, Philip, one of the twelve disciples of Jesus said to Him, “Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us.”

Jesus’ response to him was most unequivocal: “Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? John 14:8-9.

3. It is the birth of the soon-coming King

The birth of Jesus was His first coming to earth. His second coming is still a future event, but it is going to be a sure event.

His first birth by a virgin was foretold and it did happened as prophesied. There is no doubt in my mind that His second-coming which has also been prophesied, will sooner or later take place.

Why not under-estimating Christmas we should not lose sight of the fact that Jesus will come back again – not as a baby, but as a King.

At the ascension of Jesus, His disciples received an angelic assurance that the same way they saw their Master taken up in the clouds into Heaven is the same way He would come back to the earth.

“Men of Galilee,” said the two Angels who accosted the disciples, “why are you standing here staring into heaven? Jesus has been taken from you into heaven, but someday he will return from heaven in the same way you saw him go!” Acts 1: 11.

4. It is the birth of the One who will judge the world

Guess who will be the Judge of the world? Jesus! That’s right, Jesus will be the one to judge the people of the world.

“The Father judges no one, but has given all judgment to the Son” – John 5:22.

Here is how the Bible further paints the picture of the judgement:

When the Son of Man comes in his glory and all his angels are with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. The people of every nation will be gathered in front of him. He will separate them as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right but the goats on his left – Matthew 25:31-33.

For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad – 2 Corrinthians 5:10.


When we celebrate Christmas, we should remember that we are not just celebrating the birth of an ordinary baby. We are celebrating the birth of our Saviour, God in the flesh, the soon-coming King and the future Judge of the world.

What do you say?

Some Advice To A Christian Lady Waiting For Mr. Right – Part 2

Where on earth is the man I am supposed to marry? I am tired of waiting and I don’t want to make a mistake. I am in my late 20’s slowly approaching 30 soon and would like to settle [down in marriage] within the next one year. My family is putting a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of having to remain sane while waiting for my own [man].

That was from a christian sister expressing her frustrations over her desire to get married but which had not come through.

If you found yourself on this page without having read the first part of the post, please go and read it before you continue with this one. That way, you will have a solid background of the issue in discourse.

Right now, instead of worrying about hooking up with the right man, you concentrate on being the right lady and the right man will find you at the right time.

We will continue from where we stopped by looking at some more advice given to the sister in question by some concerned people. (Again, please read the part one of the post – if you haven’t done so. Thank you).

Let’s us take a look at more advice:

You have painted a picture of the kind of man you are waiting for: a God fearing Man… that’s good. Every woman wants the guy of their dreams to be ready made. But very few are willing to work to make the “man of their dreams.”

Some times, from in the midst of dirt comes true lasting diamonds… Jesus Christ promised a thief paradise at his death – not the best of his disciples, nor the perfect of men, but a “thief”.

Maybe your “man” would not come the way you expect. Just as the way the Israelites expected the Messiah to be born in the palace not in a manger… My dear be open-minded… good Christians are not born, they are made… the most devout of Christians most often times were not born Christians…

What I am saying is that you should keep an open mind and don’t restrict your heart to finding him in your church or among the young pastors in your Church…

God would bring not the best person for you, but the right person for you… please I would advise you [not to] take all relationship decisions to your pastor. Better talk to your parents than your pastor… just my advise o! I’m not saying your pastor is not good in such issues.

You would be fine… live and be happy… don’t let the pressure overwhelm you.

And this one really broke it down:

does it mean all the good men are already taken

Stop being too conservative; you said you’re an indoor person. If you keep staying indoors WHO would see you? Come out of the shell and let ‘’the product’’ be seen and heard.

Your appearance matters a lot – you need to look good 24/7 but in a generally accepted way. (Neither too holy looking nor too sinful looking). If you are fat – loose the weight. Most guys (like me) ABHORE FAT GIRLS as wife beacause they look lazy, dirty and sexually unattractive.

Your character too; carrying Bible and going to church everyday DOES NOT MEAN you are good natured. Even satan goes to church these days and calls himself ‘’pastor’’. BE SINCERELY GOOD NATURED. BE OPEN MINDED. BE SIMPLE NATURED.

When a joke is funny laugh – be yourself in a good mannered way. Let people see that you are humble. Be accommodating with ALL classes of people. When you come across ‘’drunkards, party freaks’’ and poor/ christian men, DON’T CARRY YOUR NOSE UP; their brother might just be Mr Perfect or Mr Perfect might just be watching you.

Be perfect in courtesy. Learn to greet anyone/everyone politely. Greeting alone has given thousands of girls husbands.

Be positive minded – imagine good things and smile and pray for them to come.

Let’s conclude  with this one who gave her own advice/suggestions by telling her experience with her own sister:

I have an elder sister who will be 30 years next year. She’s unmarried too, and she’s a good  christian but she’s very judgemental.

I say it without an iota of doubt that she’s been single this long because of her judgemental nature. And I have noticed that is one thing many self-acclaimed “good  christians” have in common.

So if before now you have maintained a self-righteous attitude, madam, I tell you today that you have a long way to go because no one will ever be good enough for you. Please, I will advise you to maintain your virtues as a woman, but embrace the quality of open mindedness.

Learn to relate with people and learn from them instead of judging them before they even come close. People will always have excesses. It’s not yours to write them off, but to live peaceably with all men as much as you can.

By becoming more  accommodating and open-minded concerning people, you will understand that we are all different because of our cultures, upbringing, orientation and even religious beliefs and this will help you have a better approach towards people and things.

However, do not mistake my post to mean that I am accusing you decisively of being judgemental or narrow minded. I’m just saying that if you are, please make an attempt to change; it could be holding you back more than you know. I am emphasizing this because I live with someone who is and I know how much it has affected her.

May God direct your path, I can’t say anything outside this because I’m just 21 yrs, very single and I don’t have too much I about all these marriage issues. I will also like to tell you to do something because you want to, not because of pressure [from other people]. That has helped me in a lot of my doings. I leave you with this. May God be your guide.


What would be your advice to a Christian lady waiting for the right man to marry? Let the conservation continue in the comment section.

Some Advice To A Christian Sister Waiting For Mr. Right – Part 1

does it mean all the good men are already taken

In 2013, a Nigerian Christian lady published an online post on the frustrations she was facing waiting for the right man to get married to. According to her, she was under immense pressure from her family to get married.

The good part was that she was ready to get married and two she knew the kind of husband she wanted: a godly man who is filled with the word of God, a lover of God and a man fit to be a minister of the gospel.

But the bad part was that such a man was not forth coming her way (yet). And she was getting tired waiting…

“Where on earth is this man?” she had asked in utter frustration. “And does it mean all the good men are already taken?”

Let’s take a deeper peep into her situation as she narrated in her own words:

I never thought I’d be the lady staying calm and waiting almost endlessly for the one I would spend the rest of my life with; the one who would one day become my husband and the father of my children, my best friend and love.

I am a christian and have noticed that I have a thing for Christian men who are filled with the word of God. Needless to say that I would eventually be getting into ministry in my older years, and every prophetic word I have heard about my marriage has pointed to the fact that the man God has prepared for me would also most likely be in ministry and a huge God lover.

Now the thing is where on earth is this man? I am tired of waiting and I don’t want to make a mistake.

I am in my late 20’s slowly approaching 30 soon and would like to settle [down in marriage] within the next one year.

My family is putting a lot of pressure on me and I am starting to crumble under the pressure of having to remain sane while waiting for my own [man].

I have indeed met a lot of other men who I dare not settle with. eg party rockers, drinkers, womanizers and the rest. Does it mean that all the good men are taken?

Aside waiting, I also want to feel loved, wanted and appreciated. I want him so much already.

I am a professional lady, I am yoruba, I am gentle, kind hearted and want to continue serving God. What can I do to remain calm? (Source: Nairaland )


I felt touched by the sister’s post, hence I decided to offer my two cents in response. (Bear in mind this was way back in 2013).

You sound like a decent girl, so I would say there is no need to become desperate…. And don’t let anyone, family members inclusive, unduly pressure you into Marriage. The danger in that is that you might end up with the wrong guy.

Bear in mind that 28 is not too old [to get married]. I understand your anxiety but be careful not to descend into desperation….

Right now, instead of worrying about hooking up with the right man, you concentrate on being the right lady and the right man will find you at the right time.

Trust in God to give you the right man. In the midst of wolves parading as men, God knows the right man for the right woman.

Be convinced that God loves you enough to give you the best husband. There are still some good men, husband material, out there, looking for someone like you.

But like they say, if you don’t define, you won’t find. So Please take time to list out the things you want in your husband. Everyday, look at the list, be positive about it; envision him come to you. It may sound funny but it works.

With that frame of mind, you can now pray: Oh Lord, wherever my husband is, let him locate me. Bring him to me or take me to where he is so we can meet each other.

It worked for me that way. And today, my wife and I are happily married. You will soon testify too.


As you would rightly expect, there was a barrage of other advice or suggestions in response to that post. Some of them are not worth your time, so I won’t bother to share them here.

However, there were some I considered very useful, and I will share a few of them here with the hope that someone in similar situation may learn from it.

Check out this one first:

woman praying

I understand your frustration and exhaustive patience. However, He makes all things beautiful in His time and not our time. A lot of single ladies have made terrible and life threatening mistakes because of impatience.

While waiting for the right man, keep adding values to yourself, study good and bad marriages to learn how a home should be, read books and enjoy your singlehood to the maximum in a godly way.

“The vision may tarry, wait for it, it shall speak…” You need to exercise patience and trust God with all your heart. Need I add that this is the time you should draw closer to God – not for what He can give but pleasing and doing His will.

So my sister, do not let your age or pressure from any source push you to do what is not right. Do not mind people talking about you closing in to 30. I wonder the importance of the age if one lives a useless life.

And this one:

…All I can say is that He is preparing you for the task ahead in your ministry and in your home. See this waiting period as an opportunity for you to develop yourself spiritually as it would come in handy when you get married. You will agree with me that staying married is more important than getting married.

And then this:

You are just 28 so its not yet time to press the panic button and please do not let anyone pressure you yet. You say you love Christian men so at least you know what you want. So the question is where are you likely to get Christian men?

Church is the simple answer! Again not all men in Church are Christians but I believe you have the Spirit of God and you will be able to tell the difference.

I also encourage you to get more involved in Church activities, Bible study, mid-week service, become a worker and put yourself in a position where you will meet Christian men. Again be careful because lots of bad boys are in church these days; but you have the Spirit of God in you and you will know the difference.

I can even suggest you try to get close to your Pastor or his wife. Lots of Pastors actually do hook-ups with Church members these days and if your pastor is nice, he could hook you up with a nice gentleman in church.

Again, tell your friends and their husbands too that they could hook you up with their friends or cousins etc. You just can’t stay at home and expect Mr. Right to come around. Some people don’t like hook-ups but I see nothing wrong in it.

Lastly you say you are a professional, do you have friends where you work? Try to be accommodating more and go for Christmas parties and office parties, you could meet someone there as well.

But please make sure you know what you want in a man because there are devils out there who are just waiting to prey on young innocent girls like you so be careful. You are a Christian and remember the virtues of Christianity. God help you.


What would be your own advice to the lady in question?

On You, Stress And Trust In God

Stress and trust

Have you ever had that feeling of being emotionally overloaded and you are struggling to cope with demands of life? If your answer is yes, I’m afraid you might be experiencing what is called “stress.”

And if you are experiencing stress, what is the implication to you? I mean what does your stress level reveal to you if you are a believer in Jesus Christ?

Generally speaking, what do you understand by the word ‘stress’?

“Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress is your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline” (MedlinePlus).

If stress can be positive, it means there is negative stress as well. According to those who should know, “Stress becomes negative when a person faces continuous challenges without relief or relaxation between stressors. As a result, the person becomes overworked, and stress-related tension builds.”

As a believer in Christ, beyond the common understanding of stress as a ” feeling of emotional or physical tension,” you should also note that stress has some far-reaching implications for you; it reveals your spiritual condition (the centre of your focus) at the point you are being stressed.

So what does stress reveal about you?

How stress affects your trust in God
Drs. Dennis & Jennifer Clark with Dr. Sid Roth (Source: Youtube)

In an episode of Sid Roth’s It’s Supernatural on youtube, I watched the host interview Drs. Dennis and Jennifer Clark. The couple are pastors in ministry and are involved in helping people overcome toxic emotional feelings and setting them free from emotional bondage, no matter how long those negative feelings have been held.

Towards the middle of that interview, Dr. Roth asked the following question, “Doctors tell us that stress is really bad; it causes lots of problems. What do do you say?”

Dr. Dennis Clark’s response to that question was really an eye-opener for me. That’s why I’m sharing it with you here, with the hope that it benefits you too:

“I say stress can be a friend. It can tell you that Jesus isn’t ruling at that point in time. By definition, stress means you’re emotionally controlled by people or circumstances. And you cannot be stressed and trust God at the same time. It’s a physiological and spiritual impossibility.”

I was like wow; this is fantastic! I never saw stress in that light before. Did you see what I meant when I said it was an eye-opener?

Now let’s break it down further:

1. Stress can be your friend as a believer in Christ. In other words, it lets you know that Jesus is not ruling in your heart at that time; you are not walking in the spirit or you have (temporarily) shifted your heart away from God.

2. Stress means that you are emotionally being controlled by people or circumstances. In other words, you are not the one in control of the situations in your life. And if you are not in control, something or someone is controlling you (and it’s not God!). What is that thing or who is that person controlling you?

3. You can not be stressed and trust God at the same time. According to Dr Clark, it is not physiologically and spiritually possible to do so. So it means that as a believer, the more you are stressed the more you will found it difficult to trust God.

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I believe you have seen a fresh perspective of what stress reveals about you as a believer in Christ: If you are stressed, it means you are not trusting God. I hope you will take appropriate measures to refocus your heart and your trust.

Thank you for reading and what do you think?

The Implication Of Worrying (As A Believer In Christ)

Why do christians worry?

What does it mean to worry?

It means to “feel or cause to feel anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems.” So when you worry, it means you are in a state of anxiety and trouble “over actual or potential problems.”

Broadly speaking, “Worry refers to the thoughts, images, emotions, and actions of a negative nature in a repetitive, uncontrollable manner that results from a proactive cognitive risk analysis made to avoid or solve anticipated potential threats and their potential consequences” (Wikipedia).

As a believer in Christ, you know you are not supposed to worry so much. But you worry all the same. Why?

You worry to the point that stress overwhelms you, emotionally or otherwise. That’s not the situation you should put yourself in.

Jesus said in Matthew chapter 6 (NLT):

25 “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? … 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? …

31 “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God[e] above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.

Lack of faith

As Jesus said we should not worry, it means it is within our control not to worry. So that tells me you are not speaking the truth if you say, “I can’t help worrying.”

Of course you can help it if you make up your mind to do so. Worrying does not grip you without your consent.

You play an active role whenever you are worrying, How? By being actively involved in a pattern of negative thinking over real or imagined situations.

As a believer in Christ, can you deal with worrying? I would say yes! If you can refocus, you can deal with it. But a lot will depend on your answer to the following question:

What’s Your Priority?

Before Jesus said we should not worry about tomorrow, He emphasized the need for us to make seeking the Kingdom of God the greatest priority of our lives. In His words:

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33, NLT

As believers in Christ, seeking the Kingdom of God should be our main focus – our priority. The purpose of doing that is to enable us embed our trust in God and not on the daily pursuits of life.

The truth is that if the daily pursuits of life become your main focus and topmost priority (at the expense of kingdom focus) worrying will become a natural consequence.

The Implication

When you worry, it should be a sign to you that you have shifted your focus from God to other things. And worrying has its consequences; it causes emotional stress, even physical ailments.

So let your mind’s main focus be on God and your worries will be a lot less. As Prophet Isaiah says, God keeps you in perfect peace (worry-free) if your mind is stayed on Him (Isaiah 26:3).

What do you think?

Perfect Love – A Book Review

Books by Ufuomaee

Recall that when I posted my review of Ufuomaee’s The House Girl, I promised you that I would also read and review some other books by the same author. This post will be my fulfillment of that promise and I am glad to do it pro bono.

Some months have passed since I’ve completed reading the Perfect Love from cover to cover. I know I should have done the review earlier than now but after several weeks of doing the reviewing in my head, I have decided to put pen to paper. So please spare me some minutes from your precious time as I share my thoughts about the book.

About the book

Perfect Love is about the travails of Onome who has been unhappily married to her husband Temi for six years. Just before their sixth wedding anniversary, Onome meets her ex-boy friend and this turns her world upside down and she became “…a wandering heart. A restless heart. A troubled heart.”

Did Onome fall into the temptations that ensued? Did her husband find out about the other man? Was their marriage consumed by the lack of love and commitment in the relationship? Was she as committed to the marriage as she was to her writing career? It will be worth your time to find out the answers to these questions and more by reading the book.

Ufuoma Emerhor-Ashogbon
Ufuoma, Author of Perfect Love

The book is written by the brainy Ofuomaee, blogger at Grace & Truth, social entrepreneur and author of multiple christian fiction books. In the Perfect Love, the author continues in her now well established style of teaching valuable christian-living lessons via fictional stories that readers find largely believable and relatable.

The only departure from the author’s usual style is that instead of her being the one telling the stories and unfolding the narratives, she allowed each character in the book to do so by themselves. In a way, that also gives the reader a special experience while devouring the book.

The journaling style the author employed in writing the book gave me a breath of fresh air while reading it – a different style of presentation from anything I’ve read recently. As I noted earlier, the author allowed the characters to tell their stories by themselves and in their own words – what they did, could have done, thought about etc.

My worst and favourite character

If I were to pick out my worst character in Perfect Love, it would have to be no other person than Onome herself. Granted that she was very a brilliant and likable person, she continued to make choices that left much to be desired.

It was very annoying to me that she professed to be a born again Christian but had little or no commitment to living up to that sublime identity. And this contributed to her being entangled in the avoidable web of marital frustrations and unhappiness that she was enmeshed in.

My take is that she was, to a greater part, the architect of her own marital misfortunes. In one moment of reflection, she hit the nail on the head when she admitted, “I think our foundation was all wrong, we’d never taken the time to correct it. Yes, we both believed in God [but] He wasn’t Lord of our hearts, our marriage [and] our home.”

Most of the things she went through could have been avoided had she been truly committed to her profession of being a child of God. But then I have realised that, in many ways, Onome is not different from many of us who claim to be christians; we acknowledged God as our Saviour but we hardly let Him be the Lord of our lives.

And we claim we know God but we live our lives like we don’t know Him. What ever happened to the injunction of Jesus to us in Matthew 5:16,

“… let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”?

Enough of Onome’s spiritual and emotional immaturity! I believe we all have some serious soul-searching to do. The earlier we get started the better.

If we must claim to have a relationship with God, let it show in our words and in our actions. Otherwise, we will not be able to escape the consequences of a hypocritical lifestyle.

On the other hand, I would pick the marriage counselor as my favorite character in the book. Her uncommon wisdom, christian maturity and honour shined through her counselling room. I saw her as a good ambassador of God and her profession.

I would assure you that you would pick one or two wisdom from the lips of that impressive marriage counselor when you read the book. As she says in one instant, “When you change your priories and give more time to things that matter, your life will be better for it.”

And who doesn’t want a better life?

Conclusions

I think Ufuomaee did a great job in the Perfect Love, addressing such familiar but important issues as communication in marriage, dealing with infidelity, divorce, marriage counselling, forgiveness, and so on. Although the book centres mainly on marriage and family affairs, I have no doubt that both married and unmarried people will find it helpful.

I definitely had my moments of both sobriety and thrill as I rummaged the pages of Perfect Love. And I believe I have many reasons to thank Ufuomaee for yet another good contribution to the genre of christian fiction.

Thank you for reading!

You can share your own thoughts in the comment section.

7 Simple Ways Of Dealing With Your Spouse’s Imperfections

“No body is perfect,” goes the popular saying. The truth of that statement is particularly obvious in a committed marital union between a man and woman.

Except you want to deceive yourself, you will gladly own up to the fact that the person you married is not a spotless angel. But this is no time to begin pointing accusing fingers at your spouse as the one with the most imperfections, because as you know, you yourself are not without some blemishes.

In other words, you often fall below each other’s expectations. Despite these imperfections, both of you can still be at peace with each other and hopefully be happier too.

If that is part of your marital goal, then you will allow me to proffer a few suggestions that will be helpful to you in that respect:

Here are seven simple ways you can deal with the imperfections of your spouse:

1. Accept that your spouse is not perfect

Your spouse is not an angel, so don’t expect that he or she will not make mistakes sometimes. And when that happens, please do show some understanding.

Truth be told, neither you nor your spouse is perfect. Perhaps you should let this guide your expectations so that you suffer less frustrations when your spouse’s behaviour falls below your esteemed expectations.

2. Be patient with your spouse

If you have come to terms with the fact that your spouse is not perfect and you are committed to loving him or her despite that, I am going to add that you should be patient with him or her.

I will not promise you that your spouse will grow into a faultless angel someday. But I can at least opine that if he or she is committed to your marriage as you are, there will be remarkable positive change of behaviour over time when you exercise the due patience with.

person sitting in front of table with plant

3. Maintain your sanity

Your spouse will ‘lose it’ sometimes and when that happens be sure to keep your own sanity and be at your best behaviours. Things will go downhill in your marriage if both of you decide to vent and and get mad at each other at the same time.

A wise spouse once told the better-half, “If you spit fire, I will vomit water.” The point here is, you and your spouse should not be spitting fire at the same time.

4. Talk things over with your spouse

In as much as I want you to cut some slack for your spouse, there will be times when it is important you talk things over with him or her. But you have to be gentle and nice over it, else you might trigger a volcanic eruption in the process.

In talking things over with your spouse, be humble, loving and considerate. Resist the temptation of pointing accusing fingers at each other.  Instead of looking for who is wrong, focus on what is wrong and deal with it.

If your spouse raises his or voice in the process, keep yours low. Apologise where necessary and accept responsibility as appropriate.

Engage in the conversation in such a away that it strengthens your marriage and not in a way that tears it apart.

5. Avoid the silent treatment

There are times silence may be golden, but at times too, it can be a time-bomb waiting to explode. I trust that you know the difference. While it is not okay to shout at your spouse, on the other hand, don’t use the silent treatment as a tool for affliction in marriage.

It is good to keep silent sometimes in order not to offend in words or as part of your anger management strategy. But if your spouse desires commmunication with you, do not give him or her the silent treatment to punish him or her for what they did to you.

6. Celebrate your spouse’s strength

Despite your spouse’s so-called imperfections, he or she must have some strengths as well. Identify those strengths and celebrate them.

I am totally convinced that your spouse is not a good-for-nothing fellow, otherwise you would not have married him or her. So I am telling you for free that you can manage your spouse’s imperfections better by focusing on his or her strengths and celebrating them.

Compliment your spouse’s good behaviours and be less critical of the bad ones. It is not easy to do, but it is worth the try.

woman praying beside tree

7. Pray regularly for your spouse

It is not enough for you to talk to your spouse. You should also talk to God about spouse – not in form of endless bitter complaints but in form of regular loving prayers.

Trying to force a change in behaviour on your spouse may be counter-productive. But when you pray, you invite God to handle the situation in the best possible way.

Don’t say you don’t know what to pray about concerning your spouse. Are there things you like about your spouse? I believe the answer is yes. Begin your prayers by thanking God for those things.

Also, the things that annoy you about him or her should be part of the things you should pray about. Your dreams for her, the things she cares about, her personal goals are some of the things you can pray for your wife about.

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You have read my views. Let’s hear yours in the comment section.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Is The Bible Creating Atheists?

How are atheists made? Does the Bible contribute in creating atheists? Instead of revealing God to us, is the Bible now taking people away from God?

I asked those questions not because I don’t believe in the Bible anymore, neither is it because I do not know the purpose of the Bible. But because I want to frontally address a wrong notion a reader has about the Bible and atheism.

One atheist who commented on one of my posts has alleged that “the Bible is the best book for creating atheists.” I would not let that pass just like that because it’s possible there are some other people with that same kind of erroneous thinking.

First and foremost, any Christian worth the name will not dispute the divine inspiration of the Bible, neither will he or she agree with the suggestion that the Bible creates atheists. But in the interest of those who may not be so grounded, further examination may be necessary.

To examine the claim that the Bible is the best book for creating atheists, we would just take a quick look at what purpose the Bible serves.

In his second letter to Timothy, apostle Paul categorically stated the inspiration behind, and the purpose of, the (Bible) Scriptures:

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for conviction, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17).

From that verse, we can see that the Bible scripture was inspired by God and is “profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness” and “to equip us for every good work.”

Purpose of the Bible

As one source puts it, “The Bible is great literature and the all-time number-one best-seller. It contains history, entertaining stories, poetry, philosophy, and personal letters. But, more than that, the Bible is God’s Word. If we have to speak of a single purpose of the Bible, it would be to reveal God to us. There are many things that we could never know about God unless He told them to us. The Bible is God’s self-revelation to humanity. The Bible also tells us who we are. It tells us of our sin and of God’s plan of salvation in Jesus Christ.”

Despite the reality described above, there are people who have a complete misunderstanding of what the Bible is about. And that’s rather unfortunate.

Recently on this blog, I had an extended interaction with an atheist who read and commented on one of my posts. At some point during the online conversation, the atheist made the following comment about the Bible and God:

The bible has numerous books filled with violence and much of this violence is by your god. It sounds like he has no idea how to be a god of peace. Doesn’t he have an anger management problem, if he exists? No wonder that the bible is the best book for creating atheists. You need to read it properly.

My response to him went as follows:

If you believe that God has an anger issue, it means you are admitting that He exists in the first place. When you are honest about that, we can begin to explore the nature of God, which obviously you have misunderstood. Your claim about the Bible being a book for creating atheists is malicious. You know it’s not true. You became an atheist by your choice… so stop blaming it on the Bible.

Conclusions

I don’t know what everyone else think. But in my own opinion, the Bible is not a book for creating atheists. So it could not have been the best book for doing so as claimed by that reader.

Anyone that chooses to become an atheist, does so out of his or her own volition. So it will be wrong to blame it on the Bible.

The Bible is a book about God and His people. It tells the story of man from creation till when the world will end and beyond. It is a book for conviction, instruction, correction in righteousness and it prepares us for good works.

The Bible serves to bring us closer to God; not to take us away from Him. To that effect, anyone who claims to have read the Bible back to back without discovering God in it has either read a different Bible or has read it with the wrong mindset.

What do you think say?

Imagine An Atheist Calling Me An Atheist

Any follower of this blog would already know that I believe in God. That fact has never been hidden in any way.

I would add that I do not just believe in God in the general sense of it, I believe in Him in the sense of having a personal relationship with Him through faith in His Son Jesus Christ whom I have willingly accepted as my Lord and personal Saviour.

On this blog I have written sufficient number of posts to have made it clear enough that I don’t belong to atheists’ camp. So you can imagine my surprise when one of my readers (ostensibly a first-timer) suggested in one of his comments to the post The Problems with Atheists that I could be an “atheist masquerading as a Protestant Fundamentalist.”

In the referenced post, I had pointed out that:

Atheists do not have what it takes to come to the conclusion that God does not exist. So when you have anyone claiming God does not exist, understand that he or she is either being insincere or is displaying his or her ignorance. Or as the Bible puts it, he or she is simply being foolish.

Just like the Sadducees that accosted Jesus over a question on resurrection, whereas they didn’t believe in resurrection, the problem with atheists who go about discrediting God and the notion of His existence is that they neither know the Scriptures nor the power of God.”

Though not unexpected, there were many backlashes from atheists over that post. Sad to say, many of the comments from them went off course. One of such comments was what inspired the title of this present post:

Are you a Catholic? Do you accept the teaching of the church? Isn’t it the church that interprets the bible? Or are you really an atheist who is masquerading under the mask of Protestant Fundamentalism?

If you’re a Fundamentalist, the former Fundamentalist pastor (now atheist) called Bruce Gerencser will chop your arguments up and make mince meat of them. He doesn’t hate God. He just doesn’t believe that God exists. What he hates is Fundamentalists pontificating on God and Fundamentalists misrepresenting atheists.

You guys, both Catholics and Protestants, are suffering from what Richard Dawkins calls “The God delusion”.

Although the comment was full of rabbit trails, I cut to the chase in the response I gave to it:

I’m not a Catholic, neither am I Protestant fundamentalist, as you put it. And your suggestion that I could be an atheist is even more laughable. How could I be so foolish to be an atheist? I know better!

For the avoidance of doubts, I am a disciple of Jesus Christ who believes in God as the creator of all things, who has accepted the saving grace that is available in Christ Jesus alone for the forgiveness of my sin and I’m living my life to please God.

I understand what the Bible says, “only fools say God doesn’t exist.” So between those of us who believe that God exists and those [of you] that don’t believe, we know who is delusioned.

Dawkins’ book is seriously mistaken in the claim that there is no God. From the reviews I have read, I know the book is an attack on God and Christianity. Anger. Hatred.

It is okay to note that the God he claims doesn’t exist, makes him so angry. That’s the same trait I have seen in many atheists I have interacted with.

no one can convince you there is God

Talking about the atheists I have had online conversations with in the past, many of them (if not all of them) would also call us delusionists for believing that God exists. Recently, I had to quip to one of them:

“If those of us who believe in God are delusionists, then those [of you] who don’t believe in Him must be worse off because atheism does not make sense at all.”

That response may appear harsh to some people, but that was as nice I could be. I believe the irony in it is clear enough for everyone to understand.

For emphasis sake, I am not an atheist. And I don’t want to be one. I believe that God exists and I believe in His Son Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal Saviour.

Atheism does not make sense to me at all. It’s all foolishness parading as knowledge. “”The fool says in his heart, “There is no God”” Psalms 14:1. I stand on that Biblical position.

All the same, I thank God for His mercies that are seeing some atheists come to Christ. How I wish these ones here will one day see their folly and also come to Christ before it becomes too late for them.

Thank you for reading. Your views are welcome.

Dear Parents, Forgive Your Erring Children

The account of the ever popular story of the prodigal son in the Bible is one of the greatest stories of forgiveness ever written. Jesus told the story to demonstrate the unconditional love of God for us mankind.

No matter how much we think we have erred against God, He will always forgive and accept us if we come back home to Him. As Jesus Himself assured us, “…he that comes to me, I will in no wise cast out” (John 6:37).

As parents, can we learn and apply that principle in the way we treat our erring children? I will like to answer ‘yes’ to that question.

The prodigal son’s father forgave his betrayal, disloyalty, rebellion, foolishness, greed, recklessness, haughtiness, impatience and extravagance. There is no reason we should not extend same kind of forgiveness to our erring children – irrespective of the offences they have committed, or will ever commit against us.

We do not easily give up on those we love – whatever they do to us. And we love our children. So why shouldn’t we always forgive them when they err against us?

As humble parents, we will admit that our children constantly do things that annoy us. Blame it on the effect of hormones or peer pressure or whatever reasons that may be adduced, our children may not always be at their best behaviours towards us. That’s the reality of the life we live in as the earthly custodians of those precious souls.

A humble parent forgives his/her children all their wrongs because he/she too needs forgiveness from the Father above.

So when our children fall below our expectations (they will definitely do), should we continue to hold it against them? I think we should forgive them!

Should we ostracize them when their behaviours embarrass us? I think we shouldn’t!

First and foremost, we owe forgiveness to our children for whatever offences they have committed or will ever commit against us. Forgiveness is good for our overall mental and emotional well-being. Besides, God Himself does not expect any less from us.

Secondly, we should never cut-off from our children because they broke our hearts. Whether we like it or not, we are bound to them forever by our blood relationship. So as parent’s we cannot should not disown our children when they err.

Just like the loving father forgave the biblical prodigal son, we should always forgive our erring children. No matter how grave the offences might be, let us find it in our hearts to forgive them. It is part of our calling as parents.

How do you think parents should handle their erring children?

The Problems With Atheists (Finally Figured Out)

Atheists are people who believe that God does not exist.

In the course of running this blog, I have encountered some of them and have had various interactions with them. From some of my interactions with them, I could see that even though they all claim God does not exist, many of them still have problem with God.

They sometimes question His love, His justice and His character and are obviouly angry at Him. One of them even called God ‘a baby-killer’.

To that I asked him, “I thought you claimed God didn’t exist? How could He be a baby-killer if He didn’t exist?”.

The question is, if atheists truly believe that God does not exist, why does it bother them so much when we say He does? Why do they express so much angst towards God and any mention of Him or His attributes?

I have contemplated that question for a while and I came to the conclusion that in their heart of hearts, atheists know that God exists but they just don’t want to acknowledge Him. They may deny that they ‘know’, but I will not be surprised about that.

I see no reason they should continue to engage in diatribes against God. I mean, what is the essence of trying to prove that a ‘non-existent’ God does not exist? They obviously have a problem they haven’t probably figured out!

As believers, atheists scorn us for believing that God exists. But they turn blind eyes to their own folly in not believing that He exists.

Also, they don’t fully realise their own limitation in not knowing all things yet are boldly proclaiming that God does not exist. Doesn’t that validate the biblical position that only fools say God does not exist?

The only way to know without an iota of doubt that God does not exist is to possess the capability of being ‘all-knowing’. As you know, no man alive or dead, including atheists themselves possess that kind of knowledge.

So I would totally agree with one Hank Hanegraaff when he said, “atheism involves a logical fallacy known as a universal negative. Simply stated, a person would have to be omniscient and omnipresent to be able to say “there is no God” from his own pool of knowledge.

“Only someone capable of being in all places at the same time — with a perfect knowledge of all that is in the universe — can make such a statement based on the facts. In other words, a person would have to be God to say there is no God. Hence, the assertion [that God does not exist] is logically indefensible.”

Simply put, atheists do not have what it takes to come to the conclusion that God does not exist. So when you have anyone claiming God does not exist, understand that he or she is either being insincere or are displaying their ignorance. Or as the Bible puts it, they are simply being foolish.

Just like the Sadducees that accosted Jesus over a question on resurrection, whereas they didn’t believe in resurrection, the problem with atheists who go about discrediting God and the notion of His existence is that they neither know the Scriptures nor the power of God.

By not knowing the Scriptures here, I do not mean to say that atheists have never read the Bible, because I know many of them have. The problem is that those of them who have read it lack the proper understanding of it.

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Let the conversation continue in the comment section.

“How Do I Keep My New Year Resolution Of No More Premarital Sex?”

That was the question someone asked on an open online social network forum I belong to. The question was asked about four years ago, but it still feels so fresh like today’s stuff. That’s why I’m revisiting it here.

Premarital sex has to do with people engaging in sexual activities before they are legally married. In other words, sex before marriage!

“What’s wrong with sex before marriage?” you may ask.

Well, let me ask you back, “What’s wrong with opening a clinic and performing complicated surgeries before obtaining the medical licence to do so?”

You may say the analogies are not the same. But that’s your perspective.

My perspective (which is Biblical too) is that sex is to be practised within the holy confines of marriage. Anything outside of that is devil’s idea.

You may disagree with me over that but it will show two things: you don’t know God and you are not accountable to Him.

If you truly know God and you see yourself as accountable to Him, you will know of a fact that there is everything wrong with premarital sex.

Forget about the unwanted pregnancies or abortions that may result from it, the diseases one may contract through it, the broken trust and disappointments that may result from it, the guilt and the shame….Think of it as disobedience to God or as Joseph put it, a “great wickedness and sin against God” (See Genesis 39:9).

Did you see that? Premarital sex is sin against God. Nothing short of that.

“Everyone is doing it.” But that doesn’t make it right!

Perhaps the person that asked the question that formed the title of this post had come to that realisation that sex before marriage is not good; or may be she has not, I can’t tell for sure.

But one thing was sure: the person was looking for answers. And I felt compelled to put out my suggestions on that online forum.

Those contributions of mine form the bulk of the text that I’m sharing below.

First and foremost, we would agree that it is good to make new year resolutions on matters that are of interest to us – like that lady tried to do with stopping sexual activities before marriage.

Whether the resolutions are kept or not is another kettle of fish all together.

But what that poor lady failed to realise was that to be able to stop engaging in premarital coitus, it will take more than a simple resolution at the beginning of the year; it would require a more compelling reason.

Like I said to her, “Ordinary resolution is not enough. If the reason is not strong enough, you can’t keep the promise.”

I don’t know about you, but what reason(s) would I consider strong enough for the lady to stop all sexual activities before marriage?

1. That she is now born again, so old things have passed away, including engaging in premarital sex;

2. She is now convinced that premarital sex is a sin against God, so she is stopping the practice because she doesn’t want to continue in sin and continue to displease God;

3. That she is now trusting in God to help her keep the promise of abstinence till she gets married, not relying on her strength or willpower alone;

4. That she is now ready to obey God by staying away from sex until she is married, even at the risk of loosing her current man if he refuses to respect her decision to abstain.

If she is not sure of any of the above, I doubt if she can keep the promise of her new year resolution of discontinuing that practice of engaging in sex before marriage.

What do you think?


Why Does God Hate Divorce?

… Without a doubt, divorce was the worst season of my life. Nothing I’ve suffered since that time even comes close… absolutely nothing compares to the horrific pain of having a spouse decide, “I Don’t” after saying “I Do” Laura Petherbridge.

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In a previous post, we talked about the fact that God hates divorce. The natural question that would be precipitated by that statement will be:

Why does God hate divorce?

First and foremost, we all know that hate is a strong language, meaning “an intense dislike for.”

On the other hand, Divorce connotes  “the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.”

God says He hates divorce, meaning He has an intense dislike for it.

There must be some good reasons God does not like divorce. And those reasons are what this post seeks to explore.

If you ask me, I would say God hates divorce chiefly because He loves us and wants the best for us. He doesn’t want us to go through the pains, regrets and difficulties divorce action might occasion.

God loves us enough to inform us that He hates for us to subject our spouses to divorce. We all know that if you truly love someone, you wouldn’t want something bad to happen to him or her. Don’t you think God feels that much sympathetic towards us?

I guess you too have your reasons you think God says He hates divorce. (And I would like it if you would drop your views in the comment section of this post). For now let’s focus on what we can glean from the foundation scripture for this post and the previous one.

Malachi 2:15-16 – Let’s read it together:

15 Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.[b] And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. 16 “For I hate divorce!”[c] says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,[d]” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife” (NLT).

Based on this passage, let’s now explore further reasons God hates divorce:

1. God instituted marriage.

“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife?” asked Prophet Malachi.

God has made you one with the person you are married to. So why do you seek to be separated from him or her forever?

God instituted marriage for our enjoyment and His will for us is to have it as a life-long union. That’s why we say, “till death do us part” at the point of entering the marriage contract.

It is safe to say that divorce undermines the sanctity of this holy institution of marriage established by God. Therefore God hates divorce.

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2. God has a purpose for instituting marriage.

God did not only institute marriage, He had a purpose for doing so. The prophet here tells us that God seeks godly children (one translation uses the word “offsprings”) from our marriages.

“… And what does he want? Godly children from your union… Remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”

In order words, God expects our marital unions to bear godly seeds, godly fruits or godly results. You will agree with me that divorce will not qualify as a godly fruit.

Secondly, God also wants married couples to demonstrate loyalty to each other through thick and thin. And divorce flatly defeats that purpose.

3. Divorce has consequences

“To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,[d]” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies.

Wow, did you see that point in that verse you just read? Divorce is cruelty to your spouse. Another translation describes it as treachery.

Many people may disagree with that, but I know God’s word cannot be wrong. God would rather not have you go through the pains associated with divorce.

He hates it for you to bring divorce upon yourself or upon your spouse. He would rather have you shut the door on divorce…

Whatever you think, divorce will cost you – be it emotionally, financially or otherwise. Apart from the couple involved, other associated parties (including your children and other loved ones) also suffer when marriage fails and results in divorce. Divorce will cause you pains, anguish, depression and the like.

As Laura Petherbridge observed from her own experience, “…divorce was the worst season of my life. Nothing I’ve suffered since that time even comes close… absolutely nothing compares to the horrific pain of having a spouse decide, “I Don’t” after saying “I Do.””

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What’s your own view about why God hates divorce?


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Another Atheist Who Found God

“Being an atheist must be like living in a closed cell with no windows” – Anthony Hopkins.

If you are a movie enthusiast, I am sure you have heard about the name, Anthony Hopkins. But if you haven’t, a simple check on Wikipedia will convince you that he is not a man of mean achievements in the movie industry.

Let’s take a little peep:

“Sir Philip Anthony Hopkins CBE is a Welsh actor, director, and producer. He won the Academy Award for Best Actor in 1992, and was nominated three additional times. Hopkins has also won three BAFTAs, two Emmys, and the Cecil B. DeMille Award. In 1993, he was knighted by Queen Elizabeth II for services to the arts.”

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Anthony Hopkins. Photo Credit: CBN News

According to a report monitored via Godupdates, “Anthony Hopkins is one of the most well-known actors of our time. For years, he was a well-known atheist, too. But all of that changed when a woman at an AA meeting challenged his disbelief with one simple question… “Why don’t you trust God?“”

It was the expression, “For years, he was a well-known atheist” that first caught my attention. But I’m glad to learn that all that has changed.

You must now use the word “former” atheist when referring to Hopkins, because he has become a firm believer in the existence of God.

Not only that, he now “lives out his real life with Christ in his heart. He’s been an atheist before finding God and now he just feels sorry for atheists, comparing a life of disbelief to “living in a closed cell with no windows.”

Sir Hopkins’s transformation and conversion from atheism to Christianity began with his positive response to that question, “Why don’t you trust God?” at a time he was dealing with alcoholism.

A reputable source has it that,”miraculously Anthony says the craving to drink was taken from him, “never to return again.” And he’s believed in God ever since, working day after day, year after year, to grow in his faith.”

In the end, he not only got helped with overcoming the spirit of alcoholism which had bedeviled him, he transformed from being a man who didn’t believe that God exists to one that now affirms that He does.

“When asked in a CNN interview with Piers Morgan if he believed in God, former-atheist Anthony Hopkins replied wholeheartedly, “Yes, I do. I do.”

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What do you think?

Why Share Your Testimonies?

Has God ever done anything great for you? If nothing (which I doubt), what about the testimony of your salvation?

That’s assuming that you have given the lordship of your life over to Jesus Christ. And even if you have not, it doesn’t mean God never been good to you.

The truth is that if you think well enough, you will find something in your life that you are immensely grateful for, that you should be thanking God for and also be sharing with people around you.

It is a good thing to stand before people and testify of the goodness of God in your life. David once declared, “I will praise you to all my brothers; I will stand up before the congregation and testify of the wonderful things you have done” (Psalm 22:22, TLB)

So why don’t you want to share your testimonies?

Is it fear or shame or pride that is hindering you  from talkingt about the Lord’s goodness in your life? Aren’t you grateful God came through for you when you needed His help?

Whatever is it, let nothing stop you from sharing your testimonies of what God has done for you.

Sharing your your testimonies will bring the following benefits:

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1. Sharing your testimonies brings glory to God

The purpose of your testimony is to draw attention to God, not to put you on a pedestal of some sort. It is to exalt the name of the Lord before your audience.

Provided that you do not lie or exaggerate your testimonies, you bring glory to God whenever you share or testify of what God has done for you.

When you hoard your testimonies (and that’s what you do when you refuse to share them with people), you deny God the opportunity to be glorified or exalted before the people around you.

Don’t hold back any more; Share your testimonies with people, because doing so brings immense glory to God and shame to the devil.

2. Sharing your testimonies strengthen your faith in God

It is a thing of joy for you to openly talk about what God has done for you. Apart from the emotional relief or satisfaction it brings to you, it also empowers your faith in God.

It gives you that feeling that the God who delivered you now will do so for you again next time.

In the dialogue between King Saul and the shepherd boy David before the latter when to fight Goliath, David testified,

“The LORD who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.” Saul said to David, “Go, and the LORD be with you” (2 Samuel 17:37).

It was this testimony that inspired David to confront and completely defeat the war veteran known as Goliath

Testimonies are part of your spiritual weapons. Remember the following words in Revelation, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony…” (12:11).

3. Sharing your testimonies encourages other people to trust God more

Apart from strengthening your own faith in God, sharing your testimonies can also encourage your hearers.

Let’s say you were in a pit and God delivered you from it. Right now many people are in the same pit you once were. Sharing the testimony of how God delivered you will inspire hope in them and strengthen their faith in God for possible deliverance as well.

Your testimony has the potential of revealing God to people or pointing to them to God. So it is a great disservice to people around you if you fail to share your God-given testimonies with them.

4. Sharing your testimonies slaps the devil big time

If sharing your God-given testimonies brings glory to God, it automatically has the opposite effect on the devil. It shames him and beats him up big time.

Understand this: if your pride stops you from sharing the testimonies of what God has done for you, you are in effect giving the devil opportunity to smile. I will assume that’s not what you want to keep doing.

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It is a good thing to share with people the testimony of what God has done for you. When you do so, you bring glory to God, you strengthen your faith in God, you encourage other people to trust in God more and you bring shame to the devil.

Do you find it easy or feel ashamed to share your testimonies? Leave us a comment or two.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

On The Resurrection Story And The Cover Up Conspiracy

RESURRECTION

It is unfortunate that some people in the modern world have chosen to dismiss the Biblical account of the resurrection story as a work of fiction or a product of deluded minds. But you see, anyone who denies that Jesus rose from the death does so at his or her own risk, one that has an eternal consequence.

Doubters may continue to doubt, but it does not change the fact that Jesus died and rose from the dead.  So He is no longer in the grave

In Christianity, the resurrection of Jesus Christ is considered the greatest event ever. In fact, it is the foundation of the Christian faith.

Without it, we would not have a solid foundation for our faith. Without it, what we would have is another dead religion.

Apostle Paul underscored this point when he wrote to the Church in Corinth saying, “And if Christ has not been raised, then all our preaching is useless, and your faith is useless” (1 Corinthians 15:14).

Gratefully, the gospel is not useless and our faith is not a useless one either.

Ther reason is that it is a historical fact (despite what some skeptics may say) that Jesus physically resurrected from the dead.

One thing about that is sure, the resurrection of Jesus was not a bolt from the blues. It was something that was talked about long before it actually happened.

There were several prophecies about it. For instance, here is a quote from the book of Psalms:

“…you will not abandon me to the realm of the dead, nor will you let your faithful one see decay” (16:10, NIV).

When God raised Jesus was the dead, that Scripture was fulfilled.

Jesus Himself talked about His resurrection well in advance. In Mathew’s Gospel, we read of the following account:

“See, we are going up to Jerusalem. And the Son of Man will be delivered over to the chief priests and scribes, and they will condemn him to death and deliver him over to the Gentiles to be mocked and flogged and crucified, and he will be raised on the third day” (20:18-19, ESV).

In essence, Jesus stated that the Gentiles (in this case, the Romans) would condemn and crucify him, but He would rise up on the third day.

Whatc be clearer than that?

Anyway, that was exactly what happened: Jesus was crucified and put in a grave. But on the third day, He came out alive by divine power.

By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also (1 Corinthians 6:14).

An Angel announced to the first women who visited the grave, “…Do not be afraid, for I know that you seek Jesus who was crucified. He is not here, for he has risen, as he said. Come, see the place where he lay” (Matt. 28:5-6, ESV).

Following this awesome resurrection story, the soldiers who were stationed to guard the grave went to town to narrate their experience. But they did it in away to make them look good.

That gave rise to the cover-up conspiracy as reported below:

And when they had assembled with the elders and taken counsel, they gave a sufficient sum of money to the soldiers and said, “Tell people, ‘His disciples came by night and stole him away while we were asleep.’ And if this comes to the governor’s ears, we will satisfy him and keep you out of trouble” (Matt. 28:12-14, ESV).

Despite this conspiracy, we know that Jesus rose from the dead; His disciples didn’t steal Him away as alleged. “… God raised him from the dead, freeing him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for death to keep its hold on him” (Acts 2:24, NIV).

Jesus resurrected and He is alive forever.

Centuries later, we are still celebrating the risen Lord. That proves that the conspiracy that His disciples stole His body could not successfully cover up the resurrection story. And it never will!


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Has God Heard From You In a While?

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I recently watched a movie that inspired the title of this post. It was about a best–selling author who suddenly began to face unexpected personal and financial challenges.

Missed writing deadlines, tax issues, relationship break downs, debts, etc. were some of the pressing issues she was seen to be grappling with. All these made her insensitive, irritable, rude, cold-hearted and unproductive – to the dismay of her friends and family.

The good part was that she knew things weren’t going on so well with her. she tried to concoct various plans as quick-fixes for her nagging problems.

At one point she seriously contemplated ‘relocating’ to another continent (from America to Africa) to have more time for herself. But she never went through with the plan.

In another occasion, she tried selling off her father’s restaurant business in order to raise the needed funds to settle her outstanding tax and other financial obligations that threatened to have her being put behind prison bars. But her parents opposed this idea very strongly, assuring her that there must be better ways of handling the issues.

Now this is where I am going…

In the heat of her crisis and rejection, this protagonist knelt down in her room and began to sob and to pray saying, “Oh Lord, I know You have not heard from me in a while…”

In what seemed like a short but a heartfelt prayer to God, she poured out her confusion, fears, and problems before God. Although all her problems didn’t varnish all at once, it seemed that things began to work out better for her from then onward.

“Oh Lord, I know You have not heard from me in a while…” That opening line alone got me giggling aloud.

God hasn’t heard from her, or rather, she hadn’t talked to Him in weeks, in months or possibly in years. But now in her predicaments, she remembered she could still talk to God.

You see, it reminds me about people who once had a relationship with God but are now estranged from Him. God hasn’t heard from them in a while too!

May be you are even one of such people. If only you would get back to God like this woman in our discourse or like the prodigal son got back to the waiting embrace of his father. Things would be better for you again.

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Do you have any comment about this post? Let’s have your opinion in the comment section.


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

Another Look At The Meaning Of Tolerance

What does “tolerance” mean to you?

I know the word is not new to you as people frequently use it. What I don’t know is how much of its real meaning you have understood and applied in your own sphere of influence.

You may probably have been tempted to think that tolerance strictly means to put up with something or someone with very nasty, horrible, terrible or poignant attributes. Not really!

Please take a good look at the definition below and compare it with what you already know about the meaning of the word:

Tolerance:

“Willingness to accept behaviour and beliefs which are different from your own.”

 

I don’t know about you, but the definition above opened up an entirely new vista to me, of which I am glad.

It shows for instance that tolerance doesn’t say we should put up with evil or bad things or bad people. But it clearly portrays “willingness to accept behaviour and beliefs which are different from [our] own.”

Now let’s take a closer look at the key aspects of the said definition:

• Willingness to accept…
• Behaviour and beliefs…
• Different from your own…

Tolerance would be required wherever there are inter-human relationships because you will always meet people whose behaviour and beliefs are different from yours.

That’s why tolerance may also be understood as “the ability or willingness to tolerate the existence or opinions or behaviour that one dislikes or disagrees with.

That means you can disagree with someone without going to war with him or her.

It means you should have an open mind towards someone even when he or she has an opinion that is completely different from yours.

Due to a number of varied factors such as genetic make-up, family background, religion, education, geography, exposure, life experiences etc, all of us believe different things and behave differently from one another.

That means that at any point in time in your chequered life, you will always see people who behave or believe differently from you; whose opinions about issues are not like yours. 

The question would then be, “how would you deal with such people?”

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In order to coexist harmoniously with such people, you should be willing to tolerate them if you cannot change them.

Talking about changing people, experience has shown that many people are aware that some other people do not share their opinions, behaviour or beliefs.

But some times, they are unwilling to accept such other people who do not share their outlook. This is often the beginning of unnecessary conflicts in human interactions.

However, you may only try to effect some changes on peoples’ behaviour or beliefs if possible to suite yours; but you shouldn’t try to use force.

By the way, you can’t change anyone who doesn’t really want to be changed. You can only influence such person.

When it comes to changing someone’s behaviour or beliefs, influence should be the operating word, not force.

Otherwise, you must bring to bare the willingness to accept their behaviour and beliefs which you perceive to be different from your own and which you cannot change.

That, my friend, is the real meaning of tolerance.

Bear in mind that tolerance is a seed; as you sow it, you will reap the sweet harvest.

Don’t you realise that other people would have to tolerate you too?

I believe you know that not all your opinions, behaviour and beliefs are acceptable to everyone you come in contact with!

Although, I cannot guarantee it, other people too ought to be willing to accept your opinions, behaviour and beliefs which are different from their own. That is if they know what it means to practice tolerance.

There is no worthwhile relationships with people that do notnot requ tolerance in between.

Like all good habits, tolerance doesn’t just happen to us; it has to be cultivated deliberately and ‘open-heartedly’.

It is very important to cultivate it because you will need it if you desire to build a meaningful, harmonious and long-lasting relationship of any kind.

Here are a few areas where we can apply the principle of tolerance:

At home, between spouses , amongst siblings or other family members;
At work, between you and your boss, colleagues or direct reports;
In your neighbourhood, amongst co-tenants, etc
Amongst your friends, classmates in schools etc
In churches, with members and leaders alike;
In other organisations /relationships, etc

In fact, anywhere you come in contact with humans, tolerance is needed. As you well know, no body is perfect.

People are different. You are not everyone and everyone is not you. Therefore, there will always be differences in opinion, behaviour and beliefs between you and others.

There would be conflicts all the time in all kinds of human relationships if the principle of tolerance is not imbibed.

The extent to which you realise this differences and how well you are willing to accept and manage them depict your level of tolerance at any given period.

What does tolerance mean to you? Let’s hear from you in the comment section.

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Previously published on this blog in 2015 as “What tolerance really means.”

On The 6 Jews Said To Have Dramatically Impacted All History

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In a sub-article , How Israel and the Jews have shaped history, Adrian Rogers observed that “As you study history, you learn that the indestructible Jew has left his indelible mark upon history. The Jewish people are not great in number. Of the world’s population, they are only 0.2%. That’s not two percent. That’s less than one-fourth of one percent. Yet did you know that 22% of Nobel Prize winners have been Jews? In 2013, six of the 12 laureates were Jewish…”

Rogers argument is that although the Jews are few in number, they have made tremendous contributions to the development of the world as we know it – be it “…in medicine, health, music, and public life.”

Buttressing his point, Rogers employed rhetoric by drawing attention to some of the useful inventions by Jews:

“Have you ever taken an aspirin? Friedrich Bayer, whose company developed aspirin, was a Jew. Were you vaccinated for polio as a child? The injectable and oral polio vaccines of Salk and Sabin were so effective, the disease has been all but eradicated.

Has the dentist ever deadened your tooth before he started to drill? Alfred Einhorn, who developed Novocain, was a Jew…”

You can head over to Crosswalk.com to read the full article. But here in this post we will further examine it’s concluding paragraph:

“All history has been dramatically impacted by six Jews: Moses, Paul, Karl Marx, Sigmund Freud, Albert Einstein, and above them all, the Lord Jesus Christ.”

There are many things we know about these people that make them great. Time and space will fail me to delve into how all six of them dramatically impacted history.

So let us take a little peep into three of them with Biblical history: Moses, Paul and Jesus:

1. Moses

There many things that are remarkable about this man referred to as the meekest man on earth.  As one source noted, Moses is “Universally recognised as the deliverer of his people, the Israelites, from slavery in Egypt, biblical and human history also credit him with establishing Israel’s judicial and religious systems.”

2. Apostle Paul

Paul has been described as the Apostle of Apostles and the writer of two-thirds of the New Testament Bible. As noted in the Encyclopaedia Britannica,  “Paul is often considered to be the most important person after Jesus in the history of Christianity. His epistles (letters) have had enormous influence on Christian theology, especially on the relationship between God the Father and Jesus, and on the mystical human relationship with the divine.”

3. Jesus Christ

Indeed, Moses, Paul, Freud, Einstein and Jesus impacted the history of this world as we know it. However, Jesus Christ is the greatest of all. He is the Saviour of the world. and you know what? He is my Saviour too!


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

The Question About Knowing Your Final Destination When You Die

A reader recently commented on one of my posts. And I followed his trail to his blog where I read some interesting posts.

In Suicidal thoughts/In case tomorrow never comes, the author asked some amusing questions and suggested that we think or blog about them. I am taking up the challenge here by answering one of the many questions he asked.

Of all the thirty five questions on the list, this one (which was incidentally no 1) tickled my fancy the most:

“If you had the chance to find out where your final destination would be after you die right now at this moment, would you wanna know?”

My immediate response to that question was, “…I am glad that I don’t have to wait till I die to know where I would be when I die. As a believer in Christ, I know I will be with God when I die. Can one be sure about this on this side of the earth? Yes, but’s that’s a story for another day.”

Further to that impromptu comment of mine, this post is my humble attempt at addressing that question in detail. And I am speaking as someone who believes in God through Jesus Christ and accepts the Bible as the authentic word of God.

I reckon that we would understand the discussion better if I broke my ‘story’ into smaller units as follows:

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1. There is an “after life”

First of all, let me affirm here (as rightly presupposed in the question) that there is life after death. And whether you believe in it or not does not change the fact that an ‘afterlife” exists.

If you are a believer, we have an assurance from Jesus Christ that a place is being prepared for us to be when we die. “And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also” John 14:3.

Apostle Paul also made reference to the ‘afterlife’ in some of his Epistles. “If I am to go on living in the body,” he says, “this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far” (see Philippians 1:21-23).

So my dear reader, recognise that it is a fundamental human error – with an eternal consequence – to believe that we cease to exist when we die; that all we have in this life is all there is, that there is no life after death.

In the article What happens when we die?, Matt Slick points out, “Some people believe that when we die, we just stop existing. Biblically, this is not true. According to Scripture, we continue after death. But, if we stop existing we will never know it. Therefore, the only thing we could “know” after death is if we continue. Is it worth taking a chance on eternity in the afterlife by hoping you don’t exist anymore? It’s a huge risk to take.”

2. You don’t have to wait till you die to “find out where your final destination would be.”

If you have to wait till you to die to determine the question of the ‘after life’ then it would have been too late. Your time on earth is your opportunity to “decide” your final destination when you die.

If you don’t consciously decide on it before you die, you would have automatically decided that you would spend your afterlife without God. Continue reading to see ‘how’.

life after death

3. What the Bible teaches

We understand from the word of God that there are only two possible final destinations for man at the end of life here on earth. One is Heaven, and the other is Hell (Matthew 25:46).

I am sure that you have heard about heaven or hell spoken of from many perspectives. What I am not sure is whether you have firmly understood in your mind what they each stand for.

Suffice to say here that Heaven, is the presence of God, a place full of bliss. Hell, is a place without the presence of God, a place of damnation.

In Revelation 14:11, we are given a glimpse of the kind of torment that will be experienced by the occupants of hell – satan and everyone else who sides with him. “And the smoke of their torment rises for ever and ever. There is no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and his image, or for anyone who receives the mark of his name.”

4. Your destiny is in your hand.

When it comes to deciding where you will spend your after life, I would say it is up to you to decide. First, you have to ‘accept’ that there is an “after life.”

And there are only two possible places you can spend it. It will either be in heaven or in hell.

The only way to spend it in heaven is to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Saviour while you are still alive here on earth. “Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved” (Acts 4:12).

So it is in your best interest to not only acknowledge that there is an afterlife, but also to plan or prepare for it.

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Do you believe in the afterlife? What’s your view?


©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne

The Greatest Birth Ever

Born to be king

He is God

But He consented to be born of woman

Born of a virgin lady

He became flesh and blood

Taking on the nature of Man

But as He is the seed of the Holy Spirit

He wouldn’t inherit the sin-nature of man.

His birth was not a happenstance

It was a fulfillment of divine prophecy

Part of Heaven’s grand design

To redeem mankind from depravity.

 

In a time like this, yearly

We celebrate the greatest birth ever

The Son of God

And the Son of man

Born to be the Saviour

Immanuel – God with us

Jesus, King

Wonderful, Counsellor

The everlasting Father

The Mighty God

The Prince of Peace

All hail King Jesus!

 

Merry Christmas everyone


©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

 

Bartimaeus: 9 Inspirational Lessons From A Blind Man

the story of blind Bartimaeus

The unstoppable man

Bartimaeus was blind but he could hear. He didn’t have the sight to see Jesus, but he had the ear to hear that he (Jesus) was passing his way.

At a certain time in His ministry, Jesus and His disciples visited the city of Jericho. And as they left the metropolis, they  were thronged from behind.

In the process, Bartimaeus, a blind roadside beggar who heard that Jesus Christ of Nazareth was passing by began to call out to Him as loud as he could, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”

The people around him tried to shut him down. But the more they tried to make him keep quiet, the louder he shouted. He eventually got the attention of Jesus who healed him of his blindness (Matthew 10:46-52).

You cannot read the story of this blind man without being inspired by his persistent attitude. As I looked at the story again, I realised that there are many things we can learn from him.

The story of Bartimaeus was one of a beggarly  blind man, who could hear, who had faith, had courage, had focus, had a voice, who proved to be unstoppable, and who got his desired miracle: restoration of sight when he encountered Jesus Christ.

The event might have happened over two thousand years  ago but there are life lessons from it that we can apply today in our lives today.  And that is why I am writing this post, with the hope that you will pick a lesson or two.

Here is the account of the story of blind Bartimaeus as recorded in the Gospel of Mark:


Mark 10:

46And they came to Jericho: and as he went out of Jericho with his disciples and a great number of people, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the highway side begging.

47And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.

48And many charged him that he should hold his peace: but he cried the more a great deal, Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.

49And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise; he calleth thee.

50And he, casting away his garment, rose, and came to Jesus. ” He began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

51And Jesus answered and said unto him, What wilt thou that I should do unto thee? The blind man said unto him, Lord, that I might receive my sight.

52And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole. And immediately he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.


9 Good lessons you can learn from blind Bartimaeus (and apply in your life right now)


1. Bartimaeus had information that Jesus was passing by

“...When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth…”

As I observed in the introduction, Bartimaeus might have been blind, but he could hear. And he used his hearing sense very well. He had correct and timely information that Jesus was coming around.

Whatever situation you find yourself, you need the right information to bring about the desired change.  For Bartimaeus, all he needed to hear was that Jesus was passing through his territory and he knew what to do with that information…

Do you have timely and accurate information at your disposal? Do you have the kind of information that will positively impart your life? Are you even actively seeking for relevant information that will make you live healthier, happier or even wealthier?

You might be shocked that the change you need right now is in the information you haven’t heard yet. Seek information.

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2. Bartimaeus used the information on Jesus presence to his advantage

“He began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

It is one thing to have the correct information at your disposal. It is another to use it to your advantage. Bartimaeus got it right on both spheres.

He had the correct information that Jesus was passing by, he capitalised on it to get healed. Even if it meant creating a scene,  he was not bothered.

Based on the information available at his disposal, Bartimaeus cried out and he got helped. He was not the only blind person in Jericho who might have heard that Jesus was passing by. But he did not only hear, he also acted proactively based on what he heard.

I have no doubt that blind Bartimeaus must have heard about Jesus healing the blind, the lame, the deaf and the dumb before. He had to do whatever he had to do to get the attention of Jesus, so that he too could be healed.

Bartimaeus recognised an opportunity and he took it; He knew that it was not enough to have Jesus come around his vicinity.  It was his one-in-a-lifetime opportunity to get healed of his blindness. So he called out to Jesus for the help he so badly needed.

What good information do you have at your disposal right now that you are not using? It is not enough to have the right information. You have to make appropriate use of it – to your advantage. Bartimaeus would have remained blind if he had not used the information he had to meet Jesus.

3. Bartimaeus had a revelation of who Jesus is

So Bartimaeus called out to Him, “Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

In Matthew 1:1, we have it recorded, “The book of the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David, the son of Abraham…” But He is more than that: He is the long-awaited Messiah, the Saviour, the Deliverer.

Blind Bartimaeus did not only recognised Jesus as the Son of David, he also knew that the mercies of God are with Him. Hundreds of years before that time, God had promised David that He would never withdraw His mercies from him.

but my steadfast love will not depart from him, as I took it from Saul, whom I put away from before you. And your house and your kingdom shall be made sure forever before me. Your throne shall be established forever. 2 Samuel 7:15-16

Now Jesus has become the custodian of all grace… And Bartimaeus knew it!

What revelation do you have about Jesus? Is He your Saviour, healer, deliverer, helper, lover, provider, protector, master? The revelation you have about His identity will often determine how you relate with Him, or call out to Him for help like Bartimaeus did.

4. Bartimaeus showed courage in the midst of intimidation

And many charged him that he should hold his peace: but he cried the more a great deal, Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.”

Bartimaeus was a very courageous man. Or how else can you explain the fact that he refused to be intimidated into silence by the many people who tried to shout him down?

Strong able-bodied men who had their sense of sight intact wanted to stop this blind man from asking Jesus for help. But, thankfully, he proved to be unstoppable; the more they tried to  silence him, the more he shouted out loud. “Son of David, have mercy on me.”

Think about it, how many times you have abandoned a good project simply because everyone went against you! Learn from this man, and show courage no matter the level of intimidation you may face.

So long as you are on the right path, don’t allow anyone intimidate you into oblivion. Like blind Bartimaeus, shout if you need to!

5. Added to his courage, Bartimaeus showed persistence till he got Jesus’ attention

“And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise; he calleth thee.”

Bartimeaus persisted in the pursuit of what he wanted. The people wanted to stand in his way, but he went past them. They shouted him down many times, but he refused to be cowed until Jesus got his attention.

At long last, Jesus got to hear Bartimeaus’s call and responded,  “And Jesus stood still, and commanded him to be called. And they call the blind man, saying unto him, Be of good comfort, rise.”

I like that expression, Jesus stood still ! Why? Because of Bartimaeus’s importunity. An interesting twist to the story is that the same people who were trying to shout Bartimaeus down were the same people who were now telling him, “cheer up, Jesus is calling you.”

Don’t you think Jesus would have moved on without stopping if this man had not persisted in calling out to Him for help? You see, persistence pays! So you have to keep doing the right thing until you get the result you desire.

For instance, when you pray once and you do not see any visible result, what will you do? Quit? No – pray again, until your change comes.

6. Bartimaeus had to shed ‘excess weight’ to move closer to his goal

And he, casting away his garment, rose, and came to Jesus.”

What is that excess weight that may hinder you from reaching your goal faster? For Bartimaeus, it was his garment. I don’t know how heavy it was for him to carry but the fact that he had to cast it aside to answer Jesus’s call meant that it was obstructing his free movement.

Mind you, a garment was a necessity for Bartimaeus. But at that time it was coming between him and his quest to receive his sight back, so it had to be dropped.

What is that ‘important’ thing that is holding you down? What necessity are you carrying right now that is slowing your pace of progress? It is time to cast it aside in order to move faster and closer to your goal.

7.  Bartimaeus knew exactly what he wanted. 

“And Jesus answered and said unto him, What wilt thou that I should do unto thee? The blind man said unto him, Lord, that I might receive my sight.”

Why was Bartimaeus calling out to Jesus? He knew what he wanted!

Why did he refuse to keep quiet when the people told him to shut up?  He knew what he wanted!

Why did he run as fast as he could to meet Jesus once He invited him on?  He knew what he wanted!

It is not that Jesus didn’t see that Bartimaeus was blind. He wanted to afford him the privilege of making a specific request, and having it granted to him. So Jesus asked, what do you want me to do for you? Our man who already knew exactly what he wanted, replied, “that I may see Lord.”

Do you know exactly what you want in life? If you have been praying, are your requests clear and specific? It is high time you did some personal reevaluation in that regard.

If you don’t know what you want, find out. As someone I know used to say, “If you don’t define, you won’t find.”

Blind Bartimaeus

8. Bartimaeus had faith to be healed

“And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole. “

We see in Bartimaeus, a man of courage, a man that knew what he wanted, a fearless man. An unstoppable person. A man with with a voice. All well and good.

But in addition to all that, Jesus himself lets us know that Bartimaeus was also a man of faith. He had the faith that Jesus could make him receive his sight back and it worked!

“And Jesus said unto him, Go thy way; thy faith hath made thee whole.”

Faith without works is dead. Bartimaeus’s faith was not dead. It was active, vocal, proactive and well-directed. And it produced result – restoration of sight.

Faith, that’s what it takes to please God. That’s what guarantees that you will have what you asked for.

Whenever you come to God, never forget to apply your faith. It is what will make you whole!

9. Bartimaeus became a follower of Jesus at once

“And immediately he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.”

You might say that Bartimeaus’s decision to follow Jesus once he got his sight back was a natural response just like some other people who began to follow Jesus after He healed them. But he was not forced; it was a personal decision he made.

If you check the Gospels, you will see that there were people who were healed by Jesus but never bothered to follow Him.  There were also healed people who offered to follow Jesus immediately, but He didn’t oblige them.

For Bartimaeus, everything seemed to be going for Him. Although Jesus had told him, “Go your way,” he still stayed with Jesus and Jesus allowed him.

“…”Immediately, he received his sight, and followed Jesus in the way.” We were not told how long he followed Jesus. But he followed him all the same!

When you are blessed, you should not run away from God. If the blessing of God upon your life –  be it healing, prosperity, deliverance, or whatever else God does for you – drives you away from God, it means you have handled the blessing wrongly. God does things for us to win us to His side and not to lose us.

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What other lessons can we learn from the story of blind Bartimaeus?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

If You Are Blind, But Can You Hear?

Lessons from Blind Bartimaeus

You are not perfect – no one is. What you lack in one area of your life, you gain in another.

Just as all men do, you have some strengths and some weaknesses. But which ones do you focus more on?

Often times, you focus mostly on your weaknesses rather than on your strengths. By so doing, you fail to celebrate or properly harness your strengths to your fullest advantage.

How do I know you are not focusing on your strength?

  • You constantly think of what you don’t have instead of what you have.
  • You always bemoan what you can’t do instead of doing what you can.
  • You intentionally begrudge other people’s talent instead of harnessing yours.
  • You are regularly unhappy about the places you haven’t visited instead of celebrating the places you have visited.
  • You complain that you can’t ‘see’, but you forgot that you can ‘hear’.

While you are doing all that, you forget that time is not waiting for you. Opportunities are passing by that you could have harnessed to make your life a little better.

If that is you, then you have something to learn from the blind Bartimaeus in the Bible.

An account in the Gospel of Mark chapter 10 verse 46-47 has it that:


… and as [Jesus Christ] went out of Jericho with his disciples and a great number of people, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the highway side begging.

And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out, and say, Jesus, thou Son of David, have mercy on me.


And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth…

Did you see that?

When he heard…

That’s the pivotal phrase.

Victor Uyanwanne writes on lessons from blind Bartimaeus

This story wasn’t about Jesus Himself per se. It was the story of Bartimaeus, a beggarly blind man, who could hear, who had faith, had courage, had focus, had a voice, who proved to be unstoppable, and who got his desired miracle: restoration of sight.

As you can see, there are many good things about our man Bartimaeus. But for many years, he failed to harness his strength, dwelling on his weakness (blindness).

Consequently, he became a despised roadside beggar until this documented encounter with Jesus Christ that completely turned his life around for the better.

In the mean time, I will chip in the following counsel:

  • Focus on your strength. If you use it very well, the resultant gains may cover your weakness.
  • Focus on doing what you can do and stop being so unhappy about what is beyond your capabilities.
  • Use the talent you have, and don’t kill yourself over the ones you don’t have.

Bartimaeus was blind but he could hear. He didn’t have the sight to see Jesus, but he had the ear to hear that Jesus was passing his way.

With that information, he activated his faith and his voice. And He called out to Jesus, “Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.” And he got his sight back.

So I will ask you, if you can’t see, can you hear? Harness the power of your hearing first. Who knows, like Bartimaeus you will have your sight back in the process.


Picture Credits: 1. Photo by novia wu on Unsplash. 2. Photo by Stephen Arnold on Unsplash.


Have you ever let opportunities pass you by because you were focusing on your weakness rather than on your strength?


© Copyright 2018| Victor Uyanwanne

On Forgiveness

Revenge

1. God has forgiven your offences. He expects you to forgive other people too.

2. Unforgiveness is a big weight. Free yourself from it or else you may get crushed under it.

3. Happiness and unforgiveness don’t mix. Between the two, you have the power to choose the one you prefer.

4. You have the capacity to forgive anyone who offends you. No need pretending otherwise.

5. Forgive yourself. If you cannot forgive yourself hardly can you forgive others.

6. No matter what anyone has done against you, find a reason to forgive.

7. Forgiveness is a gift. You can give it even when someone doesn’t deserve it.

8. In the long run, forgiveness is sweeter than revenge.


Any comment?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

5 Good Ways Being Grateful For Your Salvation Will Impact Your Life

Everyone alive has something he or she should be grateful for. From the mundane to the sublime, there is always a reason to be thankful.

As followers of Jesus Christ, let’s relate that to our attitude towards the free gift of salvation we received from Above.

Many of us would say that our salvation is what we are most grateful for in this life. And that’s a great thing!

Jesus Himself taught that our greatest joy should be that our names are written in Heaven (See Luke 10:20). So it is well in order to feel immensely grateful to God for our salvation and also allow that joyful attitude to reflect in our daily living.

But do we really live our lives daily in a way that demonstrates that we truly appreciate our salvation? Are we as joyful as we should be?

Probably not! That’s why I am writing this post, because I’m convinced some of us are falling behind expectation in that regard.

Sometimes we are immensely grateful we are saved. Some other times we don’t even seem to remember we are saved. So we go about our lives not reflecting the attitude of gratitude both before God and our fellow man or woman.

It is my believe that if we are constantly thankful to God for the free gift of salvation we received in Christ, it will positively impact on the way we respond to God and the way we treat other people.

In this post, I will highlight five ways being grateful for your salvation will impact your life positively.

5 ways you will be positively impacted if you constantly feel grateful for your salvation

1. You will find it easier to live a life of gratitude, irrespective of your estate in life.

You have the capacity for gratitude that does not depend on your external circumstances. But the question is, “Are you using it towards God and your fellow humans?”

The Bible tells us that “In all things, we should give thanks to God.” That’s a way of saying you should always maintain a heart of gratitude.

I am not saying it will be easy to do. But it is something that can be done, even when life doesn’t go the way you want it.

As someone pointed out, “It is not everything that happens that is the will of God. But it is the will of God that you should give thanks to God no matter what happens.”

Being grateful for our salvation

2. You will live to please God rather than yourself or anyone else.

When you appreciate your salvation as something you could never achieve by your best efforts, but which God delivered to you undeservedly, it becomes imperative that you focus on pleasing the One Who got you saved in the first place.

God paid the highest price for your salvation so He deserves to get your highest love, greatest pleasure and deepest loyalty.

Before you were saved, you were living for yourself and for the devil.

Once you have been saved, you should begin to live your life to the glory of God. Always being grateful for your salvation will help you in that regard.

3. You will love other people more

When you love God with all your heart, loving other people becomes a less difficult challenge.

At salvation, you received the love of God in your heart. This love that has been shared abroad in your heart is what enables you to love other people, whether they are lovely or unlovely.

If you don’t value your salvation, you will underestimate the need to love other people with the same love God has loved you with.

4. You will not live a hopeless life

Hopelessness is a consequence of not having any expectation for a future good. But in Christ, you are guaranteed of a good future.

God has promised to bring you to an expected end. A glorious one!

Our salvation is not an end in itself. It is the restoration of our relationship with God here on earth and it points us to a more glorious future.

As a saved person you have hope in this world and in the world to come. You will not lose sight of that if you are someone that always appreciates your salvation.

Apostle Paul argues that, “If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable” 1 Corrinthians 15:19.

Because of your salvation in Christ, you have been born into a living hope that extends beyond this world into a glorious eternity.

5. Your faith will be strengthened

Ingratitude will drain your strength! But gratitude will empower you.

The greatest thing God did for mankind is sending Jesus to die for the salvation of the world. This singular act coupled with your positive response to it by faith is what afforded you the benefit/hope of eternal salvation.

If you appreciate this on a personal level, it will strengthen your faith in God and in the belief in His willingness to answer your prayers.

Just like Apostle Paul, you will reason that , “He [God] who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?” Romans 8:32, NASB


In what other ways do you feel being grateful for your salvation in Christ will positively impact your life?


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

What Are You Grateful For?

There is a saying in Nigeria that if you look carefully within or around you, you will definitely find something to be thankful for.

In other words, everyone has one reason or another to feel some sense of gratitude.

Look within you or around you.  Look back over the course of your life… l believe you should find some reasons to be grateful.

I dare say that it would not be correct for you to say there is nothing about you to be grateful for. So please don’t even go there…

Recently on my Facebook page, I asked this simple question:

Victor Uyanwanne asks a question on gratitude

The responses I received to that question are what I present to you in this post, with the hope that you too will join in the conservation aimed at identifying the things you are most grateful for in your life.

Interestingly, I didn’t have this post in mind when I asked that question. But as I examined the feedback I received, I began to feel the need to use them as basis to write this post.

The following points are the feedback I received from 4 respondents as the things they are grateful for:

1. My salvation. My parents for being there in my formative years. And many other things;

2. For God’s elaborate salvation plan that included me.

3. My salvation, and other priceless gifts too numerous to mention!

4. The legacy bequeathed me by my dad and mom.

All the responses came from very mature people (all of them over 50 years of age each). I would take that to mean that they know what they were talking about.

From the responses of these friends on Facebook, I was able to see that there are majorly two things they are grateful for:

1. For the salvation they have;

2. For the roles their parents played in their lives.

If necessary, I will explore this two reasons in subsequent blog posts. But here, let us just continue the conversation by having you identify what you are grateful for in life.


See also: What is your greatest joy in life?


Are you ready? Let me set the ball rolling.

Just like the above respondents, I am grateful to God for the salvation of my soul. But I’m more grateful that it happened early enough in life for me.

I gave my heart to God before my fourtheenth birthday. This has helped me in so many ways…

It helped me to form my values based on the word of God, shapened and steered my character – as a teenager then – in the right directions.

With my heart already dedicated to God, I found it easier to overcome peer pressure and other teenage vices that would have certainly led me in the wrong direction in life – away from God.

The core values that were instilled in me at that stage of life, have continually proved very useful in my adult life. For that I’m very grateful.

Let me not make this post about me only. It should be about all of us. So permit me to ask you the same question:

Looking back over your life these past years, what are the things you are most grateful for?

Kindly provide your answer in the comment section and thank you in advance for participating.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Adultery Will Cost You!

Fidelity in marriage

Marriage is a special institution established by God for His glory and for the enjoyment of mankind. And we are expected to treat the institution honourably.

Unfortunately, many people have been dishonouring their marriages by not protecting the sanctity of the marital unions as necessary.

Part of the requirements for safeguarding the sanctity of marriage is marital fidelity.

I do not mean to suggest that fidelity in marriage guarantees that a marriage will be happy and successful. But I can state categorically that marital infidelity is a sure way to destroy a marriage or make it fail.

It is required that in marriage, spouses should be faithful to their partners with their bodies. But what do we see sometimes amongst married people?

Adultery – willful sexual relationship with someone else other than your spouse!

Adultery is a grievous sin first before God and then before your marriage partner. Yet, some people engage in it without caring about the consequences.

Beyond the seeming pleasure derived from adultery, alot of pain is caused by it.

Anyone who commits adultery is playing with fire, and should not be surprised if the fire consumes him or her.

Here is a question from someone who seriously contemplated the danger of adultery:

Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Proverbs 6:27

The answer is no! You cannot put the fire of adultery on your lap and expect not to get hurt!

Marital infidelity

Here are additional warning against adultery from the book of Proverbs (NLT):

26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life

28 Can he walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? 29 So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife. He who embraces her will not go unpunished…

32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself (Emphasis mine).

As a follower of God, you will have known from the Bible that adultery is a serious sin, with eternal implications…

But beyond that, no one will deny that adultery has terrible consequences to the perpetrators and to the people along their paths.

Adultery damages nearly every relationship around it, including the extended family. Forgetting the goodness and mercy of God by giving in to immediate impulse and physical passion brings self-inflicted consequences to the body and soul… Ross Rhoads, Adultery – A Heartbreaking Sin

The following consequences might result from adultery:

  • Loss of reputation
  • Fear of being caught
  • Emotional pains
  • Divorce
  • Financial liability
  • Death
  • Sexually Transmitted Diseases
  • Unwanted pregnancy/Child
  • Distrust
  • Guilt
  • Loss of job, etc.

Talking about loss of job, that was what happened recently to a university professor in Nigeria. He was dismissed by his employers over a confirmed allegation of sexual misconduct.

Earlier in the year, a recorded conversation between the professor in question and one of his female students went viral in the social media circle in the country.

On that leaked audio, the randy professor was caught on tape soliciting sex from the post-graduate student in exchange for pass marks.

Following the public outcry over the sex-for-mark scandal, the school authority launched an investigation into the allegation.

The preliminary investigation found the professor guilty of the allegation, prima facie, and this led to the accused professor being suspended. However, the professor was later sacked upon the conclusion of necessary investigations.

One reputable media source reported that the Professor “was found to be liable for all allegations of [sexual] misconduct levelled against him… This led to the dismissal of the academic from the services of the university, to serve as a deterrent to others.”

The guilty-as-charged professor was dismissed “to serve as a deterrent to others.”

The need for strict safeguards

That’s one of the reasons I’m writing this post as well. If you realise the inherent danger in committing adultery, you will guard against it.

As David Boehi noted in an article on adultery published on Family Life website, “…All of us [should] realize the need to set up strict safeguards to ensure that we are faithful in our marriage commitment[s]. If I am convinced of what adultery would do to me and to my family, I will watch my wandering eyes, guard my thought life, and avoid any situations that could put me in harm’s way.”

Here is my final advice: Think twice before you commit adultery because it will cost you!


What’s your perspective on the consequences of adultery?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

On Truth And What You Believe

Belief and morality

One of the eternal words that Jesus ever uttered includes this one: And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (John 8:32).

Knowing the truth is the way to true freedom. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.”

But first, here is the question:

What is the truth?

“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me” John 14:6.

There goes another audacious claim of Jesus’:

  • He is the Way;
  • He is the Truth;
  • He is the Life.

With all these assertions, was Jesus just posturing or He is who He claims to be? I choose to believe the latter.

Therefore:

  • As Jesus is the Way, if you are following anyone other than Jesus alone, you are on the wrong path;
  • As Jesus is the Truth, if you have not believed Jesus as the full revelation of God’s truth to mankind, you have believed wrongly;
  • As Jesus is the Life, you will not have eternal life except you receive the life that only Jesus offers.

I know these are the kinds of statements that make some people mad. But Jesus did not offer any apologies when He made those audacious claims, neither would I.

a) Jesus is the Truth

First and foremost, truth is a person; Jesus is the Truth and He is unchanging…

So He can be trusted. You accept the truth to your eternal benefits and you reject it to your eternal peril.

There can be no meaningful “commitment to the authority of God” without a firm personal acceptance of Jesus Christ as the Truth.

b) The word of God is truth.

Jesus is the Word and the Word is truth, absolute truth. So the question of relative truth doesn’t apply…

All contemplations of truth must be hinged on God (through Jesus) and on His Word. You rise or fall to the truth you receive or reject.

That brings us to the question of morality.

The Standard for our morality

The word of God is truth. Therefore, more than anything else, the word of God must be the standard for our lives and the basis of our morality.

More than anything else, our morality should be based on what God thinks. Everything else is sinking sand…

But the choice is ours whether to base our morality on God’s thinking or not.

Our world today gives us three options for how to discover truth: We can choose to base our morality on what we think, on what other people think, or on what God thinks. We really have no other options. Our choice will dictate how we live, how we love, and, someday, how we die. But it’s our choice. What will you choose? – Rick Warren, in the devotional article, “You can know the truth by looking at God.”

The best foundation for our morality should be on God’s truth. Atheists may think otherwise, but I reckon that any question on morality cannot but have God in the picture.

Without God, the source of truth, there can be no a proper sense of right or wrong.

Any philosophy of life not backed by the word of God, irrespective of whoever might have propounded it, cannot be the truth.

The absolute truth as we should know it is the word of God only; whether in part or as a whole, the word of God is truth. I didn’t say so, Jesus did.

Jesus once prayed for His disciples, “Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth” (John 17:17, emphasis mine).

Yes, the word of God is truth!

But there is a tragedy

Instead of choosing to knowing and living by the truth of God’s word, many people today have chosen to embrace some philosophies that are now destroying the moral fabric of the society.

Many people now believe what they want to believe. And feel they can live their lives how they want it, with or little considerations for the issues of morality.

Writing along that line in a recent devotional article, author of the best-seller The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren, reminds us that What You Believe Shapes Your Life.

As he puts it, “What you believe determines your behavior. Your behavior then determines what you become, and that has a direct effect on the direction of your life.”

So you see why the behaviour of the world is going haywire? They have rejected the truth, living a lie and heading in godless directions.

If you think godless thoughts, you will believe godless things and make godless choices!

Knowing Jesus and accepting God’s word as the truth will help shapen correctly what you believe and how you live.


©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

How Do You Define Victory?

Surrender

In the Christian life, victory could be defined as living each day with Jesus Christ at the center of everything. We commonly refer to this as “surrender”, which is ironic.

In the world to surrender means you lose, but when you surrender everything to Jesus Christ you experience the ultimate victory. You experience God’s plan for your life in place of your own plans.

The amazing part of this experience is not knowing what lies ahead… sure this can be scary at times. But I try to turn that fear into excitement knowing that God always has the better plan.

When I look back at the past 46 years of my life, when I was in control, things didn’t go very well… In fact, I nearly destroyed everything.

At the center of it all, was my pride, believing everything was about ME ME ME. At the end of that road, what a waste!

Praise be to God, Jesus Christ intervened and Saved my life.

Consider King Solomon, the wisest man to ever walk the Earth, aside from Jesus Christ. He had all the money and power any man could ever want, he chased after all the things the world would provide, and indulged in all the pleasures. Yet at the end… this is how he felt…

Ecclesiastes 2
11 Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun.

17 So I hated life, because what is done under the sun was grievous to me, for all is vanity and a striving after wind.

Do you ever feel like your “striving for the wind”?

I know for many years I felt this same way. The hard truth, which sometimes I do not like to hear, is that we need to stop being selfish and realize there is something bigger out there, a higher purpose, a grander plan.

The good news is that as Christians we are part of that plan, the bad news is that few of us live a life that reflects that truth.

Please do not misunderstand me, fully surrendering to Christ is something I work on every day, not something I have “achieved”.

Think of this process like climbing a Mountain, in that we should continue striving towards that highest peak… to be “Christ-like”.

Much like a Mountain there is safety in numbers when making that ascent (fellowship) and you ALWAYS want to stay anchored along the way (the Word). If one of your brothers or sisters loses their footing, you are there to catch them and bring them safely back.

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What does it mean to fully surrender?, you may be asking.

I delved extensively into this topic in another post, What does it mean to surrender?. But for the sake of this article, to fully surrender means you let go and let God.

Stop trying to force your limitations on life… and spend time with the Lord daily so you can hear clearly what He is trying to tell you.

There are many days when I feel like I have given my all to God, and those days are the GREATEST days… a taste of victory that I can have every day if I choose.

However there are also days when I turn from God and go after things that I want and desire… without exception I always tend to regret those days.

Then I ask myself, why can’t I get this right? Why do I keep screwing up? WHY?!

You want to know what I discovered?

Those days that I regret are the days I chose to love something else in my life, more than I love God. Usually it is myself but it could also be something else. Only when I learn to love God EVERY day will I achieve this surrender I seek.

Would you like to share how you have surrendered or in what ways you try to surrender in your life? I would love to read your thoughts in the comments below.

Stay Strong & Stand Tall

Keith Mosher

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Being A Loving Leader Doesn’t Mean You Shouldn’t Hold Your Team Accountable

Holding your team accountable

If you are leading anything of significance then you will regularly run into many uncertainties, obstacles, and failures. And it is the way you deal with these situations, how you handle things going wrong, that truly defines your leadership.”

Those were the words of Paul Hughes in the post, “Your leadership is defined by how you handle things going wrong.”

Paul is someone who believes that leadership should be founded on love.

According to him, “When a culture has its foundation in love, then it is safe to fail. People start to come out of their comfort zones because they know that even if they make a mistake they are still going to be valued. Instead of being blamed, they know they will be supported and assisted to grow.”

What that means in a way is that a leader who loves his or her team will not take pleasure in dishing out blames to the team if failure occurs along the line; neither will he or she be judgemental.

Rather the leader focuses “…on discovering and truly understanding the cause of the failure, while at the same time being attuned to the feelings of the people involved.”

Paul calls that the Empathetic Discovery Approach. The principle requires that in any situation of failure, you the leader should build shared understanding of the root-cause of the problem through exploration conversations without demoralising any member of your team.

If you jump into conclusions without this empathetic exploration, you are more likely to get your team feeling hurt and getting blamed. And as you know, no one enjoys being blamed all the time.

I agreed with that position when I read it in the original post. But I was also left with the following questions:

Does this approach (of focusing on the root-cause of failure and having respect for the team members’ feelings) preclude a leader from holding people accountable for their actions?

Or is this another way of saying, “Ask what went wrong, not who was wrong?”

Leadership and accountability
Paul Hughes-LoveYourTeam

Here was Paul’s response to that question. (I have his permission to reproduce it here):

This approach doesn’t preclude a leader from holding people accountable for their actions. In fact, it is the opposite.

If you don’t hold people accountable then you aren’t really being a loving leader.

To give an analogy of how the approach I’m describing fits in with accountability, imagine the situation when someone is speeding in their car and a police officer pulls them over.

There is a consequence for exceeding the speed limit, which is getting fined. It is the police officer’s duty to issue that fine.

But the police officer has a decision to make about how they are going to perceive the speeding driver.

One approach is to make an assumption that the driver doesn’t care about the road laws, and then to look down on the driver for this lack of care.

Another approach is to hold back from jumping to conclusions or forming a judgement.

I guarantee that the driver will know the difference, even if the police officer did not say anything. They would sense in a lot of subtle ways whether the officer was holding that judgement or not.

Now, the officer could just issue the fine and walk away. And there is nothing wrong with that.

But think about the possibilities of approaching the situation from a standpoint of unconditional love.

The police officer might want to do the best they can to help make the chance of speeding lower in future, to protect people from preventable accidents. In his case, the loving officer would be navigating the table in my article.

The system first. What if it turns out that the speed signs had fallen down and it was impossible for drivers to know the speed limit.

If this turned out to be the case, the officer would want to arrange for the signs to be fixed to help all drivers.

But let’s say the speed signs were fine. What caused the driver to be speeding?

May be they were stressed out with many different things, and weren’t concentrating while driving.

The loving officer could listen and empathise with this, while at the same time still giving the person the fine. And who knows, maybe just taking the time to listen and to offer an encouraging word letting the person know there is hope amidst their many problems, ends up being a moment that really changes that person.

And then maybe that person is able to sort out some challenges they have that help them in many ways, only one of which is not getting distracted while driving and causing them to speed.

How much better of an outcome is this than just the person stopping speeding out of fear that they’ll get another ticket?

Or let’s say it turns out that the driver really doesn’t care and is disrespectful to the officer. At that point the officer obviously still gives them the fine, which is the consequence of their behaviour. But the officer still has a choice whether to love the person.

The unloving path is to hold the innate worth of the person lower because of the attitude they expressed. Following that path, what is the chance of this interaction actually helping that person?

It’s most likely going to re-enforce the poor attitude they have.

But on the other hand, what if the officer was loving? In this case they would not diminish the worth of the person. They would feel sorry for person, knowing the expressed attitude will lead to pain for them and others.

They would look the person in the eye, and out of genuine love say something like, “I really don’t want to see you get hurt or others get hurt. I need to give you this fine today because you have broken the law and done something dangerous. But I truly hope you value yourself as much as I value you, and stop speeding”.

Now the person may snarl and dismiss the comment. But you never know what kind of seed that moment of genuine unconditional love will plant.

The authenticity of that interaction could play some small part in really helping that person change. And even if that is only the remotest of possibilities, then it is worth it.

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What do you think?

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Don’t Use God As An Excuse For Laziness

Ministers and secular jobs

There is an error that is gradually becoming endemic in our days.

I have seen young energetic men become lazy, laid-back, lethargic and beggarly all in the guise of pursuing God or working for God (Ministry).

Those that are married lean on their wives’ income as sole income and not complementary income to support what they bring.

The ones that are not married seek ladies with steady flow of income to hook up to thereby abusing God’s order.

Some others want their wives to stop working and take care of their children without showing them practically how they intend to provide for their homes.

This laziness has led many preachers to sell their soul by engaging in many unspeakable things to make endsmeet. They are deluded by a voice supposedly from God telling them not to work.

My concern is simple; if God tells you not to work, be sure God’s provision will always be ahead of your needs.

Paul in his missionary journey worked with his hands when there was no provision. And where there was provision, he devoted the entire time in preaching the word of God.

My heart reaches out to women that are saddled with so much burden to ensure their family have the basic needs (food, shelter, clothing and basic-education).

With all these burden, many ‘MOGs’ [Men Of God] expect their wives to perform their nuptial duties at night as and when due. Failure to do so due to fatigue has been used as an excuse for extra-marital affairs.

Let us grow up and revert to the divine order where husbands provide for their homes and wives support.

Full-time ministry is to do the work of God fully with your heart, might and strength and that is also the first commandment. This is God’s minimum requirement for all Believers.

It doesn’t hinder any Man of God from working with their hands pending when their congregation is financially solvent enough to accommodate their financial burdens.

Get this fact straight, dust your certificate, get a skill and start working.

Your heart is with God even at work. Become productive, unburden your wives and lean solely on God.

Shalom!

Jude Agbontaen


Jude recently posted this article on his Facebook page. I obtained his permission to share it with you here on this blog.

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Question: Should young gospel ministers do other jobs to earn a living? What is your view?

A Man of God Should Bear Good Fruits

The imperatives of bearing good fruit

A man of God will bear good fruits. He is not a man of God if he doesn’t!

In my Nigeria where I live, just like in many places around the world, I have realised that many people are quick to be called “men of God.” But the question is, “are all of them truly men of God?”

What I have also come to realise is that some of those so-called men of God hardly live up to that identity.

I am not saying this because I am judging them. But rather because, it can be seen that many of them are not conducting themselves in ways that bring glory to God.

If someone is a man of God, he should not say and do things that are attributes of men of satan.

How can you be a man of God and your lifestyle has no regard for the word of God?

  • A man of God should conduct himself in obedience to God.
  • A man called of God should seek to please God more than men.
  • A man of God should bear fruits that bring glory to God.

Otherwise, it gives room for avoidable doubts.

The sad truth is that many people who claim to be men of God are really not what they claim. And from such people, we should be wary.

Remember the warning Jesus handed us in Matthew chapter 7:

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.

Beware of fake men of God.

The above advice is as relevant today it was when it was given over two thousand years ago. It will be to your own peril to neglect it.

Many people who claim to be prophets are ravenous wolves in sheep clothing. But as Jesus hinted us, “we [will] know them by their fruits.”

A man of God will bear good fruits. He is not a man of God if he consistently bears bad fruits.

One source quoted the late American evangelist, Billy Graham to have said:

“A Man of God is one who depends on the Grace of God, preaches the Word of God, stays in the Will of God, fulfils the Purposes of God, respects the Servants of God, edifies the Family of God, is filled with the Spirit of God, devotes himself to the Ministry of God, loves the Word of God, and lives for the Kingdom of God!”

What’s your own idea of a man of God?

 

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne

Pornography: Setting Up Defences In Our Daily Lives And Taking Them Seriously

You are not alone!

Addiction to pornography is a real issue in the world, even amongst some Christians. So if you are one of those fighting the battle against this unwholesome habit, know that you are not alone in the struggle.

But do not lose sight of the fact there is a way out for you. I mean, do not give up on yourself, thinking you have lost the battle already.

No, you haven’t!

The good news is that you can be helped – just like some people have been helped and have overcome the addiction to pornography.

dangers of pornography viewing

The rest of this post is a contribution from one of my readers. In response to my post On Billy Graham’s famed scandal-free life, the author openly shares his struggles with lust and pornography as well as the ways to gain victory over them.

And because I didn’t want the gems in the contribution to be buried away or lost all-together in the comment section of my blog where it was first posted, I have obtained the commenter’s permission to share the full text of the comment here so that many more of my readers can benefit from it.

I have inserted appropriate headings to make navigation of the article easier. I believe you will benefit from reading it.


Hello Victor,

Yes, pornography and lust have been my greatest of struggles. I wish I could say one day Jesus delivered me from those desires but to this day I have to remain on guard at all times.

For your readers I would start with how harmful pornography is, as many people think it is just a normal part of daily life, and countless Christians regularly view it…

Gaining the victory

Victory (which I am hesitant to call it) comes from three things.

First you have to HEAL the wounds of your past that drive you to watch pornography (or any other sin). This healing came to me through Celebrate Recovery, a Christ-centered 12 step Program.

What drives sinful behaviours?

Our sinful behaviour is driven by SOMETHING and often times the source lies in our past. When we can learn to truly heal those wounds, we can begin to be free of the bondage.

How do we heal those wounds?

[Through] Forgiveness!

[Realise that God has forgiven us and we should accept that forgiveness. We should also forgive ourselves and others who have offended us.

Recommended: 6 Simple Reasons to Forgive Offences]

Second, we have to set up defences in our daily lives and take this seriously.

The enemy is roaming about like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. The enemy wants to kill us and everything we have worked towards the kingdom of God… So we NEED defences.

Keith - Stand tall for Christ
Keith Mosher – standtallforchrist.com

What are the defences we need against pornography?

1) Accountability partners. We need to have a team (2-3) of trusted people of the same sex we can speak to about our most intimate sinful thoughts. People that won’t judge us and will support us by holding us accountable.

These people should be fellow Christians and it helps if they struggle in the same areas… or better yet have victory in your area of struggle. YOUR spouse should never be on this team… they are usually the victims of our stupid behaviour.

2) Accountability software. Personally I use Covenant Eyes, which sends a weekly report of all my computer and device activity to my accountability team. It’s only $15/month… but is invaluable. There are a bunch of others out there as well.

3) Identify your triggers and defend against them. TAKE Extreme measures if necessary, this is your marriage, your family, your ministry even your life that is on the line!!

For six months I pulled the TV off the wall, and read more books, because there were too many triggers on TV of sexual imagery and I could never predict when they would show up.

I quit ALL social media and still haven’t gone back to any of them. I gave up my smart phone for over a year and bought a flip-phone with no pornography access.

The last thing I will mention, not last in importance, but FIRST… is we need to spend quality time with GOD every day… not as a to-do-list or a good christian checklist. But because God wants a relationship with us, and how do we have a relationship with anyone we never spend time with?

It is Jesus Christ alone that will eventually demolish any strongholds of sin in our lives… but we have to do our part and turn away from our sinful desires.

I am always available for support and questions if any of your readers need help overcoming pornography or lust in their lives. We are in this together, we need to stand shoulder to shoulder on this battlefield.

Stay Strong & Stand Tall.

Keith


Thank you so much Keith for this awesome contribution.

Dear reader, please feel free to make your own contribution to the discourse via the comment section. And if you have any questions, Keith – “a Christian writer and Apologist who spends his time defending the faith, encouraging other Christian believers and serving in his local church” – has offered to provide answers.

Feel free to download his new ebook Shattering the chains of sexual addition. You may also visit his blog, Stand Tall For Christ, for more helpful resources.

©Copyright 2018 | Victor Uyanwanne