That was the question someone asked on an open online social network forum I belong to. The question was asked about four years ago, but it still feels so fresh like today’s stuff. That’s why I’m revisiting it here.
What premarital sex is and why it’s wrong
Premarital sex has to do with people engaging in sexual activities before they are legally married. In other words, sex before marriage!
My perspective (which is Biblical too) is that sex is to be practised within the holy confines of marriage. Anything outside of that is devil’s idea.Tweet
“What’s wrong with sex before marriage?” you may ask.
Well, let me ask you back, “What’s wrong with opening a clinic and performing complicated surgeries before obtaining the medical licence to do so?”
You may say the analogies are not the same. But that’s your perspective.
My perspective (which is Biblical too) is that sex is to be practised within the holy confines of marriage. Anything outside of that is devil’s idea.
You may disagree with me over that but it will show two things: you don’t know God and you are not accountable to Him.
If you truly know God and you see yourself as accountable to Him, you will know of a fact that there is everything wrong with premarital sex.
I’m not judging you – just calling a spade a spade.
Let’s call a spade by name
Forget about the unwanted pregnancies or abortions that may result from it, the diseases one may contract through it, the broken trust and disappointments that may result from it, the guilt and the shame….Think of it as disobedience to God or as Joseph put it, a “great wickedness and sin against God” (See Genesis 39:9).
Did you see that? Premarital sex is sin against God. Nothing short of that.
“Everyone is doing it.” But that doesn’t make it right!
Read also: Adultery will cost you
Providing answers to the question
Perhaps the person that asked the question that formed the title of this post had come to that realisation that sex before marriage is not good; or may be she had not, I couldn’t tell for sure.
But one thing was sure: the person was looking for answers. And I felt compelled to put out my suggestions on that online forum. Those contributions of mine form the bulk of the text that I’m sharing below.
New year resolution on premarital sex
First and foremost, we would agree that it is good to make new year resolutions on matters that are of interest to us – like that lady tried to do with stopping sexual activities before marriage.
Whether the resolutions are kept or not is another kettle of fish all together. But what that poor lady failed to realise was that to be able to stop engaging in premarital coitus, it will take more than a simple resolution at the beginning of the year; it would require a more compelling reason.
Like I said to her, “Ordinary resolution is not enough. If the reason is not strong enough, you can’t keep the promise.”
Stronger reasons to consider
I don’t know about you, but what reason(s) would I consider strong enough for the lady to stop all sexual activities before marriage?
1. That she is now born again, so old things have passed away, including engaging in premarital sex;
2. She is now convinced that premarital sex is a sin against God, so she is stopping the practice because she doesn’t want to continue in sin and continue to displease God;
3. That she is now trusting in God to help her keep the promise of abstinence till she gets married, not relying on her strength or willpower alone;
4. That she is now ready to obey God by staying away from sex until she is married, even at the risk of loosing her current man if he refuses to respect her decision to abstain.
If she is not sure of any of the above, I doubt if she can keep the promise of her new year resolution of discontinuing that practice of engaging in sex before marriage.
What do you think?