As you may have noticed, those are not my words. They are God’s, as recorded in the Bible. You will read it directly yourself shortly.
God intended for a married couple (a male and a female) to be committed to each other in a lifelong loving relationship, reflecting God’s eternal love and commitment to us His people.Tweet
When you hate something, you have intense dislike for that thing. I guess that’s how God feels over some of the things we humans do.
For instance, the writer of the book of Proverbs (6:16-19) tells us about
Seven things God hates
- Haughty eyes (a proud look).
- A lying tongue.
- Hands that shed innocent blood.
- A heart that devises wicked schemes.
- Feet that are quick to rush into evil.
- A false witness who pours out lies.
- And a person who stirs up conflict in the community.
If God hates the above things, it means He has intense dislike for them and He is not pleased whenever we engage in any of them. But that doesn’t mean He would stop loving us.
God’s love for us is without end; We can be sure that even if we are not perfect, He still loves us anyways.
One more thing God hates
There is one more thing we are told that God hates as well:
And that is the focus of this post.
Divorce is “the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.” God says He hates it.
In Malachi 2:16(NLT), we read the following words:
For I hate divorce!” says the LORD, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty, ” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”
But why does God hate divorce?
In the preceding verse (15), we were given some hints on why God hates divorce. The prophet Malachi communicated that to us in rhetoric:
“Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.”
If you read verses 15 and 16 together, the picture comes out even better. Although the emphasis is on men who divorce their wives, the warning would equally be applied to wives who divorce their husbands.
In the days when Malachi wrote those words, the men were more likely to put away their wives than wives would their husbands. But in our day, it can go either ways.
In any case, the message is clear: God hates divorce.
Thinking of getting a divorce?
Having said that, I am also aware that divorce is common-placed in the world we live in today. But that doesn’t make it right, neither does it stop God from hating it.
If you are contemplating divorce, you may want to reconsider it. Before you think of divorce, think about your children.
No marriage is irredeemable, provided you are giving your best to make your marriage work.
And if your marriage is already broken and you are reading this, note that I do not mean to condemn you in any way. If I did, I would be playing God, which I’m not.
We are just talking about God’s perfect purpose for marriage: to be united as one till the end of their lives, because he hates divorce.
That is to say, God intended for a married couple (a male and a female) to be committed to each other in a lifelong loving relationship, reflecting God’s eternal love and commitment to us His people.
Is that an impossible task to achieve? I don’t think so!
You have read my thoughts. Share yours in the comment section.
©Copyright 2019 | Victor Uyanwanne
Other translations do not say “God hates divorce” Malachi 2:16 ESV “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her , says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” NIV – “16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”[a] says the Lord Almighty.
So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.” Thankfully divorce does not separate us from the Lord. Thankfully God is a merciful God full of grace and allows divorce. God even understands it, because He divorced Israel. Also all the proverbs you listed are translated the same across translations… God does in fact hate those things.
I read that Scripture in over 10 different versions of the Bible in writing this piece. They all said, “God hates divorce” or that “He hates putting away”. It’s basically the same thing.
Bear in mind that this post was not meant to give a knock to divorcees, rather it is meant to encourage couples to stay together rather than getting divorced.
Like you rightly observed, God’s mercies are upon up irrespective of our marital status. I thank you for reading and commenting.
Thanks for clarifying. From what I have read “God hates” is actually referring to “God hates violence” because any man that divorces his wife is committing violence against her. Also, in other translations like the NIV Malachi 2:16 reads, “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard and do not be unfaithful.
You are welcome. Glad to know you understood the point of the post.
You said it already Victor, divorce is common place now. I for one would love to marry and remain married till death do us part. My parents have been married for over 40 years, whilst it’s not been easy, they’ve stuck together. MY God help our infirmities!
Thanks for the contribution Jennifer. Congratulations to parents for sticking with each other that long.
Like you said, we know staying married against all odds is not an easy thing to do. But it is possible with the full commitment of all parties involved. And that’s God’s plan for our marriage, despite the fact that many have embraced divorce as the easy way out.
I like your resolve to stay married when you get married. I pray that God will bring you the right man. Remain blessed Jennifer.
Amen and amen Victor. Thanks for your insights