7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

I was recently invited to be part of the discussants in a church’s women’s end-of-year conference. But I sent them my apologies because I had another engagement billed for the date and time they chose.

However, the organisers requested that (since I could not be physically present at the event) I sent in my contribution in writing on Things Every Christian Woman Should Give Her Husband.  I obliged their request by sending them a written short note as I thought it out.

The feedback I got after the programme was that my note was a blessing to them in that meeting. So in this post, I have decided to share with you the same thoughts I shared with those church women in their conference. I hope you find something useful in it.

Like I said, I drafted the write-up for a predominantly women audience, but that does not mean that you should not read it if you are a man. So let’s go there…

7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

husband-wife relationship

1. Respect

A husband expects his wife to respect him in two ways:

  • By words – what she say to him and about about.
  • By action – how she treats him at home or outside the home.

2. Sex

  • A Christian wife should understand that intimacy and sex is very important to the husband, as this is a need only she can meet;
  • A wife should not deny the husband his right over her body.

3. Food

  • A wife should provide good food, timely and regularly for the husband/family;
  • A wife who doesn’t know how to cook good food should go and learn.

4. Appreciation

  • A husband expects the wife to appreciate him for providing for the family.
  • A woman should have an attitude of gratitude, not grumbling, not complaining.

5. Trust

  • A wife should show trust and confidence in the ability of the man to lead the home;
  • A wife should support her husband’s vision or project. She should not use her mouth to tear it down.

6. Peace

  • The man will never feel peaceful at home if the wife is always nagging.
  • If a wife fails to create a peaceful home, the husband will not feel happy returning home.

7. Neatness

  • A husband expects his wife to take good care of herself.
  • She should maintain good personal and family hygiene.

Remember what the Bible says:

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Prov. 14:1.


Thank you for reading my thoughts. Feel free to tell me what you think in the comment section.

©Copyright 2018|Victor Uyanwanne

13 thoughts on “7 Things Every Christian Woman Should Regularly Give Her Husband

  1. musingsalonglifesjourney Dec 10, 2018 / 8:49 pm

    Thank you Brother Victor! As a wife whose husband does not know the Lord yet, I often walk a fine line or feel like I’m walking on egg shells. I know I have not consistently done all the things you listed, but I strive toward them as a goal with the Spirit’s help. A good challenge for me! Oh, one study I read said it’s not easy for a husband to love his wife and it’s not natural for a wife to honor her husband, so that is why Apostle Paul pointed out those things in Ephesians, knowing we’d need the Lord’s help to accomplish them!

    Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner Dec 12, 2018 / 6:50 am

      You are most welcome. And thank you for the feedback.

      You said the post is a good challenge for you. That’s okay, but don’t let me put under any pressure trying to achieve all the goals on the list. I like the fact that you are depending on the Holy Spirit of God to help you. keep it up.

      As for your husband, I pray that He will come to know the Lord like you too. And may your life shine the light for him. Once again thank you for reading and commenting.

      Liked by 1 person

    • VictorsCorner Dec 8, 2018 / 5:20 pm

      Hello Kevin, I thought you wanted to say something. I ‘ll be glad to know what you think.

      Liked by 1 person

      • What Words May Come Dec 8, 2018 / 5:43 pm

        Actually, Victor, this is how my wife treats me, and the “Ahh…” was just the expression of my continued recognition. I guess, at least for us, the third time was a charm. I am a lucky, blessed man and husband, and I will never take that for granted. I enjoyed this read. Thank you for following up! My personal growth with God continues daily. Bless you and yours!

        Liked by 1 person

        • VictorsCorner Dec 8, 2018 / 11:20 pm

          I am happy for you Kevin. I commend your wife for treating you so well. God bless her abundantly.

          Good to know you enjoyed the read. Yes we are all growing in the Lord. And hank you so much for reading and commenting.

          Liked by 1 person

  2. Bruce Dec 8, 2018 / 11:23 am

    Hi Victor, anytime I run into a list like yours I am also mindful of the counter balance and consideration that must be in any loving relationship. While I agree with the summary Proverb I personally would have selected a different Scripture to provide that necessary and required counter balance. Ephesians 5:25-27 NIV comes to mind: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” I’m also mindful that even though Christ is our Lord, He deliberately washed their feet. Grace and blessings my friend.

    Liked by 3 people

    • VictorsCorner Dec 8, 2018 / 2:26 pm

      You are right Bruce. I totally agree with you on the point you made about ensuring a balance… However, this was a message to a women audience. Perhaps that’s why it may have appeared to be somewhat lob-sided.
      Now that the issue has been raised, I may have to do a rejoinder that will address the issue of what a Christian man should give to his wife in a loving relationship, as you rightly pointed out. To that effect the scripture you cited will come in handy. Once again, thank you for the feedback.

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.