“Should I Remove This Baby?” A Real Life Question From Someone Contemplating An Abortion

In a Nigerian online forum, I joined in an interesting conversation initiated by a young man who got a lady pregnant out of wedlock. He and his partner were contemplating having an abortion but had not made up their minds about it. The man decided to seek useful advice from members of the forum.

Hear him:

“I have an issue bugging me and I need some serious advice because I have been very indecisive so far.

There is a lady I’m seeing. She came to my place a few weeks ago and we had sex, first with condoms and later without condoms… A few weeks later, she called to say she is pregnant [although I gave her money to buy a popular contraceptive drug]…

At this moment, we are considering removing the baby. While I have been very indecisive, she has agreed to go with whatever decision I take and has spoken to a doctor who will do [the abortion].

However, I am unsure as of this moment if I want to go on with this because even though I am done with [schooling], I do not think I have gotten to that point where I can shoulder more responsibilities… And I really do not know who to turn to when I am unable to provide for the both of them.

What do you guys think? Do I go on with this or just let the baby be?”

There goes the big question! Now lets talk about the answers.


As expected, a number of people commented to advise the young man. The pieces of advice came in different shades and colours. But they can be distilled into two:

  • Those who said the guy should carry on with the abortion plan; and
  • Those who advised against having an abortion.

In this post, I’m interested in the latter group. The reason is simple: Long time readers of this blog will have noticed that I’m pro-life.

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Answering Questions Around Giving To Your Local Church

Questions about giving to your local church
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Without a doubt, there are people who have questions bothering on giving money to a local church. And as there are questions, there must be answers as well.

It is a fact of life that to get the right answers, you have to ask the right questions. And the quality of the answers you get depends on the quality of the people you ask.

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Lessons From Bill And Melinda Gates’ Divorce Announcement

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It is no longer news that Microsoft founder Bill Gates is divorcing Melinda Gates, his wife of 27 years. Perhaps what is news is the unfolding reason for their divorce and the lessons we can learn from it.

Although we don’t have all the intricate details, various media sources have made sure we are not left in limbo with respect to the possible reasons the Gates gave for their divorce announcement.

While publicly announcing that they would be getting divorced, the Gates stated that, “We no longer believe we can grow together as a couple in this next phase of our lives.”

The whole world is waiting for the full import of that statement. But it is not a joke when two billionaires who have lived together as husband and wife for twenty seven years decide to take the divorce option in settling their marital conflicts.

Bill had informed the world via his verified tweeter handle that, “After a great deal of thought and a lot of work on our relationship, we have made the decision to end our marriage.”

I bet the decision to end a marriage would not be made at an impulse. So I will agree with Gates without question that he had adequate time to talk think about the divorce before he decided to walk down that road.

We don’t have to dig too deep to realise that there are many lessons one can learn from the Bill and Melinda Gates divorce announcement.

A catchy divorce phrase in the mix

When couples get divorced, they usually cite different reasons for the decision. With the Gates, we can guess that it was note because of substance abuse, domestic violence or financial stress.

Infidelity? Neither of the couple made any such allegation. So why are they disolving their marriage after close to three decades of being married to each other?

As pointed out earlier, the partners informed the world that they have reached a point in their lives when they realise they no longer believe they could grow together as a couple in the next phase of their lives.

They had come along way together. Now they feel it’s time to go seek their separate marital fulfilments in other people. Does that suggest a possible remarriage for any of the two? Perhaps yes. But time will tell.

When celebrity couple divorce each other they can say it was due to irreconcilably differences. We have heard that too often not to be so acquainted with the phrase.

For Bill and Melinda Gates, a similar reason has been stated. It was Melinda who threw more light on the reason for the divorce when she stated in her divorce filing that her marriage to the world’s number four richest man alive is over because the marriage is “irreconcilably broken.”

At what point did the marriage become “irreconcilably broken”? No one knows for sure. All we hear in the public domain are mere conjectures not yet validated.

What “irreconcilably broken” actually means

I am not sure if the Gates have any belief in God. But one thing is clear to me: by saying their marriage is “irreconcilably broken,” they have left God out in the picture.

It seems the Gates have reached the point of no return in their decision to enter their marriage. So in a sense now, it’s too late to cry when the head is off.

But if you are experiencing any difficulties in your marriage now, don’t leave God out of the equation. And don’t throw in the towel.

A marriage may be broken but with God, no marriage can be “irreconcilably broken”. As believers in Christ, we are convinced that nothing is impossible with God to fix, including restoring broken marriages.

A broken marriage can be fixed. Even a dead marriage can be revived – if God gets involves. If you have done all you can, leave room for God to do all He would.

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It takes more than money to keep a marriage

There are many people who believe that if they had more money, they could sustain their marriages. But with the rich regularly getting divorce before our faces, it doesn’t take rocket science to understand that when it comes to preserving a marriage, money is not the ultimate saviour.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not underestimating the importance of adequate finances in marriage. What I’m saying is that if you trust only in money to salvage your marriage, you will be disappointed in the end.

On the other hand, if you think not having money can sustain your marriage, you are weird. (I can’t believe I said that, because it sounded so odd).

Even a long term marriage can crash

The Gates marriage crashed after 27 years of being together. One would think that having lasted that long as a couple and with all the billions at their disposal, divorce would not be an option for them. But see where they are today?

No matter how long you have been married to your spouse, please don’t take each other for granted. By all means cherish and protect what you have.

If any of you begins to engage in unwholesome behaviour, for example, infidelity, then you will get to realise that even a long-term marriage is not divorce-proof.

I’m not saying this to scare you. Far from from it. Rather you and your partner should demonstrate unalloyed commitment to your marriage to the extent that divorce is not an option for you irrespective of whatever happens.

Final thoughts

We can see from the experience of Bill and Melinda Gates that it takes more than a fat bank account to keep a marriage for life. This is one lesson that is so obvious for all to see.

Money is good, but a couple can still grow apart – even if they are as wealthy as the Gates. And when husband and wives begins to grow apart, they begin to rock the foundation of their marital edifice to the extent that it will lead to divorce if care is not taken.

Even a long-term marriage is not immune to divorce. Couples should be committed to each to other, be faithful to each and show genuine concern and care for each other so that the marriage can last forever as it should be.

3 People In The Bible That Didn’t See Death

Power over death
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Everyone human being alive will die some day. As they say, “Death is the end of all men on earth.” But is it?

In the Bible, we have some people that either didn’t see physical death or defeated it. While I can find two people who didn’t die and who were never buried on earth, there was only one person who died but conquered the power of death forever.

  • Enoch didn’t die but God took him.
  • Elijah didn’t see death but he was taken up by a heavenly chariot.
  • Jesus saw death but He conquered it.

Jesus’ case is a bit different from that of Enoch and Elijah in that unlike Jesus, they both didn’t see death at all. But Jesus ‘saw’ death and He overcame it, eternally.

Let me take on each of the mentioned characters a little deeper.

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One Book That Can Help You Understand The Purpose Of Your Life

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If you are someone that likes to read a lot, you will often stumble on a book that will impact your life in a way you will never forget. Someone may just recommend a book to you at the right time when you need it. Or, perhaps you don’t even know you need it until you begin to read through the pages of the book. But there will always a be a book or two that leaves them most imprints in our hearts.

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Jesus Resurrected For You – Here Is Why

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Jesus was born to die. But that’s just half of the story. The full story is that He rose from the grave with power on the third day and now He is alive forever.

The resurrection of Jesus is the the most powerful event in human history. It was so powerful, the whole powers of hell could not stop it.

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7 Simple Reasons You Should Really Admire Quiet People

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Quiet people are people who are quiet in their personality. And personality is “the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinctive character.” As simple as that may sound, it is better than the popular misconception that quiet people are shy people or introverts.

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6 Ridiculously Simple Tips To Help You Achieve More In 2021

How to have a sense of humour

Do you want to achieve more, live healthier and happier this year? If your answer is yes, then I have something you should be interested in.

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Two Things That Struck Me About Alexander The Great

What made Alexander great
Alexander the Great, source: Wikipedia

I was imbued with a sense of humility as I read the biography of Alexander The Great. His life on earth was not long but he achieved international fame.

You don’t have to be a good student of history to have heard anything about King Alexander. Though he lived several centuries ago, people in our days have not ceased making reference to him in their speeches and strategy meetings.

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2020: Don’t Term It A Bad Year

The main events of year 2020

The curtain will soon be drawn on what someone has called a treacherous year or what some other people have termed the worst year ever. But is it? I’m wondering what you think of that.

We all know the year 2020 has been a difficult year not just for you but for many people around the world.

Irrespective of whatever you’ve been through in 2020, would you term it a bad year?

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Christmas: The Birth of the Soon-coming King of the World

The meaning of Christmas.

Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ – the Saviour of the world. It is the coming of divinity to the Earth. And the birth of Jesus is also the birth of the soon-coming King of the world.

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Christmas: The Coming of Divinity to Earth

The incarnation of Jesus

At Christmas you should not only celebrate the birth of the Saviour, you should also celebrate the coming of Divinity to earth.

Why did I say so? Because that’s what the first coming of Jesus to the earth represents.

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Christmas: The Birth of the Saviour of the World

Christmas is about celebrating the birth of the Saviour of the world

Christmas is not just the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ, it is the celebration of the birth of the Saviour of the world. Therefore have it in mind that beyond all the fanfare that the special season of Christmas brings, Jesus was born to be the Saviour of the world.

We have Christmas because of Christ. Anyone who doesn’t see the ‘Christ’ in Christmas is spiritually blind.

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9 Great Lessons From The Man Who Commissioned Apostle Paul To Ministry

Lessons from the life of Ananias of Damascus
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Apostle Paul was a man of powerful impact in ministry. But do you know that it was an average man that commissioned him to full-time ministry? Who was that man, and what lessons can you learn from him and apply in your life today?

I believe there are life-changing lessons you can glean from the man who commissioned Apostle Paul to ministry. This is what I will show you in this post.

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The Man Who Knew Apostle Paul’s Calling Before Him

Ananias heals Paul's blindness

Apostle Paul’s divine calling was spectacular and the purpose of his calling was very clear. But do you know that before God revealed to Paul the purpose of his calling, He had already made it know to a man called Ananias?

Which of the Ananiases in The Bible am I referring to? I will tell you in a moment.

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3 Kinds of People Apostle Paul was Called to Minister to

The three set of people Apostle Paul was called to minister to.
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The Apostle Paul is widely acknowledged as the apostle called to minister to the Gentles. But do you know that in addition to the Gentiles, He was also called to minister to  two other specific groups of people?

How did I know that? Because Jesus said so in the book of Acts of the Apostles.

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On Apostle Paul’s Title, Authority and Command (And What You Can Learn From It)

The source of Apostle Paul's authority

It can be seen clearly from the records in the New Testament Bible that Apostle Paul was a man of no small title, authority and command. He was a lawyer, an Apostle, and so much more.

Although by his own admission, Paul was not an eloquent man, he was an erudite man when it comes to his writings. So it is not a mistake when he chooses some words to describe himself or any other person or matter.

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Thomas, A Humble But Inquisitive Disciple

Thomas, More thank a doubter
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Thomas, one of the twelve disciples of Jesus Christ, is widely labeled as the doubting disciple. But not many pay attention to the fact that he was humble and inquisitive at the same time.

So you can call him a humble questioner rather than the widely held unpalatable appellation, “the doubting Thomas.” You will see the reason in this post.

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Why Every Aspiring Writer Should Start A Blog

why you should start a blog.

If you are an aspiring writer, you should start a blog. Blogging offers you the easiest platform to showcase your writing talent at minimal or no cost at all.

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What Is Your Default Disposition?

What is your disposition?
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A Facebook friend of mine wrote the following words on her FB wall to mark her birthday: … Today more than ever, with deep retrospective consideration, gratitude fills my heart and so worship is what I bring. Praise has become my default disposition.

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Building Healthy Self-esteem: 3 Familiar Dispositions Hindering Your Progress (and the Counter-Measures)

Building healthy self-esteem is not a journey of just one day. It is something you should continue to work at so long as you are aware that your self-confidence is not at the right level.

But you have to examine yourself to be sure that you have not assumed some familiar dispositions that are hindering your progress.

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Consistency In Blogging: If You Abandon Your Blog, Your Blog Will Abandon You

When you abandon your blog

How consistent are you in your blogging journey? I have been blogging long enough to know that if you abandon your blog, your blog will also abandon you.

Realise that your inconsistency is a major setback to your success in blogging. I’m telling you that now in case you don’t know.

Let me put it in another way: You cannot create a memorable blog if you are inconsistent with it. You can be sure about that!

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5 Simple Ways to Honour Your Father on Fathers’ Day

Father's day

It’s that time of the year when we celebrate our fathers – on Fathers’ Day, every third Sunday in the Month of June.

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“I Can’t Breathe” Hasn’t Always Been A Negative Expression

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“I can’t breathe,” has now become the rallying chant for the Black Lives Matter massive protests in major cities around the world. It has also become the slogan being used against social injustices of diverse kinds.

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On Premarital Sex And  Steve Harvey’s 90-Day Rule

Steve Harvey on the set of Steve Harvey Show.
Steve Harvey

Have you ever heard of the so-called Steve Harvey’s 90-day rule with respect to the timing of sex in a dating relationship? Whether your answer is yes or no, join me as I examine that issue in this blog post.

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Ravi Zacharias, A Good Christian Soldier Goes Home

Ravi Zacharias' life, ministry and death

“Ravi Zacharias, who spent his life defending Christianity through books and lectures, has died. He was 74.”

That was how CNN reported the death of internationally renown Christian apologists, Dr Ravi Zacharias on 19 May, 2020.

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Two Things That Struck Me About Alexander The Great

What made Alexander great
Alexander the Great, source: Wikipedia

I was imbued with a sense of humility as I read the biography of Alexander The Great. His life on earth was not long but he achieved international fame.

You don’t have to be a good student of history to have heard anything about King Alexander. Though he lived several centuries ago, people in our days have not ceased making reference to him in their speeches and strategy meetings.

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Six Different Tests You Can Use When Making Decisions (According to Pastor Rick Warren)

How to make beneficial decisions

Every day you are presented with the opportunity to make certain decisions. Sometimes, you know what to do and sometimes you don’t.

Sometimes your decisions come out good and you are glad. But sometimes, your decisions bring you nothing but guilt and shame, of which you are sad.

How can you avoid the trap of making those decisions that will make you regret at the end of the day?

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Dealing With The Time Element Involved In God’s Promises For Our Lives

God's promises takes time -Faith and patience

When we talk about God’s promise for our lives, we refer to “a solemn pledge, [by God] to perform or grant a specified thing” based on His grace and faithfulness.

As children of God, we have various promises He has promised to perform in our lives. And as you already know, these promises do not take place automatically; a time element is usually involved.

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The Church Girl 1 – A Book Review

Books by Ufuomaee

Thanks to the covid 19 lockdown, I was finally able to have the needed free time to rummage through my bookshelf for some books I had always wanted to read but never had the sufficient time to do so.

One of such books was The Church Girl. I was delighted to still have the autographed copies, which I had erroneously assumed had been ‘borrowed’ off the shelf.

The texts in the following paragraphs are my humble attempt at reviewing the book.

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Covid 19 Pandemic: Beyond The Conspiracy Theories

Conspirarary theories around covid-19 pandemic.

The novel coronavirus pandemic also known as covid 19 is still ravaging various parts of the world. Although concerted efforts are being made to contain the pandemic, the global picture is still very gloomy.

For a disease as deadly as the coronavirus pandemic, it will make a lot of sense for us to figure out and be absolutely sure what caused it – for posterity sake.

But going by various reports monitored on social media, there is hardly a worldwide consensus as to the actual cause of the disease. As a result, several conspiracy theories exist…

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In His Resurrection – A Poem

In His birth
Divinity became enwrapped in humanity
For the salvation of mankind.

In His death
Divinity suffered in the hands of humanity
Paying the price for the salvation of mankind.

In His resurrection
Divinity had Him forever established
As the only Saviour of mankind.


©2020|Victor Uyanwanne

Are You Restrategising For The Life After Covid 19 Lockdown?

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Are you restrategising for the life after the covid 19 pandemic? How will your life change when the covid 19 lockdown is over? Or is it possible that it’s not going to change at all?

As you know, this lockdown is not going to continue forever. At some point in future (no matter how long that will take), the stay-at-home order will be lifted.

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Jesus Still Died And Resurrected – Covid 19 or Not

Benefits of the resurrection of Christ

Coronavirus lockdown or not, Jesus still died and resurrected. We shouldn’t stop talking about it, no matter the conditions we find ourselves.

A few days from now, Christiandom will be celebrating the Easter, an annual event to mark the death and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ.

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7 Broad Ways To Maximise Your Life During A Lockdown

How to use your time well during a lockdown

The city where you live or work may be on a lockdown but your life should not be on a shutdown. Even as much movement is restricted, there are things you can do within your home to maximise your life during the lockdown.

Due to the covid 19 pandemic movement of people around the world has been largely restricted. The slogan is now “stay at home”,  “stay safe,” or “work from home.”

However, not everyone is equipped with the facility to work from home. So apart from working, what else can you do to maximize your time at home in a period of lockdown?

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Covid 19 Pandemic: Can Prayer Save The Day?

Praying during a pandemic.

We often say in Christian circles that “prayer is the master key,” “there is nothing prayer cannot do,” “if there is a man to pray, there is a God to answer,” and so on and so forth.

All these statements underscore our strong belief in the efficacy of prayers in resolving difficult situations. And I am convinced that in our individual lives, we all have had instances where prayer saved the day for us in our moments of crisis.

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Covid 19 Lockdown: Maximising Your Personal Time And Curing Boredom

How to maximise your personal life

Has any good thing come out from covid-19 lockdown?

One good thing that has come out of the covid 19 lockdown around the world is the fact that most of us now have more personal time at our disposal than we have had in many years.

With the stay-at-home order by the government, we have slowed down significantly from our fast-paced daily lives to the one where our movement has been largely restricted.

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3 Innocuous Things About False Prophets You Should Be Wary Of

Dealing with false prophets.

For thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, ‘Do not let your [false] prophets who are among you and your diviners deceive you; pay no attention and attach no significance to the dreams which they dream or to yours,
Jeremiah 29:8 AMP

1. False prophets are always amongst you

Some one said, “if the devil would come as the devil I would know him and avoid him.” But you see, the devil is a master of disguise, so he would put on different forms to deceive you.

One of such forms is familiarity. He comes to you through things and people you are familiar with so that you will be caught off-guard.

The same thing can be said of false prophets. You can find them amongst people around you, people you already know and people that belong to the same group or church with you.

It would be a serious mistake to assume that there are no false prophets around you. Please take another look at God’s warning through Prophet Jeremiah:

“Do not let your [false] prophets who are among you and your diviners deceive you…” (emphasis mine).

Did you notice that the warning is against prophets who are amongst you, not the ones that are afar off?

Not strangers, but familiar people; those who present themselves as harmless, yet have hidden evil agenda.

Speaking along this line, Jesus echoed a warning to His disciples saying, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves” Matthew 7:15.

If a wolf comes as a wolf, you will see it and escape to safety. But if a wolf disguises as a sheep, you will not immediately take the requisite caution, thereby increasing the chances of your being caught unawares.

That’s the kind of danger you are exposed to with false prohets if you are not careful enough. Thankfully, you are not at their mercy.

As Jesus assures us, “You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act.”

Innocent things about a false prophet

2. False prophets want your attention

Do you have any idea of what it means to be an attention seeker? Think of someone who behaves in a certain way with a view to eliciting your attention or validation.

That’s what false prophets do; they put on shows to grab your attention.

But getting your attention is not an end in itself. What they really want is for you to believe in them as though they were true prophets.

As Jeremiah puts it, they want you to “attach some significance to their prophecies.” It is up to you whether or not to oblige them.

3. False prophets want you to attach some significance to their prophecies

Even though false prophets know in themselves that they are false and self-serving, they still want you to take them seriously.

Once they have your attention, they will want you to attach some significance to what they say. And that is where the danger really is.

But as prophet Jeremiah advises us, “pay no attention and attach no significance to the dreams which [false prophets] dream…”

In other words, when you see a false prophet, pay no attention to him or her and do not attach any significance to whatever he or she has to say.

The above advice is worth repeating: Pay no attention to a false prophet and attach no significance to his or her words. We will take a deeper look at that in the next post.


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Coronavirus Pandemic: In Times Like This

You and you faith during a pandemic.

It is no longer news that coronavirus has become a global pandemic. And it has significantly impacted the way we do things at home, at work, at play and even at our worship places.

Owing to this ravaging disease, many deaths have been reported across the world. And the number is increasing daily.

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Coronavirus : Reshaping The Way We Do Things

Spread rate of Corona virus
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The coronavirus was reported to have broken out in Wuhan, China in 2019. But nothing much changed around the world because of it untill this year.

From that Chinese city where the virus started, it has spread to many places around the world. From Italy to Germany, UK, US, France, etc it has spread in alarming proportions.

Even my beloved country Nigeria is not spared. From just one case a month ago, a total of 50 has now been officially recorded.

If that is not alarming, the global statistics is. With over 382,000 cases and over 16,500 deaths so far around the world, the picture is really very bad.

Thankfully, over 102,500 recoveries have been reported. But the scourge has not been fully tamed.

Corona virus - global statistics
Source: worldometer.info

The result of all this is that there is fear in the land. Movements have been restricted, lifestyles altered in immense proportions, reshaping the way we do things.

In effect, life is no longer the same. Everything as we used to know it has changed, sadly not for the better yet.

Apart from the loss of lives, world economy has taken the worse hit. Most stock markets have lost a huge chunk of their value in the last few weeks.

Crude oil price is at its lowest ebb in the last five years. This is not good for Nigeria my country that depends on the sale of crude oil for 90 percent of her annual foreign exchange earnings.

Beyond that, we have seen the government take some radical decisions. Our international borders have now been shut: no going out and no coming in.

Airlines are grounded. Interstate travels also restricted.

Hand washing with soap and water or health sanitizer is one culture everyone is practicing.

People are afraid to mingle. This is the era of social distancing. For some people it is self-isolation.

The year of 2020 will surely go down in history as the year of social distancing. Everyone is trying to stay safe from Corona virus.

Federal and State government workers have been ordered to stay at home to prevent further spread of the virus. “Don’t worry, your salaries will still paid in full” assured the government.

Even the private sector employers are not left out. Many of them have ordered their staff to work from home until further notice.

Except for a few instances, working from home has not been part of our experience in this part of the world. But now the by-word has become, if you must, work from home, stay at home and stay safe.

As I am typing this I am at home, with a view to staying safe from the pandemic. Thanks to our employer, some of us don’t have to go to work this week. Yet our salaries will be paid in full.

By implication, while it is already given that most companies incomes for the year might take a deep due to coronavirus pandemic, their costs will certainly rise. It is hoped the situation doesn’t get worse.

Coronavirus scare has also affected the way we worship. By Government order, no church or mosque can gather 20 people in one place in the name of worship.

For most mega churches here, services have always been streamed online but we still preferred to attend physical fellowship.

All that has now changed. More of my fellow citizens have bought into the idea of attending online church services.

Schools around the nation have since been shut down. Scheduled weddings have been postponed. Sports, entertainment and other social events have been put on hold.

Let me stop here for now. The point has already been made. Coronavirus pandemic has reshaped the way we do things. How long this forced lifestyle change will last is something no one is yet sure of.

Global consequences of Corona virus.

In what way has the coronavirus scare reshaped your life?

How Correct Is The Claim That Atheism Is Not A Choice?

When I published The problems of atheists finally figured out on this blog, it generated many comments from my readers, especially from the so-called atheists.

As I responded to the comments one after another, I saw one that picked my interest: Atheism is not a choice. This post is a further attempt of mine to address that notion.

Is the claim that atheism is not a choice correct? I believe it is not.

In my own opinion, atheism is definitely a choice. I will like to hear what you think, but I have my own reasons for saying so.

First and foremost, believing that God exists is a choice some of us had to make. If the act of believing that God exists is a choice, the act of not believing is also a choice – whether active or passive.

Remember the saying, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.” Either way, there is a failing.

At some point, Jesus made a remarkable statement that adds credence to what we are saying here:

Anyone who isn’t with me opposes me, and anyone who isn’t working with me is actually working against me” Matthew 12:30.

You see, it’s either you have declared for Jesus or you have declared against Him.

Simply put, there is no middle ground; it’s either you have chosen to be with Jesus or you have chosen not to be with Him.

And if you have chosen not to be with Him, it means you have chosen to be against Him. Either way there is a choice and that choice is yours.

That is to say, if you believe God exists, it’s a choice you have made. If you believe He doesn’t exist, it’s also a choice you have made.

In conclusion, it is incorrect to claim that atheism is not a choice. This is because, we are all responsible for our individual choices.

What we believe is our choice, what we don’t believe is our choice.

We believe God exists, it’s our choice. We believe He doesn’t exist, it’s our choice.

So when next you hear someone say, “atheism is not a choice,” please recognise that statement for what is: a deception.


Do you agree that atheism is a choice?

3 Simple Ways To Start Empowering The Writer In You

In our previous post, we established the fact that there is a writer in you. We also added that you should be intentional about doing things that will empower that writer in you.

There are things you can begin to do right now to begin empowering the writer in you. If you are interested in finding out what they are, today is your lucky day because that’s why I’m writing this post.

Read on…

3 things you can do to start empowering the writer in you

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1. Begin to read more books than you have ever done before

If your dream of becoming a writer means anything worthwhile to you, then you have to be a reader first. It is true that writers write, but it is also true that writers read a lot.

If you cannot bring yourself to the discipline of reading, you cannot subject yourself to the discipline of writing. Apart from the vast information you gain from reading, it also helps you learn the style of writing from other writers.

Read voraciously. Read wide. Don’t be intimidated by the block of texts you come across on the pages of books or on posts online.

Writing comes from reading, and reading is the finest teacher of how to write” –Annie Proulx

Read regularly every day. Don’t go to bed any day without having read something. Yes, it is that serious!

When I was studying accounting at the undergraduate level, my mantra was, “any day without studying accounting is no day.” (Thanks to a friend who gave me that idea). With that, I was able to motivate myself to study the course until I got the proper handle on it.

You may as well adopt that philosophy, so that no day will pass without you reading something. After all, you want to empower the writer in you.

2. Begin to train on the art of writing

One of the side benefits of reading is that you get to see firsthand how other writers present their works and to learn from them.

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To begin empowering the writer in you, apart from committing yourself to continuous reading, another thing you should do is to get trained on the art of writing.

I am not suggesting that you should go back to school for a degree in communication arts. Well if you are still very young, that might not be a bad option. But I want to believe you are eager to birth your writing career so you don’t want to waste more time!

If that is so, you can go through the quicker route. Take condensed trainings on writing. Register and attend writing workshops – both terrestrial and online.

Seek opportunities to interact with writers you admire and learn from them. After all, you want to empower the writer in you.

If learning via video is your thing, do so by any means. Thanks to Youtube, you can find numerous materials on writing to watch and learn from.

3. Start writing now

After all said and done, what is the next practical thing to start doing? You guessed right! Start writing!

If you read all the books there are to read and you attend all writing workshops possible, and you don’t get down to actually start writing, you haven’t helped yourself enough and you will still be very far from achieving your goal of becoming a writer.

Start putting pen to paper and begin to write or get your hands on your computer keyboard and start punching away. You know the computer is an obedient tool. It will record whatever you type in, and it’s not going to tell you to stop writing. So why the waste of time?

If you want to become a writer, you must start writing something. Write stories (real or imagined). One quick way to achieve that is to start blogging. So start a personal blog where you can practice writing for others to read.

Write poems, write anything that comes to your mind. Write about your experiences. Be creative, be imaginative. Just write.

At this point don’t worry about whether someone will like your write-up or not. Just write! The only book that may not be read is the one you fail to write.

In conclusion,

Don’t wait until you have become a writer to start writing. It doesn’t work that way! You can’t put the cart before the horse and expect to go anywhere.

Your dream of becoming a writer is achievable! While you wait for that to come through, start doing what you can do now: start empowering the writer in you. Read more, learn more and write more. You will get there!


What else are doing to empower the writer in you?

Empowering The Writer In You

Bring out the writer in you

There is a writer in you. And the things you do will empower or disempower him or her.

Needless to say, if you truly want to become a writer, you should be doing things that empower the writer in you. And you should be intentional in doing so.

Many people want to become writers (which is good), but only a few will actualise that dream in their lifetime.

Why?

Presumably because good writing is not an easy task to accomplish. And because it’s not that easy, many people get discouraged along the way; they give up on their dream of becoming a writer. And that’s sad!

That should not be your own story. I mean, you should not give up on your writing dream.

Giving up a dream may lead to regrets.

For the sake of emphasis, let me say it again: the fact that writing is not a cup of tea should not discourage you from pursuing your writing goals. There is no worthwhile goal in life that is not difficult to achieve.

You of all people should know that to accomplish anything great in life, you have to work hard and work smart at it. Writing is not different from that.

Benjamin Franklin's quote on writing

I know you don’t mind doing something great that is worth writing about. But don’t you also want to write something that is worth reading? I bet you do because I know you can!

I am convinced there is a writer in you. And I want to encourage you to do all you can to reveal him or her to the world.

In other words, you can actualise your dream of becoming a writer. Start preparing your mindset now.

First you have to believe that it is achievable. Then focus on it. Pursue it.

Apply yourself to writing. Be committed to it. You will achieve it sooner than you think.

Whether you like it or not, let me say it again: there is a writer inside everyone of us. Don’t let him or her die.

Start doing things that empower that writer in you. Soonest, your dream of becoming a writer will become an awesome reality.

In the next post, I will show you three simple things you can begin to do right now to start empowering the writer in you.


Do you believe there is a writer in you?

300 Posts On This Blog And Still Counting

Blogging milestone

If you are reading this now, it means you are reading the 300th post here on Victors’ Corner. And I feel really grateful for how far I have come writing the blog.

I hope you will appreciate what I mean when I say the blog was started without much serious consideration. It was just a simple step I took to share my thoughts and views to the world…

On the journey to the 300th post, I’ve grown and I’m still growing. I have had my highs and lows, a fair share of negative criticisms and thankfully some positive feedback. So now there is no looking back anymore.

What I started five years ago like a child’s play has now metamorphosed into something bigger and far significant than I had anticipated. And I’m loving the experience all together.

As at the time I published my first post, I had no idea that as many people as are reading my blog presently would be interested in whatever I had to share to the world. The only thing I was sure of was that I had something to share…

Secondly, I thought that I had found an outlet to not only share my thoughts with the world but also to hone by writing skills. And to a good extent, I am achieving those objectives already.

My sincere appreciation goes to everyone of my followers and the over forty thousand readers who have spent their valuable time reading my blog and also to all those who thought it wise to give a feedback in forms of likes for my posts and comments on the blog.

I thank you all immensely for always reading and commenting.

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Having come this far, I don’t intend to give up now or anytime soon; I’m promising you that I’m not going to stop writing, neither will I quit on the blogging mission. And I would count on you to continue reading and sending in as much feedback as possible.

As we begin a new journey towards the next 300 posts, let’s do it together. And also, feel free to invite your friends and family along.

Give or take, there will be something for everyone who stops by on the blog. More than ever before, my blogging mission has been strengthened and enlarged for the benefits of you my readers.

It doesn’t matter if you agree with all my views or not, your perspective is very important to me. Just let me what you think in the comment section. As always, I promise to reply all your comments.

Thank you for being there!

How Do You Spell Valentine?

What Valentine's Day means
What does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

Saint Valentine’s Day is a day set aside to celebrate love. So they say, but I have observed that too much emphasis is usually placed on romantic love at the expense of love as a virtue.

I would like to ask you: how do you spell Valentine? In other words, what does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

Some people say it’s Lovers’ Day. So if you are not married or not in a romantic relationship, you shouldn’t celebrate it?

Well, your answer to that question depends on what you believe. As you know your beliefs affect the things you do and how you do them.

If you are a believer in Christ like me, you know the word of God should guide you – whatever do. For instance, if you are not married and you are open to observing the Valentine’s Day celebration, you should know that sex should not be on the table as part of the activities to mark the day.

Don’t you know the reason? Sex is permissible by God only within the confines of marriage. So if you are not married yet, you have no business with sex – whether it is Valentine’s Day or not.

As unpopular as that opinion may sound today, it is part of what is required of us as followers of Jesus Christ. You are in disobedience if you think otherwise.

Who should be your Valentine?

I’m not suggesting you should or should not celebrate the Saint Valentine’s Day. The choice is entirely up to you. But if your desire is to please God with your life, you will agree with me that you will not celebrate with reckless abandon.

Until recently, I didn’t reckon with Saint Valentine’s Day celebration. The reason was that it was modelled around me in a way that went contrary to my ‘moral’ upbringing (forgive me if that sounds like pride).

While growing up, Valentine’s Day was about hooking up with a boy/girl friend, attending parties and even having sex. But none of those activities appealed to some of us young believers in Christ, so we thought Saint Valentine’s Day was not worth celebrating.

But then later in life, I met my wife and discovered that unlike me, she cared a little about Valentine’s Day; not in any odious way, but in a way of sharing thoughts of love with people that mattered to you, giving them gifts or being with them. So I keyed in a bit.

Since then every Valentine’s Day I get her a little gift to ‘show’ my thought of love towards her, without any elaborate celebrations. And that’s all there is for me.

I remember there was a year all I could get her was a strand of rose I bought off the shelf in a supermarket. The most important thing was that I showed her I cared (and I still do).

You may say I could do better than that. Yes, you are probably right, but please let’s leave that discussion for another day.

May be your experience is different from mine, that’s fine! That’s why I’m writing this post: to hear from you what Valentine’s Day means to you.

I will like to conclude this way: If they say Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love, then we should not make it all about romance and sex. It should be about love in the truest sense of it: loving God with all your heart and loving your neighbour as yourselves.